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RE: Manners and politeness - 9/28/2014 4:53:31 AM

JstAnotherSub

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to the OP, All I can suggest is putting some interests that don't have anything to do with kink. I would guess that anyone interested in long term is going to want to go bowling or skydiving or have a garden or swim or....well, you get the message.

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RE: Manners and politeness - 9/28/2014 6:09:28 AM

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Okay, have your woman detach herself from your profile, read it, and ask her if that is somewhere she would go.

It reads like the script from the original rise of the planet of the apes: DO! *punish*punish*punish* DO! Yes, you can get a pain slut that is all about the punish, but she's going to be there for the punish and not the work. You have to detach from your ego and look at it from the other side of the kneel. Anyone that isn't a complete head case (and even then) isn't going to find your cornucopia of WIITYD at all satisfying.

You say you are looking to own her, what are you offering her? At no point do you say that any of her needs will be met. It's all you, you, and a lot more you. In this medium, words are all we have, and they do not charge you by the word in your profile. Write a profile that says who you are and what you are offering. Use your journal to add chapters of you, her, and /s. You have to seduce the mind, then the body will follow. Put a lot of thought into it, paint portraits of the intended life, humanize yourself, and be less mein Obergruppenführer.

Jus sayin

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RE: Manners and politeness - 9/28/2014 12:54:45 PM

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ORIGINAL: domcpl2ownfem

If you haven't entered intoan agreement with us to serve then is it truly nnecessary to be rude and forceful?

Does that mean once service is initiated it is necessary to be rude and forceful? :P

Sorry. I couldn't help myself. I'm trying to be less sarcastic these days. I blame it all on ExiledTyrant. Lately I have exchanged a few posts with him and he's a bad influence. *ahem*

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RE: Manners and politeness - 9/28/2014 12:56:48 PM

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ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant

See? The above is proof of his bad influence. It only encourages someone like me to display bad grammar. (Or should I say "grammer". Would that be a paddlin' offense as well? *hopeful look*)

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RE: Manners and politeness - 9/28/2014 1:00:57 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: L8bloomer

See? The above is proof of his bad influence. It only encourages someone like me to display bad grammar. (Or should I say "grammer". Would that be a paddlin' offense as well? *hopeful look*)

Either way, the subtitles in face to face conversation... as distracting as they may be scrolling across your boobs... will be riddled with bad grammar, cuz my autocorrect caters to my sadism. So yep, that's a paddlin... lots of paddlin.

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RE: Manners and politeness - 9/28/2014 1:06:43 PM

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So yep, that's a paddlin... lots of paddlin.

*swoon* I just love it when you talk smacking implements. :)

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RE: Manners and politeness - 9/28/2014 1:12:23 PM

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Agrees with JstAnotherSub.

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RE: Manners and politeness - 9/28/2014 1:13:26 PM

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Daaaaaamn dawg! That was kind of harsh. LOL.

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ORIGINAL: domcpl2ownfem
I am curious as to what exactly is the problem.

I don't usually look at profiles, but I decided to for this one, because it seemed fundamental to the issue. I think your problems are as follows.

1) Neither of you looks healthy.
2) The interior of your house looks motley, and the division between the wall and the roof looks unfinished.
3. You say nothing in your profile about what you could offer a slave.

Single women get lots of offers. I think you two need to figure out how you can be more competitive. Otherwise you're likely to recruit nobody for a long time.

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RE: Manners and politeness - 9/28/2014 1:24:53 PM

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I'll be honest OP, DarkSteven can provide better insight than myself or many others. He and his s engage with playmates. But I read your profile and saw you both wanted to control most if not all of your s's life/decisions. That's a lot to ask from someone who's gonna be a third wheel from the get go.
I agree with RedMagic1, single women get a lot of offers, they just wait for the one that "clicks".

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RE: Manners and politeness - 9/30/2014 5:53:31 PM

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Re the rudeness factor op, if you don't reply to offers of a credit card in the mail with a polite 'no thank you'. then you are just as guilty as these women are. You are the ones writing them out of the blue, harassing them to accept your offer. So just as you may hang up on a telemarketer, they are hanging up on you. They don't owe you anything and the sooner you get that, the better.

Right now, you come off as someone with entitlement issues, and nobody with that problem is desirable.

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RE: Manners and politeness - 9/30/2014 5:55:29 PM

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Re the rudeness factor op, if you don't reply to offers of a credit card in the mail with a polite 'no thank you'. then you are just as guilty as these women are. You are the ones writing them out of the blue, harassing them to accept your offer. So just as you may hang up on a telemarketer, they are hanging up on you. They don't owe you anything and the sooner you get that, the better.

Right now, you come off as someone with entitlement issues, and nobody with that problem is desirable.

Well if they didn't want unsolicited offers from every couple and their mothers, they wouldn't make an account here.

Just like if you didn't want to be harassed by telemarketers, you wouldn't have a phone.

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RE: Manners and politeness - 9/30/2014 6:55:14 PM

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Thanks for all the pots, appreciated or not lol, I have taken the time to rewrite the profile and encourage any criticism you may have.

I especially wanted to thank,in no specific order:

Dark Steven - He has provided a real insight and has helped immensely with all of the help he has provided, to which I shall be eternally grateful.

RockaRolla - I promise I'll not be rude, as you pointed out, it's not necessary. Together with Exiled Tyrant you two have tauhht me to lighten up.

Goddess Manko - Thank you for the referral to Dark Steven, its been worth it's weight in gold.

Thank you all again,

Dave

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RE: Manners and politeness - 9/30/2014 7:31:43 PM

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Dave, your profile looks better, but pull the part about kids out of your profile. That is info for correspondence, don't invite a predator. Now, use your journals to pain some pictures. I would take one of the trips to NYC and write a comedy/tragedy about it. That will humanize you and invite the reader into understanding how you perceive both comedy and tragedy... insight into what a day with you looks like.

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RE: Manners and politeness - 9/30/2014 9:27:34 PM

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Very true Exiled Tyrant .... kids out and a trip to NYC coming up perfect!!!!

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RE: Manners and politeness - 9/30/2014 9:43:43 PM

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MUCH better. You come across as real people.

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RE: Manners and politeness - 10/1/2014 2:29:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla

Well if they didn't want unsolicited offers from every couple and their mothers, they wouldn't make an account here.

Just like if you didn't want to be harassed by telemarketers, you wouldn't have a phone.

RR: you forgot your sarcasm font!

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RE: Manners and politeness - 10/2/2014 8:01:36 AM

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I keep getting the impression that having manners and being polite seem to be a put off. I have started conversations with several sub/slave members that either party(them or us) have started only to find that they read my introduction and ignore it all together or we will have several at length conversations only to have it end not knowing why. I am extremely well mannered, polite, and educated. I am curious as to what exactly is the problem. If you haven't entered intoan agreement with us to serve then is it truly nnecessary to be rude and forceful?

Excessive politeness on-line can come across as disingenuous or pretentious, and carries with it the nagging feeling that the person is hiding something about themselves.

I generally find it off putting.

Remember Eddie Haskel from "Leave it to Beaver"?

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