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Denial - 10/8/2014 12:25:33 PM

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What is the longest you've gone without being allowed to orgasm.

Just curious.

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RE: Denial - 10/8/2014 12:54:32 PM

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10 days.

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RE: Denial - 10/8/2014 1:12:01 PM

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2 week

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RE: Denial - 10/8/2014 2:17:34 PM

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I think two weeks for me too.

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RE: Denial - 10/8/2014 2:24:45 PM

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Toy has made it a week. He's on day three of 11 now!

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RE: Denial - 10/8/2014 6:26:36 PM

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2 weeks. Makes me recall that banal line about how often a man is supposed to think about sex - lived it, lived it, lived it.

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RE: Denial - 10/13/2014 1:02:51 AM

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I've gone 10 days, hoping to find a domme to keep me locked long term, and make me squirm!

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RE: Denial - 10/13/2014 6:55:33 AM

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56 days without an orgasm or ejacualtion, almost all of which was in a chastity cage.

it was an enjoyable experience but one i would not like to repeat. now periods of 7-30 days are as much s i can handle.

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RE: Denial - 10/13/2014 8:41:14 AM

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I've been over a year now. Cancer can really suck out the sex drive from you.

Then again, Master doesn't restrict orgasms for me. Not his thing. In fact, he prefers for me to cum until I'm exhausted, when I'm well.

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RE: Denial - 10/14/2014 9:05:13 AM

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Ten months. I was supposed to go a year but my Master ordered me to orgasm. I still wish I'd gone the whole year. I've spent most of the last five years in denial, punctuated by a few weeks here and there of being allowed to orgasm so I've racked up some very long periods without orgasms at all.

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RE: Denial - 10/14/2014 9:11:28 AM

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Ten months. I was supposed to go a year but my Master ordered me to orgasm. I still wish I'd gone the whole year. I've spent most of the last five years in denial, punctuated by a few weeks here and there of being allowed to orgasm so I've racked up some very long periods without orgasms at all.

What do you enjoy about being denied orgasms for years? That's really long!

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RE: Denial - 10/14/2014 9:13:14 AM

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I am not suitable for orgasm denial. I love orgasms, denying me orgasms is a sure way to end the relationship and make me hate him and lose interest in him.

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RE: Denial - 10/14/2014 10:11:18 AM

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Ten months. I was supposed to go a year but my Master ordered me to orgasm. I still wish I'd gone the whole year. I've spent most of the last five years in denial, punctuated by a few weeks here and there of being allowed to orgasm so I've racked up some very long periods without orgasms at all.

What do you enjoy about being denied orgasms for years? That's really long!

The unbelievable level of arousal; finding everything intensely sexual; the increased feelings of submission and reverence for him and the masochistic pleasures of sex whilst holding back my own orgasm, to name a few.

To be honest, there are thousands of things I love about orgasm denial, but the feeling of being on a constant sexual high is probably the best one. You get very used to it, and you miss it when you don't feel like that. I always feel very depressed and deflated after I've ended a period of denial.

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I am not suitable for orgasm denial. I love orgasms

It's a common misconception that people into denial don't like orgasms. Most of us love orgasms and we're very good at orgasming. If we didn't love orgasms, denial wouldn't be interesting or exciting. Especially as a woman, if you're not very highly sexed, denial will often just end up with you switching off sexually. Highly sexed women can't switch off - the desire just grows and grows, along with the frustration, and this makes it a very intense and fascinating thing to experience.

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RE: Denial - 10/15/2014 9:54:35 AM

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It's a common misconception that people into denial don't like orgasms. Most of us love orgasms and we're very good at orgasming. If we didn't love orgasms, denial wouldn't be interesting or exciting. Especially as a woman, if you're not very highly sexed, denial will often just end up with you switching off sexually. Highly sexed women can't switch off - the desire just grows and grows, along with the frustration, and this makes it a very intense and fascinating thing to experience.

