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inkedone -> RE: Marks the day after? (12/21/2014 8:43:38 AM)

Marks are like little reminders keeping Sir in constant thought, and renewed self. Never thought of myself as a maso as well, but at times it is a cozy welcoming friend when great release comes from pain. Mentally more so in my case as to giving up control to Sir and being obedient is the Chi, the right stuff. The process of having Sir stimulate the mind, body, and reach in to the soul can be like an Awakening. The mind is like a fault full of little strong boxes each containing an aspect of a current self. Sometimes I do not necessarily like pain as such, but more the aspect of giving up control to be truly ALIVE. Marks are the lovely reminders and constant reminders that bring great joy.

As far as being Sir's chew toy per say, there is a humiliation aspect or rather being put in my place mentally when touching a soar ear reminds me of Sir biting it until I was kneeling with proper posture as He wished. That little soreness reminds me to do better.

Something to grin about being a chew toy at times. Seeing bite marks under sore marked "tatas" after tit torture play can bring a cat like grin... just saying.




littleasspet -> RE: Marks the day after? (1/15/2015 9:39:13 PM)

I am fairly new to bdsm and after a paddling or a flogging. Bruises dark and purple show up straight away. I dont like them, at all. They must be a hard limit for me. Or maybe my mindset is different to everyone else here. I feel like a failure having them.



DarkSteven -> RE: Marks the day after? (1/15/2015 10:51:19 PM)


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ORIGINAL: littleasspet

I am fairly new to bdsm and after a paddling or a flogging. Bruises dark and purple show up straight away. I dont like them, at all. They must be a hard limit for me. Or maybe my mindset is different to everyone else here. I feel like a failure having them.


Why? It's not like you did anything bad.

Enjoy your bruises while they last. After a few more paddlings and floggings, you'll notice that you bruise less and less.



DesFIP -> RE: Marks the day after? (1/16/2015 3:28:41 PM)

However, if a flogging is producing these very deep bruises that take a while to heal, I wonder if you wouldn't benefit from a daily multivitamin. I wonder if you're getting enough vitamin K.

And if you don't want them, talk to your partner about using more sensation play instead of heavy impact play. You're allowed to dislike them.

The Man objects to seeing heavy marks on me. His choice.



LiveSpark -> RE: Marks the day after? (1/16/2015 4:41:08 PM)


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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: littleasspet

I am fairly new to bdsm and after a paddling or a flogging. Bruises dark and purple show up straight away. I dont like them, at all. They must be a hard limit for me. Or maybe my mindset is different to everyone else here. I feel like a failure having them.


Why? It's not like you did anything bad.

Enjoy your bruises while they last. After a few more paddlings and floggings, you'll notice that you bruise less and less.


Gotta agree with Stevie here. Enjoy your bruises they are a memento of the fun you had the night before. They are NOT failure on your part just a natural reaction of your body to being flogged.



Arturas -> RE: Marks the day after? (1/16/2015 11:16:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: littleasspet

I am fairly new to bdsm and after a paddling or a flogging. Bruises dark and purple show up straight away. I dont like them, at all. They must be a hard limit for me. Or maybe my mindset is different to everyone else here. I feel like a failure having them.


I was amazed to learn some women can be so proud of their marks, especially the next morning after they turn blue with a greenish tinge, you know. I absolutely walked in on Star admiring her night after marks in the master bath mirror, seriously. That little "scene" inspired this journal entry that might capture that "ah ha" moment when men realize how much their women love something they call ...

“Marks”, she said with great feeling.

“Marks”, I said without very much feeling at all. “Why do I want to mark up your pretty ass? I like it the way it is; besides, you have a lovely tramp stamp that I’m just totally in love with”.

I turned back to what I was doing thinking we had moved on…I was wrong, yet again.

“See Master”, she went on holding up a picture of her best friend.

My attention was unerringly drawn to a photo of an exquisite blonde woman, she was bent over a wrought iron bed and dressed in nothing but cherry red high heels and a soft bushed silver metal collar, but I did notice after a very long moment that she was hog tied hands to ankle by someone who knew exactly what they were doing (for once!).

