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FieryOpal -> How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 6:20:40 AM)

This means if it were possible to find someone who embodies what you want, need and desire in your ideal mate and life partner, what would he or she be like? You could view this person as your soul mate, twin flame or a kindred spirit, your Most Significant Other.

This time I'll start. My ideal mate would possess these characteristics (in no particular order):

1. Monogamous, Loyal and Devoted Lover (not interested in any other women)
2. Totally Straight and Masculine
3. Intelligent and Good Conversationalist
4. Romantic, Kind Hearted Gentleman
5. Passionate Disposition
6. Has Integrity and Code of Honor
7. Submissive Nature (but only to me, not with anyone else)
8. Protective and Possessive (and not afraid to show it)
9. Interesting, Confident Personality (without being arrogant)
10. Emotionally Mature, Unselfish, and Responsible
11. Sense of Humor, Doesn't Take Self Too Seriously (has humility)
12. Loves Animals and Children

ETA: If you are already partnered up, then what traits do you value and appreciate the most in your partner?



CaptR -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 7:15:40 AM)

She's
Intelligent
Educated
Principled
Confident
Successful in her endeavors
Challenging
Loyal to herself and me
Submissive
Beautiful in my eyes
Devoted to family
Loving
Positive outlook
This is a long list so I'll finish by saying fortunately she's already my reality



DarkSteven -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 7:23:49 AM)

1. Bi (Willing to be with other women). Willing to have sex only with me, but open to spanking/bondage/etc. play with other men
2. Has strengths and weaknesses that complement mine
3. Intelligent and Good Conversationalist
4. Comfortable in jeans working or in a nice dress at a fancy function
5. Family oriented
6. Has Integrity and Code of Honor
7. Submissive to me
8. Not requiring micromanagement
9. Interesting, Confident Personality (without being arrogant)
10. Emotionally Mature, Unselfish, and Responsible
11. Sense of Humor, Doesn't Take Self Too Seriously (has humility)
12. Loves Animals and Children
13. Likes gardening or at least tolerates it in me
14. Currently works or has worked an office job so she understands that part of me
15. Compatible kinks



ResidentSadist -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 7:51:37 AM)

Smart
Sexy
Happy
Passionate
Romantic
Masochistic





MariaB -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 8:01:32 AM)

I already have it all and the list would be too long ;)



ResidentSadist -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 8:07:24 AM)

^ My slave is also ideally matched . . . so much so, I married her.



Greta75 -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 8:07:41 AM)

Okay, MR PERFECT who will never exist, here I go:

No Particular Order

1) Tall, heavy, big, Athletic
2) Big forearms and huge thighs and calves and big butt
3) Can read my mind, is totally psychic with me sexually and mentally and in bdsm of course
4) Likes everything I like, dislike everything I dislike
5) Understands me
6) I understand him
7) Honest, Straightforward like me
8) Love to cuddle and hug
9) Love to use me as his bolster when he sleeps
10) Needs me like I will need him
11) Someone who will always put me as Number 1 as he will be mine
12) A sense of humour that syncs with me
13) Great communicator
14) Outspoken and Confident
15) Physically affectionate
16) Very diplomatic with great emotional quotient
17) A manly man who treats a woman like a woman who needs to be cared for and protected
18) Good Hygiene practices
19) Kind
20) No temper, always in control and objective
21) Needs sex 3 times a day like I do
22) Black or Dark Brown hair, kinda super important



crazyml -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 9:49:59 AM)

Very very intelligent
Principled
Adventurous
And very very very dirty.



mnottertail -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 9:58:26 AM)

You're talking about me there, but alas, we're never meant to be, old bean.



IrishMist -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 10:02:56 AM)

quote:

ETA: If you are already partnered up, then what traits do you value and appreciate the most in your partner?

He's stubborn
Loyal
Honest
a bit rough around the edges
sadisticly cruel
has a twisted sense of humor
compassionate

there are more, but those come to mind the quickest



orgasmdenial12 -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 10:05:39 AM)

Well, to be brutally honest, I love that the sex is amazing and his personality complements mine. I react emotionally to things whereas he is very calm and laid back. We have similar life goals and we're both very affectionate in relationships. We just suit each other :-)



SweetnStormySub -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 10:28:41 AM)

Monogamous
Good sense of humor
Good with his hands (take that any way you like)
Loves animals
Is calm and balances my spastic times
Compatible kinks and passions
Has a mind of his own
Is as protective of me as I am of him
Only submissive with me and is emotionally open and healthy
Has a burning passion for me
Husky, athletic build
In no particular order..



Spiritedsub2 -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 12:40:30 PM)

Highly intelligent
Calm
Loves animals and nature
Self-sustaining
Not blinded by ego
Capable
Dominant and kinky [:)]





GoddessManko -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 12:54:06 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Greta75

21) Needs sex 3 times a day like I do


LOL damn, you're most guys' perfect woman.