I need orgasms to get more sexually charged, the more orgasms I have, the more sexually charged I get, the more I crave and the more I want and my sex drives will keep growing larger and larger with more orgasms. The lack of orgasms will definitely make me lose interest in sex, and by the time he wants to have sex, I would be over it.

That's why I go cold turkey from sex, ONLY if I want to stop having interest in sex.

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RE: Denial - 10/15/2014 12:03:16 PM

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i agree with Greta75. most of the individuals that enjoy or like chastity control have a high interest in orgasms. the motive for me is being denied something i enjoy for the purpose of pleasing a Domme. i find it is an issue of control and giving control away to another that you want to. even though the arousals will deminish especially if the chastity cage is tight, the desire still remains. this provides a Domme with a good tool for control of her submissives/slaves.

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RE: Denial - 10/15/2014 1:10:24 PM

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That's why I go cold turkey from sex, ONLY if I want to stop having interest in sex.

I never stop having an interest in sex. I don't think it's possible for me. I used to wonder if that's what happened when people did orgasm denial, but now I know it's not the case. The arousal never goes away, you just learn to live with it :-)

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RE: Denial - 10/18/2014 3:53:14 PM

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I agree with Greta too, it can be mildly exciting/infuriating for a couple of days at the most and then my sex drive starts to disappear and I just think what is the point of this. Edging makes it slightly more bearable and a bit more exciting but it doesn't make the orgasm any more intense when I'm allowed to again. Its a great way to make me lose interest if done for prolonged periods.

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RE: Denial - 10/18/2014 9:52:05 PM

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I think the sexual chemistry between dom/domme and submissive/slave greatly factors into the effects of orgasm tease and denial. If I am with a sexually stimulating woman and she is teasing me, my reactions will be more potent than otherwise.
The interaction between partners, opening themselves up in such a way, intrigues me very much.

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RE: Denial - 10/19/2014 7:14:35 AM

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I'm not a good candidate for long term denial.
I consider him physically paying me attention a huge part of his expression of love.
It eventually starts to effect how I think he feels about me, and I start to feel really ugly and unwanted, two weeks is the limit of what I would do again.

Current man isn't into denial anyways, much more into forced.

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RE: Denial - 10/19/2014 7:38:36 AM

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ORIGINAL: orgasmdenial12
It's a common misconception that people into denial don't like orgasms. Most of us love orgasms and we're very good at orgasming. If we didn't love orgasms, denial wouldn't be interesting or exciting. Especially as a woman, if you're not very highly sexed, denial will often just end up with you switching off sexually. Highly sexed women can't switch off - the desire just grows and grows, along with the frustration, and this makes it a very intense and fascinating thing to experience.

I need orgasms to get more sexually charged, the more orgasms I have, the more sexually charged I get, the more I crave and the more I want and my sex drives will keep growing larger and larger with more orgasms. The lack of orgasms will definitely make me lose interest in sex, and by the time he wants to have sex, I would be over it.

That's why I go cold turkey from sex, ONLY if I want to stop having interest in sex.

I am like you both. I have gone most of this year without an orgasm. Sometimes I will wake up and the urge is so strong I have to wait for it to subside as I writhe in bed, if it doesn't I place my finger against my labia minora til it stops. I prefer only to orgasm when I am with someone, I am hypersexual and even dealt with a porn addiction once so I have to go cold turkey but regular play with someone I care for deeply= the most amazing orgasms in the world. I need to have that emotional connection with someone for it to work. And if I masturbate...I won't stop. I'll be in bed for 5 hours and nothing will get done.
I feel like the human body gets used to routine, in fact it craves it. So when you adopt that routine, it becomes a part of you on a biological level. I'm a chaste nymphomaniac and I have no desire to lay with men casually. It's like Freud said I suppose. Everything is about sex except sex which is about power. Might be true, my focus has always been self improvement and I think that defines why I am who I am and what I seek in a long term counterpart.

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