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ExiledTyrant -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/24/2014 6:25:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RockaRolla quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant quote: ORIGINAL: RockaRolla Pfft, real subs have no family obligations. Their only responsibility is to Master and His whims. You have to exorcise the Domme-onic presence out of them first. Jus sayin Dare I ask what is used in place of holy water? I think you would relish the experience over the tale. In nomine Patris, et Filii, et Spiritus Sancti, salvum me fac ex malo. Jus sayin

subrosaDom -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/24/2014 6:44:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant quote: ORIGINAL: InHisHeart You'll find this on all message boards and you'll find it with some people in real life. I got into a "discussion" with a Dom friend in RL the other day about this exact thing with him telling me Master isn't Dom enough because I've been out of town for the past 3 months taking care of my ill mother and no "real" Dom would put up with his sub being away that long, he would insist I come home. I see the "Wit & Wisdom of WIITWD by Charles Manson" is still in circulation. Say hi to Charlie for me, will ya? Can't wait for his next CD, especially if it is from beyond the grave.

subrosaDom -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/24/2014 6:45:32 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RockaRolla Pfft, real subs have no family obligations. Their only responsibility is to Master and His whims. That's what I told my last 389 subs. I'm hoping to hit the jackpot with #390.

subrosaDom -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/24/2014 6:46:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RockaRolla quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant quote: ORIGINAL: RockaRolla Pfft, real subs have no family obligations. Their only responsibility is to Master and His whims. You have to exorcise the Domme-onic presence out of them first. Jus sayin Dare I ask what is used in place of holy water? Calling all urolagniacs.

InHisHeart -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/24/2014 6:54:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RockaRolla Dare I ask what is used in place of holy water? A piping hot cup of DD coffee dumped in his lap (accidentally of course) might have humbled him some.

RedMagic1 -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/25/2014 8:04:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: InHisHeart You'll find this on all message boards and you'll find it with some people in real life. I got into a "discussion" with a Dom friend in RL the other day about this exact thing with him telling me Master isn't Dom enough because I've been out of town for the past 3 months taking care of my ill mother and no "real" Dom would put up with his sub being away that long, he would insist I come home. This board has temporarily collapsed, given the low-quality responses you received about this. There was a time when people who were in successful relationships, and had been through illness and death, could tell you things they had learned from their own lives. So, frankly, your obnoxious friend had a point. Months apart, especially if you're in months of isolation caring for your mother, is terrible for your relationship. That doesn't mean "abandon your mom," but it does mean that you and your dom need to work together as a team to figure out ways you can get support as a caregiver, and ways you can get enough airspace that you are able to feel romantic and sexual, despite the circumstances. When my brother was in hospice, his wife had been at his side for weeks. I told her I would take care of him for a day, and she trusted my ability to do that, but even so, she didn't want to take a day off. We tried a lot of things, and I finally told her, "Look, my clothes are dirty, could you wash them?" She smiled for the first time in days and almost shouted "Yes!" She had found a way she could still be helpful, but be outside the hospice for a day. So maybe an outsider would have thought I was abusing her by making her my servant, but really it was something that surprised both of us, that we arrived at through a process of elimination, trying to figure out what she was psychologically able to do, while getting some important time away from death. Maybe you and your dom could figure out something similar -- a way your mother's needs could be met, while at the same time you get some time off, and can build/rebuild relations with the living world, not just with illness.

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/25/2014 11:36:42 AM)
Glad to see you back!

