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FieryOpal -> RE: Relying on unquestioned disclosure (10/15/2014 10:08:01 AM)
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ORIGINAL: MariaB
What I should of done is get him to hold up his football (he's a keen football player) and I would of seen that the ball was nearly as big as him [:D]
ROFLMAO[sm=biggrin.gif]
I still don't understand how on earth this midget thought he could pull off his deception for so long, knowing that once you met him you would see for yourself that he wasn't an average-sized sub. I think people like that hope that they can get somebody to bond with them first, and that they'll endear themselves to you so much that nothing else will matter. [8|]
Believe me, it would be far better to undersell oneself rather than to oversell and not be able to deliver. If some guy wants to surprise me, it should be a good surprise, not a bad one. Where this becomes problematic once D/s and/or BDSM enters the picture is that operating under the premise of fully informed consent cannot work if either party withholds sensitive information or acts as if keeping potential partners fully informed without playing guessing games just isn't a priority to them (or one that can be delayed).
OP, upset and disappointed might be a better way to portray one's natural reaction to having been deceived or otherwise led on, rather than "getting angry." There may also be a sense of betrayal that a person has been found to be untrustworthy and not operating in good faith, directly proportionate to the degree of honesty and openness that was shown that person. Now, if somebody was not doing likewise, then s/he would not feel as inclined to hold the other person to a similar standard of integrity. [:)]
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