IIapetus
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I don't have much context on the OP's situation. Giving any advice with this much context is like riding a motorcycle whilst blindfolded, with my hands tied behind my back. Now whilst I might do that for my own entertainment, or to evade a panther, I am not going to to do that now. Not on my watch, OP. Not on my watch. I'll assume everyone else has the benefit of a back story.
So on to the predictable generalities. I am not defining what serving is, or isn't. Way too subjective. And the rest of this spiel also assumes the baseline of the OP's relationship wasn't out of harmony to begin with. Read: misaligned expectations.
These assumptions and preliminaries aside, and from my perspective, this boils down to an important element here - and in any relationship you care about - which is knowing when to put your wants to one side, as and when your partner/friend/panther, needs it. It's about transcending what you need, when and where it is necessary for you to do so, for the good of the person, or feline, you love/serve/worship/[insert interchangeable verbs], and the relationship. This is the greatest expression of service, love, devotion, blah, blah, and it defines the relationships that go the distance and those that don't. It's essential for the harmony and equilibrium of your relationship. Now if you find yourself feeling like you can't, or won't, put your wants aside, at times of greater need, game over. Go directly to jail, don't pass go, don't collect 200 bucks.
Iaps
P.S. And as for one of the replies and the line about someone only ever asking for advice as means to validate their existing position. What a disturbingly cynical position. It precludes the possibility of anyone having an expansive motivation to elicit useful, insightful, or meaningful input, on anything. For shame! Isn't it possible for someone to want to falsify their point of view through your expert opinion and analysis? Or build a better understanding of a myriad of facts or pieces of information, through your insights and the lens of your experiences? We all struggle to see the wood for the trees, on occasion.
Oh no, wait. That's right. I only go to the doctor to prove I am sick. Actually getting the information and advice to get a better picture of my health/ailment, get/be well, from someone with training and experience, is utterly irrelevant. I know all I need to know about being sick, what I need to do to get better, and all I need from that MD, is to validate what I already know - yes, I'm a cynical asshole.
Silly me.
P.P.S. Yes, I know, you know, I'm a cynical asshole. Off with you to a new thread to get that opinion 'validated'.
edit to add a panther reference
< Message edited by IIapetus -- 10/7/2014 6:58:13 PM >
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1 cup intellectual
1 cup athlete
4 free range eggs
Dash of nutmeg
Large splash of sarcasm
Sea salt and irreverence to taste
Combine in a large bowl, simmer over a high heat. Serve immediately.
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