My list;
1. Sane
2. Individual
3. Good sense of humor
4. Adventurous, I live outdoors when not tied to work.
5. Can keep up with me athletically, I'm fine with training him into my physical ideal.
6. Intelligent and good depth perception.
7. Self aware.
8. Kind hearted.
9. HONEST.
10. MONOGAMOUS.
11. In relative good health (or where I'm not at risk of getting ill.) Dating someone in a wheelchair is preferable to dating someone who might make me sick.
12. Not intimidated by intelligent women.
13. Supports my ambitions.
14. Transparent.
15. Submissive vanilla>>>slave. I NEED the power exchange, not just the kink. The kink only sweetens the deal.
16. Trusting and trust worthy (goes back to honest I suppose).
17. Romantic.
18. Flosses.





MariaB -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 2:25:08 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

^ My slave is also ideally matched . . . so much so, I married her.


Same here [:D]



IIapetus -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 6:08:06 PM)

I think most qualities fall into one of four categories: the emotional, the intellectual, the physical, and the sexual. So here's my spectrum of ideals:

Genuine and sincere - wears heart on sleeve.
Sense of humor - smiles at life.
Loyal - to their partner and to themselves.
Expansive and progress oriented - believes in personal development.
Positive - see's the opportunity in problems
Caring and compassionate - in sickness and in health
Honest.
Moral and principled - does what is right, not because they must.
Passionate - the catalyst for so much of life.
Trustful - trusting and trustworthy.
Know thyself nature.
Self/Emotionally aware and communicative - is aware of, and can communicate, their feelings.
Physically active and healthy - as a vessel of all the rest of life's endeavors, looks after their body.
Forgiving
Creative and spontaneous - the spice of life.
Inquisitive - loves to learn and explore.
Cerebral - enjoys thinking pursuits.
Monogamous.
Idealist - there's more to life than money.
Dedicated - to goals, to their passions, to their partner.
Adventurous - be it in the city they live in or traveling the world.
Down to earth - as happy in a Michelin star restaurant, as a tent in the woods.
Romantic
Pantherinae
Sentimental
Sensual - to touch, and be touched.

Iaps.

P.S.,
Oh, and naturally, gloriously - dominant ;)

P.P.S.,
And a partridge in a pear tree.



shiftyw -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 6:19:29 PM)

Listens
Caring
Funny/sarcastic
Intelligent
Sexy, to me
Cerebral
Less inclined to monogamy

ETA- if it's a guy, dominant, if its a girl...that may be flexible.



SlipSlidingAway -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 6:27:45 PM)

Intelligent
Communicative
Down to earth
Sense of humor
Playful
Well rounded
Open minded
Dominant (d'uh lol)
A bit of a philosopher
Romantic
Carnal
Loving
Caring
A man of many interests
A champion of worthwhile causes
A dash of daddy dom, but not enough to be creepy lol
Introspective
A "big picture" kind of guy
Not a procrastinator
Mature and responsible
Knows how to make me feel wanted- in AND out of the bedroom
Possessive, in a good way (at least in a good way to me lol)




Greta75 -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 6:31:04 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessManko
LOL damn, you're most guys' perfect woman.


I don't know, I think men only think they can have sex 3 times a day. But long term relationship and actually living up to it, I've never dated a man who can actually do it. Maybe just the beginning , that's it. It will die down to 3 times a week or worst. I feel like they won't feel the desire for sex eventually if a woman is always available for him to fuck. I think all those wives who refuses sex often and keep them starving are on to something. And for me, I don't need alot to get into the mood. I just need to be touch, and I'm in the mood. Also the more sex I have, the more my sexual appetite increases, it does not decrease, sex is like foreplay itself that turns me on more for me. I think men's appetite decreases with more sex they have.



DerangedUnit -> RE: How Do You Envision Your Ideal Mate? (10/14/2014 7:30:26 PM)

Well I never was the type to invision things, more just let them happen. My favorite attributes of my other half:

Protective- likes to show me off but would never let anyone touch me

Takes what he wants, I never have to wonder what he's thinking and he's not threatened by me doing the same

We have the same communication style. He just bloody gets it way more than he should. We are able to respect and understand each others opinion even when we don't agree

Passionate for lack of a better word. He puts energy into everything he does

All over me, I never have to wonder if he's interested he's on all the time

Doesn't censor himself or cave to make it easier.

Single minded. When he makes up his mind that is all he sees. Whether it's me or politics.

And probably most important, he doesn't make me fight him. Given the option he won't make a choice designed to test me, doesn't make me play games just lets me do what I need to without using it against me later

And unbearably sweet, always sneaking time with me or finding ways to take me on jobs, sentimental about things I would never remember and cares about how im treated.

The way he always catches me when I fall, when he knows the exact moment to throw me up against a wall, never stops needing me, and is a damn good lay.

And greta75 you are right there, most like to chase and once they win they think they are done they dont get that whatever catches us in the tryout is what they have to do forever



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