CountDrakula -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/25/2014 12:58:02 PM)
You allude to people not being who they are, in the main - the usual posters on here are exempt from that comment. it is not my fault you were/are stupid enough to believe what they all say..the arrogance of that carte blanche statement makes my wee toe tremble with ire - or perhaps its the intriguing fungal infection 10 years you say, and you are still here - why am i not surprised..i now only visit a few weeks per year, more in hope...and will most likely jpi the other site when someones breathes life into its existance People like me explain ourselves most succinctly, my kind always do. And in most part you got what you asked for, methinks. you are no better than those you spake ill of, perhaps you learned a little after an eon who am I to say. Many of us have been here, and off, a very long time, some of us have much reality, most have nothing; bar an errant conflagration of alternate realities and drool at the mouth...but it up to the reader and viewer to work out who is who are people talking in red on here Only read those of substance..the rest matter not...unless you would like to set about them with a rather big stick

InHisHeart -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/25/2014 2:12:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 So, frankly, your obnoxious friend had a point. Months apart, especially if you're in months of isolation caring for your mother, is terrible for your relationship. That doesn't mean "abandon your mom," but it does mean that you and your dom need to work together as a team to figure out ways you can get support as a caregiver, and ways you can get enough airspace that you are able to feel romantic and sexual, despite the circumstances. Maybe you and your dom could figure out something similar -- a way your mother's needs could be met, while at the same time you get some time off, and can build/rebuild relations with the living world, not just with illness. He and I talk a couple times a day and have been able to keep our relationship well and alive and have had some heartwarming conversations. Our relationship started out long distance 7 years ago (520 miles apart) with me traveling every 2 months from the time we met, spending at least a month there, sometimes more then coming back here for a couple months so being apart this long isn't new to us. It's more stressful on me than what we were used to with not knowing what's going to happen with mom (more tests tomorrow and biopsy next week) and not knowing when I'll be getting back home. Plans to go home at least for a few weeks will depend on what the biopsy shows, what treatment (if any) she'll need and what the prognosis is. My sister lives in town, she doesn't have the free time that I do but she's been a big help with giving me a break so I can get out for an afternoon a couple times a week and I've been able to meet up with my lifelong best friend for dinner a couple times a week. What pissed me off about the Dom friend was him saying that Master should insist I get back home and saying he's not "Dom enough" because he doesn't insist I get back. When we first got together and talked of me relocating, I told him I'm close to my family and if there's a problem back "home" with one of my adult sons or their SO's, my grandson, my mom, my sister, I will be there in a heartbeat, that was non-negotiable and he said that wasn't something I'd ever have to worry about, he'd never come between me and my family. He's very close to his adult kids and his parents, his dad has health issues so he completely understands where I'm coming from and would do the same if it were one of his parents or one of his kids. We talked about this last night, he said if he got a call from his son or daughter that one of them needed him (they both live in CA), he said he'd be on the next flight out and would stay until he was no longer needed there. He said we both have family out of state, we both have elderly parents, when something like this comes up, we do what we have to do and we'll get through it. He told me I have enough to worry about but "us" is the one thing I don't have to worry about.