But... what really drew my attention were the soft red and purple marks expertly placed on her lovely ass, one not quite as lovely as my girl’s you most assuredly must very clearly understand without question.

Meanwhile, back in the real world, Star knew she had me…yet again.

“Master”, she whispered through my lust induced haze. “This is what I want, this is what I need!

“Marks”, she said with great feeling.

“Marks”, I said with great feeling.



ThirdWheelWanted -> RE: Marks the day after? (1/16/2015 11:30:12 PM)

You can also invest in something called Arnica gel. I'm usually one who scoffs at homeopathic remedies, but I've been amazed at how well that stuff works.



sheisreeds -> RE: Marks the day after? (1/17/2015 9:57:52 AM)


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ORIGINAL: littleasspet

I am fairly new to bdsm and after a paddling or a flogging. Bruises dark and purple show up straight away. I dont like them, at all. They must be a hard limit for me. Or maybe my mindset is different to everyone else here. I feel like a failure having them.


I dealt with some shame around heavy amounts of marking early on. For me it came out of being a recovered self injurer, it was also me working out the lasting control of encounters.

What really matters is whether or not you enjoy the act of what you are doing. If you enjoy being a masochist, then this is something to work through. If you don't enjoy being a masochist, but still enjoy other aspects of BDSM, there are plenty of places for that.

These days beyond loving marks, and bruises that last for months, I enjoy permanent scars. The me from many years ago would have thought me today was crazy.



snowkoneko -> RE: Marks the day after? (1/18/2015 4:56:18 PM)

I tend to bruise easily. I come home from work with new bruises I don't know how I got them.

I do like to see marks the day after we play. It's a reminder of our time together and I love it.



smileforme50 -> RE: Marks the day after? (1/19/2015 1:47:13 PM)


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ORIGINAL: smileforme50

I've never gone to the point of having marks that lasted more than a few hours, but I would enjoy having marks that lasted longer....provided they were able to be covered and not visible to anyone else.



Addendum to this.....

So.....I spent this past weekend with someone and we played a couple of times. On Sunday morning, he used "vampire gloves" on me....front of my legs and my ass cheeks. I'm not into a lot of pain, and these things did hurt...I think he was going harder than he needed to. But with these gloves, he left a lot of very red scratch marks on my ass and my legs. I can STILL feel them.

I really liked them an hour or so after we finished....but now that it's been more than 24 hours, to see all these long red scratch marks on my ass is a bit unnerving and I'm actually hoping that they fade quickly.



mySacrifice -> RE: Marks the day after? (1/19/2015 7:19:15 PM)

I LOOOOVE having marks left on me, but it can be embarrassing. I once had to go to the nurse practitioner and then explain that the bite marks on my back were a welcomed thing. I was hoping the paper gown would cover them, but she noticed. She was like, "and you're OK with that?" and I'm like, "ummm yeah!".



zerogirl -> RE: Marks the day after? (1/22/2015 10:00:15 PM)

It's a huge turn on for me. The reminder makes me feel "naughty" and also just good in general even if we're apart most of the next day.



sapphirelace -> RE: Marks the day after? (1/25/2015 12:37:58 AM)

I love marks, bruises, welts anything that leaves something behind and yes i am a maso so says my Master....i love suffering for him....



twitch13 -> RE: Marks the day after? (1/27/2015 9:31:14 PM)

I wish my marks lasted longer. If it's a paddle or belt the marks go away. I love seeing them.



RebeccaR -> RE: Marks the day after? (1/28/2015 8:45:36 AM)

Just back from making a few S & M films. I have quite a few marks. Love them, nice reminders of an enjoyable, albeit painful time.

Rebecca



oktoberfesh -> RE: Marks the day after? (2/1/2015 9:25:16 AM)

Another one in the 'love them' camp... like a secret 'badge' of honor and ownership that only 'we' know about..



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