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subrosaDom -> RE: WHY? (9/21/2014 3:56:40 PM)
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ORIGINAL: subrosaDom
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ORIGINAL: devora
Greetings All,
I am a sub that is limited in what I can do, due to medical conditions.
My Master is looking for a playmate...not another sub/slave.....I encourage and approve of Him doing this.
Why is it, that almost all of the slaves/subs, always conclude His is doing this behind my back or looking to cheat???
It drives me nuts, as several potential slaves/subs have accused Him of such, in e-mail, and or block Him, the minute He mentions me? Everything is up front and straight forward in our profiles. Both here and another site.
smh~ guess this is sort of a venting session....sorry.
Hi Devora -- I don't think any of them are reading your profile. Why? A few reasons. First, you have this horrible purple background. Basic principle of graphic design -- make something readable. Don't cause epileptic fits! [:D] Switch to a conventional black type on white background. 2) You have a wonderful description of your relationship, all in regular type (no UPPER CASE), which starts about halfway down. That is the description you need to start with. Don't start with your demands. Start with your relationship. 3) The part currently at the top with your demands/requirements: a) kill the SHOUTING -- no UPPER CASE!! -- see how annoying that is. b) write it the same way the rest of your profile is written -- it's a bit defensive right now, and you don't need that to get what you want.
In my view, if you make those changes, the problems you've encountered will mostly go away (not completely, because there are always assholes). Also, you should state that you have fibromyalgia closer to the beginning. When you talk about a medical condition, for all someone knows, it's HIV. Don't leave fibro until the end. For those who don't know what it is (many people think they do, but they're wrong), provide a link to a clear explanation of it.
Good luck!
In addition, your journal has a number of accusatory entries. These may all be true, but they put you in a bad light. They scare off good people. Everyone knows there are assholes. No one wants to hear stories about them except in a thread devoted to them. So be more positive. Also, you may or may not have all of PTSD, Bipolar Disorder and Borderline Personality Disorder. That's because diagnoses are often wrong or incomplete in those areas. I'm not saying you don't have challenges. Now if you just put all of those out there, straightaway, mostly again to people who don't know what they even mean, that's going to keep people away too. Instead, just say: "Full disclosure: I also have challenges with PTSD and some related mental health issues. If we get to know each other better, I will give you all the wonderful details :)" I know some other posters may disagree with me here, but I think for an initial profile, that's just too much to put out there. Be upfront, let people know there are issues, but don't provide a blow-by-blow yet. As soon as someone asks, sure, go ahead.
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