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picture request denials - 10/6/2014 8:43:04 PM   
spankmyass72


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Status: offline 		What do other subs out there do when told to send naked pics to a Dom they don't know? how do you let these people down without sounding like you are being disrespectful?
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RE: picture request denials - 10/6/2014 8:47:19 PM   
searching4mysir


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Status: offline 		Demanding nudes of me is disrespectful, so I have no problem being disrespectful back. The demand turns me off enough to not caring if it ends the conversation.

However, you are not me and asked for a respectful way to decline. How about "I am not comfortable at this time with supplying nude photos, so I respectfully decline your request. Now, how about those Giants/Redskins/Patriots, etc."

No is also a complete sentence and doesn't really require an explanation either.

< Message edited by searching4mysir -- 10/6/2014 8:48:17 PM >

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RE: picture request denials - 10/6/2014 8:48:52 PM   
IIapetus


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Status: offline 		It's not a matter of respect. Would you hand over naked photos in any other situation in life? I recommend being a person first, a sub second. That's my 5c.

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RE: picture request denials - 10/6/2014 8:55:39 PM   
amaster5


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Status: offline 		If someone contacts you out of the blue, or after say one email immediately demanding nudes, it is disrespectful of them. If they are being disrespectful of you, then you shouldn't worry overmuch about hurting their feelings.
Just say no thank you and move on, and use the block button if they persist.

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RE: picture request denials - 10/6/2014 8:56:58 PM   
spankmyass72


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Status: offline 		Ive had to do that. Some ad the nerve to tell me I forgot my sub training!. that's ok. I think they are fruitcakes anyway. Thank you for advice

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RE: picture request denials - 10/6/2014 8:58:33 PM   
amaster5


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Status: offline 		Lot's of fruitcake out there...someone should start collecting them all up and handing them out for Xmas presents...
wait that would be like giving coal wouldn't it? ;)

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RE: picture request denials - 10/6/2014 9:04:47 PM   
L8bloomer


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ORIGINAL: IIapetus

It's not a matter of respect. Would you hand over naked photos in any other situation in life? I recommend being a person first, a sub second. That's my 5c.


Ditto. (Its 5¢ now? Gee, thought it would be higher.)

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RE: picture request denials - 10/6/2014 9:11:46 PM   
IIapetus


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quote:

ORIGINAL: L8bloomer


quote:

ORIGINAL: IIapetus

It's not a matter of respect. Would you hand over naked photos in any other situation in life? I recommend being a person first, a sub second. That's my 5c.


Ditto. (Its 5¢ now? Gee, thought it would be higher.)


Damn that inflation.


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Make your own Iaps:

2 cups tigger
1 cup intellectual
1 cup athlete
4 free range eggs
Dash of nutmeg
Large splash of sarcasm
Sea salt and irreverence to taste

Combine in a large bowl, simmer over a high heat. Serve immediately.

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RE: picture request denials - 10/6/2014 9:35:22 PM   
L8bloomer


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ORIGINAL: IIapetus


quote:

ORIGINAL: L8bloomer

Ditto. (Its 5¢ now? Gee, thought it would be higher.)


Damn that inflation.



It could be worse.

What's a Iaps?

You're a rather fetching specimen. I'm surprised you haven't already been snatched up by a Domme.

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RE: picture request denials - 10/6/2014 10:05:50 PM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: spankmyass72

Ive had to do that. Some ad the nerve to tell me I forgot my sub training!. that's ok. I think they are fruitcakes anyway. Thank you for advice


Fine.

Asking for nudes was the first red flag. Whining was the second. Implying that you as a sub should submit to ALL D-identified people was the third.

Look. If they were serious about a relationship or friendship with you, they wouldn't be asking about dirty pics.

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RE: picture request denials - 10/6/2014 10:16:27 PM   
SeekingTrinity


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"No" and "I don't give a shit what you think" works well for me

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RE: picture request denials - 10/6/2014 10:39:05 PM   
freedomdwarf1


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ORIGINAL: spankmyass72

What do other subs out there do when told to send naked pics to a Dom they don't know? how do you let these people down without sounding like you are being disrespectful?

