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domcpl2ownfem -> Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 12:41:39 PM)
I keep getting the impression that having manners and being polite seem to be a put off. I have started conversations with several sub/slave members that either party(them or us) have started only to find that they read my introduction and ignore it all together or we will have several at length conversations only to have it end not knowing why. I am extremely well mannered, polite, and educated. I am curious as to what exactly is the problem. If you haven't entered intoan agreement with us to serve then is it truly nnecessary to be rude and forceful?

Spiritedsub2 -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 12:49:16 PM)
Your question assumes that your manners and politeness are the reasons women stop talking with you. A self-flattering assumption, and probably not the reason those conversations end abruptly.

seekingOwnertoo -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 12:53:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Spiritedsub2 Your question assumes that your manners and politeness are the reasons women stop talking with you. A self-flattering assumption, and probably not the reason those conversations end abruptly. OP .. I agree ... what you describe happens all the time here. It is the nature of on-line. Get used to it, and deal with it ....

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 12:54:11 PM)
Along with what Spirited said, if you chat online with a block of text as per your opening post, that shows a lack of education. Just bear that in mind. Also, it may be the way you put things across. sometimes context (or lack of) can scare people.

domcpl2ownfem -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 1:01:07 PM)
Do tell what are you referring to when you say a "block of text." I am assuming you mean that I copy and paste my introduction? Clearly not the case as I read carefully every profile I respond to, to ensure a match for us.

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 1:12:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domcpl2ownfem Do tell what are you referring to when you say a "block of text." I am assuming you mean that I copy and paste my introduction? Clearly not the case as I read carefully every profile I respond to, to ensure a match for us. I didn't say it was a copy/paste. I said... a block of text. No paragraphs. No line spacing. The fact that you made such an assumption on something so simple shows you are not as 'educated' as you think. [:D]

DarkSteven -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 1:31:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domcpl2ownfem either party(them or us) have started I'm smelling a rat. Genuine unicorns don't start online conversations. You're being approached by scammers, or male wankers pretending to be female.

RockaRolla -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 1:42:36 PM)
~fr Your post sounds awfully similar to the common gripe of "nice guys finish last." In this case, I'm guessing the true causes for your lack of results are similar as well. -Your conversation probably bores them. This may be because you've limited yourself to the standard greetings, how are you, talking about the weather, etc. Or the other person just decides the conversation isn't that interesting. (Which, by the way, is allowed.) -Your messages show some subconscious entitlement complex when you're assuming that because you're being polite, you'll get what you want easily. Don't think we can't detect this. -The other half is not as much a match for you as you think. You're basing your compatibility on a picture and a paragraph (or three.) They're determining compatibility by your conversation. -She's just not that into you, dude. The fact that you've considered a less polite approach would be more successful is a disappointment. That doesn't work either, unless you plan on getting lucky with some fresh bait in sub frenzy, but that'll wear off in time. Keep in mind that as unicorn hunters, the odds are very much against you - there are more unicorn hunters than actual unicorns running around, and hunters have the sometimes unfortunate reputation of using and abusing these elusive creatures for threesomes on demand. You're going to have to be patient, be interesting, and not get pissy when someone decides against humoring you further.

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 1:49:00 PM)
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ExiledTyrant -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 1:49:55 PM)
It's probably the approach. You should try something more like this: Hey, RockaRolla, I bought some new spiderman underwear, wanna come over and see them?

RockaRolla -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 1:56:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant It's probably the approach. You should try something more like this: Hey, RockaRolla, I bought some new spiderman underwear, wanna come over and see them? Do you also have a Spider-Woman at your house? Because I wouldn't mind seeing her underwear too.

