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New to this - 9/11/2014 11:24:21 AM   
Switchman46


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Status: offline 		Hello,

I am fairly new to the lifestyle. I have tried reaching out to women but have not been having much luck. I do not know if it is my approach. I message them in a polite way as I would any other woman I would be interested in getting to know but I have had no luck connecting. Any advice would be great.
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RE: New to this - 9/11/2014 1:23:26 PM   
ExiledTyrant


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Status: offline 		Okay, you're being ignored because your profile is a floppy cock. Women want, a metaphoric, raging hard on that's dripping with confidence. I think it would be in your best interest to go read "ask a switch" and "ask a submissive" a lot. There are pages and pages and if you dig deep enough you will find stuff that resonates with you.

I hate to be a prick and all.... Shit, I hate lying more... So, I'm being a prick, a sincere one at that, when I say sub may suit you better. A strong intelligent Master/Mistress will polish you into a jewel in and out of kink. Yep, you'll surrender to their will, but your life will reach and exceed it's potential.

Jus sayin

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RE: New to this - 9/11/2014 4:32:35 PM   
Switchman46


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Status: offline 		Thank you. I do not think you are being a prick. I think you are being honest and I appreciate it. Like I said I am new to this. I took a personality test over at Fet Life and that was where I discovered I was a switch but with submissive tendencies.

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RE: New to this - 9/11/2014 4:38:12 PM   
ExiledTyrant


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Status: offline 		I suspect you're a sexually aggressive submissive, which would really work in your favor.

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RE: New to this - 9/11/2014 5:12:03 PM   
Switchman46


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Status: offline 		You have me pegged.

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RE: New to this - 9/11/2014 5:20:51 PM   
ExiledTyrant


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From: Exiled
Status: offline 		Maybe we can coax one of our ladies up here.

Until then, allow me to explain. Our ladies have no interest in do-me slaves. They are looking for obedience and service. Usually that comes attached to a guy that's too timid to fuck the slut right out of her. That's where sexual aggression pays off. Sex is distant at the beginning of a relationship with your M, she'll shape you into all you need to be for yourself and her.

With some luck, they'll come along and do a much better job than me.

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Semper fidelis (which sometimes feels like a burden)

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RE: New to this - 9/11/2014 6:01:47 PM   
FieryOpal


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Switchman46

You have me pegged.

What he said:

quote:

ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

I suspect you're a sexually aggressive submissive, which would really work in your favor.

Where'd you get that from? I'm not spotting this, but I can't see OP's Interest List since I'm logged out. Straight lifestyle Dommes tend to prefer a sexually aggressive-assertive sub, and they're relatively scarce.

Switchman, do include this in your profile: "I took a personality test over at Fet Life and that was where I discovered I was a switch but with submissive tendencies." Or words to that effect. IMO and from personal experience, the reason why most Dommes are not interested in male switches is because a) they're usually bottoms, not subs, and b) if they're willing to sub, they act like "bratty subs" and I don't know a single Dominant who wants a bratty sub on her/his hands who feels no need to respect D/s protocol dynamics or who fails to comprehend how D/s differs from kinky BDSM.

In addition, there aren't many female S/switches who are 1) more Top than bottom, and 2) totally straight, not bi-curious/not hetero-flexible or not bisexual. I just wanted you to be aware that chances are she will seek out other play partner(s), if you have an issue with this.

You haven't indicated that you want a submissive woman in your profile, but you should be apprised that femsubs want Doms, not male S/switches. They don't trust them either, so you might want to take this into consideration along with the above.

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RE: New to this - 9/11/2014 6:26:28 PM   
ExiledTyrant


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Status: offline 		I read into it, babe. He had more to his profile earlier, and the algorithm of verbiage indicated sexually aggressive rather than switchy.

I've been less right before (shrugs)

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RE: New to this - 9/11/2014 6:41:14 PM   
FieryOpal


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

I read into it, babe. He had more to his profile earlier, and the algorithm of verbiage indicated sexually aggressive rather than switchy.

I've been less right before (shrugs)

Well, OP was quick to agree with your assessment, so you still got *it* and your bad self can keep on flaunting *it*.
Btw Switchman, welcome to the Message Boards. Glad you made it out of the shark tank on the other (profile) side over to this (forum) side.

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RE: New to this - 9/11/2014 6:45:06 PM   
ExiledTyrant


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Status: offline 		Hopefully we just shaved off a few years of confusion and unhappiness ;)

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To lead, first follow: Aurelius, Epictetus, Descartes, Sun Tzu, to name a few.

Semper fidelis (which sometimes feels like a burden)

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