smileforme50 -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/25/2014 3:27:14 PM)
~~~FRing..... I think that's pretty rude and presumptuous for anyone to judge you, your Master or your relationship and tell you what you or your Master should do. Screw them....the only people who matter are you and your Master and if you are both happy.....then it doesn't matter. I have to ask a question of the people who think that your Master isn't being "Dom" enough because you are spending so much time away from him. What would they say if you were in the military and got shipped overseas? The military says you need to go overseas for a year....but your Master says "No....she is my slave and I need her here". Who do they think is going ot win THAT argument?

ExiledTyrant -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/25/2014 3:30:00 PM)
Would it make me less D if she wanted to go on a cruise and I sent her on her own cuz I have no desire to be on a cruise ship?

Gauge -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/25/2014 3:36:25 PM)
This is a fast reply. A long time ago, I stopped giving a shit about what people think of me. I figure that they will think it anyway, so why bother worrying about what they are thinking. There are people that matter to me, and I value their opinions. I am 6' 1" go about 235 pounds, I am bald, have a beard, earrings, and tattoos.. I am sure there are plenty of people out there that judge me from that, and if they do... that is their problem, not mine.

Arturas -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/27/2014 12:02:30 AM)
quote: Yeah if someone asks for help, then give it, but so many people don't and still get peoples judgments anyway. (1) When is it ok? (2) Has anyone here re thought who they because some random told them? (3) Are you a random who has told someone to question who they are, and if so how can you justify it? (1) It is Ok when the nature of the OP requires you to make a judgment before giving advice. You should understand that some people will ask for help with a situation that does not look legit or is trivial or is obviously one sided, not as simple or one sided as the OP presents it. I find myself not jumping on the bandwagon making judgments on some guy we never met and instead I point out that she herself is not blameless here. For example, a recent thread has a submissive writing about her decision to doubt a man is a Dom based on some meaningless criteria in a single response to her. I pointed out another view of the situation, that the Dom might have been joking and/or she is not up to making judgments on who is a Dom since she had already invited several of these guys to her apartment, already, before deciding who is who. (2) I've not. Star has not. We don't care what random strangers want to think about us. (3) I have suggested they review their personal goal to be a Dom when they themselves question their own direction on this and their posts justify that response. This has occurred perhaps three times in my posts. My response is always a "maybe" since obviously I don't know and cannot make a real accurate judgment based on a profile and a few forum posts. You should know by now that threads take a pattern when the OP is asking advice. The bandwagon pattern. This starts when someone with two billion posts does not answer the OP but instead tears apart her profile and criticizes her or him for this and that and then you will see five more from other individuals adding fuel to that fire and the OP is forced to ignore her own thread and we never see them again.

PandoraFoxxx -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/27/2014 1:49:23 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant Would it make me less D if she wanted to go on a cruise and I sent her on her own cuz I have no desire to be on a cruise ship? No that makes you f-ing awesome.

ExiledTyrant -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/27/2014 5:49:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PandoraFoxxx quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant Would it make me less D if she wanted to go on a cruise and I sent her on her own cuz I have no desire to be on a cruise ship? No that makes you f-ing awesome. I'm a prick like that. Just because I do not like something does not mean she needs to abandon her like of X. I'm not insecure on any level, though I would miss her, I'd still send her. InHisHeart's relationship is akin to my own belief, we do what we MUST do, accept it, and have faith in the strength of the relationship.

starkem -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/27/2014 9:06:36 PM)
Whether you are a Domme or Sub, or both, or none, never let anyone invalidate you because of their experience. This is a collective. Some will take that tradition and without blame. That is what they desire. No judgment. However, anyone telling me my feelings are not authentic may be right. I do discredit them only for saying that they are true this or that. Every scenario is different and it won't nicely into preset category. We as other will defend other against any tradition, trying desperately to be open but not invalidated. When it comes to confrontation just say your last word and let them have it. quote: ORIGINAL: stef quote: ORIGINAL: sarzyness Am I just being over sensitive Yes. Ignore idiots, it makes the day much more pleasant.

ivone57 -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/29/2014 7:34:53 AM)
without reading all the responses, I don't give a rats ass what someone online says... I know im a sub and their opinion of me don't matter ... don't let what others say to you about not being a sub bother you cause changes are they are dickwads anyways... if you were to meet me in real life you would say I was the farthest from being a sub but I am to the right person just not to every person... does that make sense

longing2serveBBW -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/29/2014 3:46:27 PM)
In realty the D/s world isn't very different from the vanilla one in that no one is perfect. There is no perfect submissive or perfect dominant, there is a stereotypical Ideal that a lot of people seem to use as a measure, but we are all individuals with our own individual expertise and shortcomings. What is a real or proper dominant to you won't necessarily be my ideal and my ideal probably wouldn't suit you. No one can be all things to all men / women.

RockaRolla -> RE: I dont think you are what you say you are... (9/29/2014 3:50:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: InHisHeart quote: ORIGINAL: RockaRolla Dare I ask what is used in place of holy water? A piping hot cup of DD coffee dumped in his lap (accidentally of course) might have humbled him some. What a waste of perfectly good coffee.

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