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ORIGINAL: curchris

Why is it so hard to find a real male or couple interested in Dominating a curious male

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ORIGINAL: curchris

Why is it so hard to find a real male or couple interested in Dominating a curious male

Because you're looking at people in their early twenties through thirties when you are significantly older. And possibly because you're not presenting yourself in a good light.

Problems I've had with guys who present as you do, with a blank profile, and with friends that are 10-20 years younger than you are:

1) This is what usually happens when someone has a blank profile, who are also looking for every possible partnership arrangement and their friends' list is a hot pix collection. These guys are more likely to respond to "no thanks" with angry spewage...and as a consequence many women choose to ignore letters from men with blank profiles.

2) Some are so used to having cyber fun over the internet that they won't meet up for coffee at some fast food restaurant...because it will ruin their fantasy.

3) Another common thing that goes wrong; there's a breakdown during scene negotiation. Sometimes this is caused by finding out the other person is married or has a significant other and is trying their best to cheat on them (I don't want any part of that, either the partner is on board or forget it). Sometimes it's because one party is insisting on becoming body fluid bonded with us. If they are stubborn about wearing a condom and insist that after we get to know them better that my hard limit for my slave will disappear. Sometimes no really does mean no.

4) I'm not a glory hole provider. Someone interested in scening with us, whether it gets sexual or not, has to do more than basically shove their dick into an empty slot in the wall and say "Here I am, play with me". We have to know something of their personality, quirks, health issues I'd might need to watch out for, past BDSM experience and...what went right and what went wrong. If their company isn't enjoyable at a place like Wendy's and both of us can't feel at ease in their presence...nothing is going to happen.

My recommendations for finding couples like us:

Fill out the typed area of your profile. You're HERE, so we already know you're kinky. Put stuff about yourself that makes others see your vanilla side, likes, hobbies, dislikes, pets if you have any, favorite movies, foods, a book you're reading, etc. (When profiles are only about kink they all look alike to me.)

Join BDSM munch groups and meet more kinksters in your area. If you don't know how to do this, send me a letter and I'll look it up for you. The more real time couples you meet, whether at munches, play parties, or one on one in places like Wendy's, the more options you'll have for scening with others.

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ORIGINAL: AthenaSurrenders

If your friends list is representative, you seem to be approaching people young enough to be your kids. Might have more success with people in your own age bracket. And yep, fill in your profile, put up a photo, and generally make an effort to find people who are interested.

If you're just looking for kinky hook ups, you might have more luck on craigslist. I honestly don't know if that's what you want, since your profile is empty.