DarkSteven
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ORIGINAL: Poloboi234
Well, to those whom responded. Point well taken.
Also, not a gay man, or anything of the sort. I think I'm Asexual... but if the time arises I'll get some snatch from a woman. Being a "Dom" is something that intrigues me, I like to meet the people and the psychology of it all. Sex isn't an option, and sex won't ever happen. I try to be a "Pro-Dom" as they say. Which I think encompasses me to a T.
Your profile stated that you were male, looking for men. I took that as being gay, without realizing that you were looking for men, but without sex in the equation. My error. quote:
I was out of line( I guess?), but it's "Dom to Dom" so to speak. I think we can be a little, 'tongue and cheek' to each other.
You're confusing me very much here. You imply that, as a Dom, you have a certain stature. That does not hold any water in the common lifestyle, but it does in Leather and Old Guard, which you are being dismissive of. Gorean, too, for that matter. That said, you would need to act in the protocol of those styles, which you have not done. quote:
All the things he was talking about, truly did creep me out. I mean, "The ancients" then insulting me, and that we aren't on the same "level" or implying that if I were to sleep with my subs (male) that I was somehow not a "man". Though I don't and haven't and won't ever sleep with anyone (really freaked on diseases and STD's), plus there is no desire too. I thought being a "Pro" meant you didn't engage in sex which I let the person know.. which I do think ruffled his feathers. He was the type that doms people to basically "fuck them" in the guise of being a "dom" as he was looking for random people in his area... so it is what it is. To each his own.
Again, I'm not sure if you were talking with someone who was Old Guard or Leather. Please clarify.
Being a pro means you get paid. Period. All pros with a half a brain will not engage in sex with clients so they won't get charged with prostitution (and it's a simple hard limit with many in addition) but there are numerous no-sex situations which do not involve money and are not pro. Likely it ruffled his feathers because he realized you were inaccurate here. quote:
I know this website has weirdo's and creeps. Didn't realize how weird, or how creepy. If you can't leave this world of "make believe" (yes it is make believe in the sense you can't do it in public, or assert that way in public) to have a chat, then it is what it is.
Absolutely not. There ARE in fact ways to do it discreetly in public. No panties, him ordering for her, jewelry that serves as a collar, etc. You calling it "make believe" will piss off a lot of people. quote:
We had a verbal sparring match. I think I won, but in the end we both lost. I still had respect for the person. I just found his response to make no sense. Telling me about "ancients" with no context or to even let me know which context, then sitting back superior just seemed stupid. Just dumb, in all manners and respects. It is what it is. I still stand by my "Alpha rules" that he couldn't dispute. It is what it is,
Fella, what the hell is your goal? If it was to learn, you should have shut your mouth a lot more. I have not seen any respect you had for this guy despite your claim, and it sounds like you were not even aware of what protocol he was following. quote:
I must be the weird one on here, whenever I say, "it's non-sexual" many people on collarme, and subs or women that email me get upset.
They're confused, and rightly so. You're a Dom who calls himself a boi, you confuse being a pro with being asexual, and you're not even aware that you're misusing terms and concepts. I suspect they were not upset, but that you interpreted questioning and disptuing your words as being upset. quote:
If i just wanted to get some pussy I wouldn't have to come here to do it, I'm not that pathetic (as I felt the guy kind of was, though he must of been of the highest order).
This is the guy you just said you still had respect for? Just checking. quote:
It's simple to go out and find some pussy to slay... a lot harder to not give in to it. and dom the broad anyway... great to break a man's will, then build it up again as well.Just how I feel about the entire thing. Again I'm Asexual, or just a prude. I like S/M and the dynamics... If I was gay or pansexual, or a voyeur, etc... wouldn't this be the place to express it? I mean, if anywhere was the place to discuss my sexuality or sex or anything, I think collarme is the place I'd be honest. I mean, as if anyone here knows whom I really am? or vice versa. It is what it is... I still think he was a douche... a weird douche... but he's from the "Baby boomer" generation, so what do I expect? shoot me...
Stop it. Just stop it. You're misusing terms and confusing people. Own up to YOUR errors and YOUR responsibility to explain yourself clearly. Claiming that he was too old to "get" you is a cop out.
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