ExiledTyrant -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 1:59:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RockaRolla quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant It's probably the approach. You should try something more like this: Hey, RockaRolla, I bought some new spiderman underwear, wanna come over and see them? Do you also have a Spider-Woman at your house? Because I wouldn't mind seeing her underwear too. I'm still laying out Spidey-Woman bait. Thus far all I have on the list is spinach salad with vinegar and oil dressing. She doesn't give me much of a heads up on her kryptonite. Sadly :(

RockaRolla -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 2:00:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant quote: ORIGINAL: RockaRolla quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant It's probably the approach. You should try something more like this: Hey, RockaRolla, I bought some new spiderman underwear, wanna come over and see them? Do you also have a Spider-Woman at your house? Because I wouldn't mind seeing her underwear too. I'm still laying out Spidey-Woman bait. Thus far all I have on the list is spinach salad with vinegar and oil dressing. She doesn't give me much of a heads up on her kryptonite. Sadly :( Judging by that recent cover, she may be in need of a chiropractor. Just a thought.

ExiledTyrant -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 2:04:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RockaRolla I'm still laying out Spidey-Woman bait. Thus far all I have on the list is spinach salad with vinegar and oil dressing. She doesn't give me much of a heads up on her kryptonite. Sadly :( Judging by that recent cover, she may be in need of a chiropractor. Just a thought. We happen to have a resident chiro that I have total faith in. Jus sayin

RedMagic1 -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 2:06:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: domcpl2ownfem I am curious as to what exactly is the problem. I don't usually look at profiles, but I decided to for this one, because it seemed fundamental to the issue. I think your problems are as follows. 1) Neither of you looks healthy. 2) The interior of your house looks motley, and the division between the wall and the roof looks unfinished. 3. You say nothing in your profile about what you could offer a slave. Single women get lots of offers. I think you two need to figure out how you can be more competitive. Otherwise you're likely to recruit nobody for a long time.

PeonForHer -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 2:24:49 PM)
Re 3): I don't think there's enough of a 'human connection' to be taken from the profile. A little burbling out your interests, how you and your partner relate, some little day to day things ... so that a prospective slave might picture life with you. What sort of films will you watch on TV in the evenings, when you're all tired from work? That kind of stuff. (My few pennies' worth - I'm not a dominant, not a female and not in search of a dominant couple. But it's always seemed to me to be crucial that you keep it human - nothing ever works otherwise. Add some warm and cosy to your profile, in short.)

DesFIP -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 8:52:57 PM)
A book of infractions? Seriously? That by itself says you don't know how to problem solve or inspire someone. And that you enjoy setting them up for failure. I presume you two dated for nearly 15 to 20 years before you met the other and knew you wanted to be together. Yet you expect someone else to fall in love with both of you while each of you falls in love with him or her inside of a month. I don't get the feeling this third will be loved and cherished. Sub, slave or anything else, people need that.

ExiledTyrant -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 9:03:22 PM)
[img]http://robbieblair.com/images/thats-a-paddlin-simpsons-grammar.jpg[/img]

evesgrden -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/27/2014 11:12:35 PM)
Offering a book of transgressions in exchange for the opportunity to be a scullery maid and provide bj's on the demand while being the the third wheel.....who could say no when it's presented politely? There are very few people who aim for a permanent position of being in 2nd place. Those that do have their pick of couples looking for them. You are appealing, how? I don't sense any warmth, sense of humor, kinky innuendo, the promise of creature comforts, something revealing abut your personalities so someone could have a reason to think they'd be compatible and would want to spend time with you. YOU, why you? It's almost like you're providing a draft of an employment contract or want ad instead of a profile. Having rules doesn't make you interesting, and being a couple looking for a third... take a number. The line goes around the block a couple of times.

JstAnotherSub -> RE: Manners and politeness (9/28/2014 4:50:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant [img]http://robbieblair.com/images/thats-a-paddlin-simpsons-grammar.jpg[/img] Anyone with a slight bit of class knows that the proper contraction of could have is coulda. Coulda, woulda and shoulda. From the chick with lots of class, even if it is all low, I got buckets of that shit!

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