I have to agree with DS and Trinity.

You might be a sub and they might be a Dom.
But first and foremost, they are not YOUR Dom!!
I think that most people who do this stuff for real would say that no sub needs to bow down to any D-type unless there is some form of dynamic agreed between them.

Until you agree to become their sub, you owe them nothing more than common civility that you would extend to anyone else you might happen to meet in the street.
At this point, they are no more than just a.n.other random person on a website.

I would reply with something like: "Sorry. Not happening until I agree to be your sub".


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RE: picture request denials - 10/6/2014 10:41:08 PM   
IIapetus


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ORIGINAL: L8bloomer


quote:

ORIGINAL: IIapetus


quote:

ORIGINAL: L8bloomer

Ditto. (Its 5¢ now? Gee, thought it would be higher.)


Damn that inflation.



It could be worse.

What's a Iaps?

You're a rather fetching specimen. I'm surprised you haven't already been snatched up by a Domme.



We can but dream! An 'Iaps' is dark haired, 5"10, around 155 lb puppy/tigger cross.

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Make your own Iaps:

2 cups tigger
1 cup intellectual
1 cup athlete
4 free range eggs
Dash of nutmeg
Large splash of sarcasm
Sea salt and irreverence to taste

Combine in a large bowl, simmer over a high heat. Serve immediately.

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RE: picture request denials - 10/6/2014 10:45:10 PM   
PandoraFoxxx


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ORIGINAL: spankmyass72

What do other subs out there do when told to send naked pics to a Dom they don't know? how do you let these people down without sounding like you are being disrespectful?

I politely decline. "I'm not comfortable with that, I'm sorry, but I don't send nakies to people I don't know, yadda yadda yadda." If he insists, I tell him to blow and use his disrespect of my choices as a tell of his bad character. If he gets more abusive, I block him and report him. Life is too short to waste more than a few moments on jerks.

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RE: picture request denials - 10/7/2014 12:04:18 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		If people are rude to you, then you don't owe them politeness in return. What would you do if a stranger in a bar demanded you show him your tits because he was a dom? Same here.

Just block and delete.

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RE: picture request denials - 10/7/2014 8:19:14 PM   
Mistycalm


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Status: offline 		I tell them no, and move on. Nothing disrespectful about respecting YOURSELF.

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RE: picture request denials - 10/7/2014 9:57:21 PM   
stef


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quote:

ORIGINAL: spankmyass72

What do other subs out there do when told to send naked pics to a Dom they don't know?

Point and laugh?

quote:

how do you let these people down without sounding like you are being disrespectful?

People who have earned respect get respect. People who act as you have described have earned zero respect.

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RE: picture request denials - 10/8/2014 11:35:37 AM   
RockaRolla


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Fuck being respectful. You're under no obligation to bend to everyone who calls him/herself Dominant. Anyone who tells you otherwise has an overinflated ego at best and is potentially dangerous at worst.
I'm going to guess that you're new to the lifestyle. I've been in that position before, and thought that there was some kind of universal protocol to follow with people higher on the totem pole than I. There really isn't, but there are plenty of "Doms" who know people think otherwise and will perpetuate or take full advantage of that mentality.

Tell that person no. You can also give a reason (I don't send nudes to people I don't know and aren't comfortable with, or whatever reason you have - maybe he has yellow teeth and possibly smells funny?), but you don't need to. And if s/he gets pissy, you can delete and block with the comfort in knowing that you dodged a bullet.

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RE: picture request denials - 10/8/2014 11:40:58 AM   
Gauge


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What would you do if a stranger in a bar demanded you show him your tits because he was a dom?



I would show him my tits. That would be punishment enough for their rude behavior.

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RE: picture request denials - 10/8/2014 11:44:27 AM   
GoddessManko


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ORIGINAL: Gauge


quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

What would you do if a stranger in a bar demanded you show him your tits because he was a dom?



I would show him my tits. That would be punishment enough for their rude behavior.


*Asks OP for nudes*
OK Gauge, time to deliver on that promise.

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