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Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "appr... - 7/11/2006 11:49:36 PM

MaleModel

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This may be a controversial thread. Mistress Lauren loves to embarrass me in public or semi-public places by giving me a full erection, either with her hand or using a remote-controlled mini-vibe that she recently got me. (It wraps right around Her cock) She does this in restaurants, the shopping mall at night, in the park on a blanket, in a movie theater, on the beach, wherever. Often she will then stand up and beckon for me to follow, my mind goes into submissive mode, and I just do what I’m told……I try to zip up, follow her, unconcerned of how tented my clothing might be, or who might be looking, though sometimes I do hear giggling.
It’s the public embarrassment and control that she likes. I’m pretty used to it, and when she first unzips me and stimulates me in an unexpected place/time we laugh together and kiss, it’s fun…..until I have to stand up and get dressed. She’s always thinking of new places...I never know what to expect—especially with the new vibe. Just recently she stopped to have a friendly chat with a toll-taker lady on a bridge, who burst into laughter when Ms. L patted my tented khakis.
Of course, all the stimulation and submission arouses me no end, and she LOVES having her “bitch in heat” frantic—either to pleasure her or gain release (which seldom happens)…….so I’m super-eager to do whatever she needs as soon as she finds a suitable place.
Many years ago I had a dominant girlfriend who got off on the exact same kink, so I’m very familiar with it. Ms. K liked to take out Her cock and then watch me try to “cover up.” She loved the control and my frantic need that resulted......and used that for her pleasure, but then always let me cum too.
I guess some people think this is inappropriate behavior, but it’s one of Ms. L’s favorites and I’m eager to oblige….I actually think I’m getting to like it. What do people on the Board think? Wouldn't a lot of the usual things we discuss here be thought of by many as "inappropriate?"

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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/12/2006 12:20:18 AM

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Absolutely! Personally I love to put Mine in an embarrassing or difficult predicament. Watching them squirm is half the fun after all! Arent' you lucky!

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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/12/2006 1:38:39 AM

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Well, I'm a female subbie, but one of my fantasies is to be sexually embarassed in public places like you, mm. I love the thought of a Dom touching or exposing me in various ways, or even letting others touch me under His supervision, while out and about. Or even having me touch or please Him in public. Very embarassing and erotic and exciting. *shivers in ecstacy*

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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/12/2006 3:09:48 AM

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Well, I'm pleased that we're not the only ones who REALLY get off on this. Funny thing is, the more Ms. L (and sometimes her close friend) grope and fondle and woman-handle me, the more I feel like their sex-toy and that it's natural that they would do this anytime/place they want.

btw, being her sex-toy in semi-public works best with a soupcon of compliments on my physical attributes every 30 seconds or so. And a full-blown discussion between them about any body part puts me into sub-space very quickly.

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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/12/2006 4:08:17 AM

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this is the sort of thread that i hope Mistress doesnt stumble on. She enjoys humiliating me and She has spoken of public humiliation but has not tried it yet. i expect it wouldnt take too much encouragement.

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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/12/2006 5:57:39 AM

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Appropriate?

Depends on the situation. If you're in a family friendly environment and there's a big risk of you being seen by people who haven't consented to watching this type of behavior, then no, I don't think its appropriate.

For your Mistress to have patted your erection in front of the lady at the toll booth was inappropriate in my book. Yes, you say she laughed, but what if it had been your mother or some elderly person who would be offended by such behavior? I don't believe that we should get our thrills at all costs and with the attitude that 'others be damned'. You're exposing others to your sexual foreplay, and unless you're in an all adult venue where behavior such as that is agreeable or is BDSM friendly, I personally don't think its appropriate.

If we're in the privacy of our home and see something on TV that offends us, or we don't like, or something that is not really appropriate for young children to be viewing, we have the option of changing the channel to something more suitable. If we're in a public restaurant in the middle of a meal (or somewhere similar -- you get the idea) and this type of behavior is present, that option is not available (short of just getting up and leaving!) and we're exposing others to our kink nonconsentually. And that's not appropriate. Its just darned inconsiderate.

Little hidden mind games in public can be (and ARE) fun, but we need to remind ourselves that we are not alone in this world and that others haven't 'signed on for' nor consented to our particular brand of kink.

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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/12/2006 6:30:53 AM

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You said it quite well, Cupid, all I can add is "what she said".

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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/12/2006 6:49:20 AM

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The big question is what do you mean by "semi." A good basic rule of thumb is that an ethical person does not envolve anyone in his or her scene that has not given consent.

That said, one big advantage of being in the face to face scene is that there are a number of events and parties that one can attend where those attending have implicitly given their consent.

An example of this sort of thing can be found on my website in the story "I'm Shy." Another was at a recent meeting of Shibari here in South Florida when the conversation turned to anal play. I ordered Rio to get up and describe one of the scene we had recently played out. The poor dear stammered and got red, much to the amusement of everyone there.

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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/12/2006 2:53:18 PM

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There is an old adage that applies here -
"Discretion is the better part of valor."

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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/13/2006 4:49:36 PM

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I would not scene in public without permission. It would not be a wise thing to do here in South Carolina. I am in the middle of the deep south Bible Belt, and if they knew about me, they would run me out of town.
I want my own public Dungeon so badly, but I just do not see a way legally to open one here.

Respectfully,
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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/13/2006 6:52:10 PM

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Doing something that is "hot" for you, but offends anyone else who might witness it, is selfish, immature, and yes, inappropriate as hell.

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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/13/2006 8:21:49 PM

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Once I did a sub with a strapon in front of 12 couples. He did want me to do him in public.

It was a strapon workshop in S.F.

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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/14/2006 2:30:58 PM

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Personally I enjoy arousing my slave in public....getting him hard various secret ways..... discretely ..... often times he thinks people are much more aware of his arousal then they actaully are....I mean few people look at a man crotch as they walk around day to day.........its all a mind fuck really.... he thinks they notice... he is embarassed...flushed... and hense even more aroused at the humiliation....

I will say I do have once rule about this.. I NEVER do it in a place where there are children in viewing distance.... to me that is just a big NO NO.

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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/15/2006 3:09:21 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistrssM

Personally I enjoy arousing my slave in public....getting him hard various secret ways..... discretely ..... often times he thinks people are much more aware of his arousal then they actaully are....I mean few people look at a man crotch as they walk around day to day.........its all a mind fuck really.... he thinks they notice... he is embarassed...flushed... and hense even more aroused at the humiliation....

I try not to think about my erection and who might see......I'm just in sub-space, thinking about doing what Ms. L wants me to do, and trying to follow her. It is VERY arousing, hence my "bitch in heat" title at that time.

Dying to know your secret ways to arouse, lol.....must be a remote control device.

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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/15/2006 9:25:46 AM

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actually no...I have yet to use a remote control device....;)

I have different techniques... every man has different triggers...for my last boy it was just certain words whispered in his ear... or a certain look...
scratching my nails into his arm... or holding his hand while walking and casually stroking his thumb in what he would refer to as a "jack off" way....

In the past I had a boy with a severe foot fetish so for him it was all about my feet and what I did with them.

A few times though I had a my boy wear no underwear and a pair of levis dockers or khaki pants that had the pockets cut open on the inside... so as we walked or stopped I would casually slide my hand in that pocket.. and flick my fingers on his bare cock....to tease... drove him nuts.......and was all so descrete... I doubt anyone would have ever guessed....
I used to make him wear those if we went to the movies too... I doubt he remembers many of the films we saw....

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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/15/2006 10:01:16 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistrssM

actually no...I have yet to use a remote control device....;)

I have different techniques... every man has different triggers...for my last boy it was just certain words whispered in his ear... or a certain look...
scratching my nails into his arm... or holding his hand while walking and casually stroking his thumb in what he would refer to as a "jack off" way....

In the past I had a boy with a severe foot fetish so for him it was all about my feet and what I did with them.

A few times though I had a my boy wear no underwear and a pair of levis dockers or khaki pants that had the pockets cut open on the inside... so as we walked or stopped I would casually slide my hand in that pocket.. and flick my fingers on his bare cock....to tease... drove him nuts.......and was all so descrete... I doubt anyone would have ever guessed....
I used to make him wear those if we went to the movies too... I doubt he remembers many of the films we saw....

I've had the same problem in movie theaters......just when the plot gets interesting, Ms. L gets "hungry" and I have no memory of what happens (in the film) after that.

Your techniques are indeed subtle and effective.....a remote control device would probably lie unused.

I'm pleased that so many Women enjoy playing with their subs in semi-public places (wit certain limits). I would have thought that more would be opposed.

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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/15/2006 10:11:10 AM

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I would not do anything overt that would sorely offend those around me but my all time favorite tool to use in public is the shock collar. The subtle arousal scenarios others have described are also effective.

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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/28/2006 5:02:25 PM

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First post here..... had to stop lurking because this thread (especially the patting of the tented pants and the hole in the Dockers pocket) has made me recognize a fetish I never knew I had! Thanks to all participating!

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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/28/2006 5:08:17 PM

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My first post ever. I just wanted to add that I completely agree with those who consider public play as inititally described to be wildly inappropriate, and very selfish.

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RE: Playing with your sub in semi-public places: "... - 7/28/2006 10:08:56 PM

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Ok, I know I'm slightly in the wrong forum, but just had to chime in on this thread since remote devices and semi-public arousal came up.

I recently had a first date with a sub I've been chatting with online for a bit. He was very eager for instructions for our meeting and had made the mistake of letting me know what sorts of toys he had - such as the remote control vibrating egg. I told him he would not only not wear underwear to our date, but he would have inserted the egg (anally) and would present the remote to me immediately upon meeting. I did have quite a bit of fun with that device seeing how well he could concentrate on our pool games while it was going and he definitely got aroused by the time we were done with the date.

As to appropriateness, it was basically a safe space as we met at a gay bar in late afternoon so there was hardly anyone there, much less children.

- jay

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