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littleone35 -> Choices (7/12/2006 12:04:11 PM)

This question is for submissives, my Master always gives me a choice.  I can either do what he says or i get the strap and have to do it anyway.  Not much of a choice for a sub who does not like pain.

My question is how many subs get any kind of choice not just the kind described above.  And what are the choices?

And for the Masters/Mistresses who read this forum how many give their subs choices and what are they?

Matt's littleone



OsideGirl -> RE: Choices (7/12/2006 12:17:23 PM)

I'm frequently given choices. I usually get asked things like what I would like for dinner, what movie I'd like to see, what I'd like to do for entertainment. It doesn't mean that I get those things. It just means that he has weighed in my desires and then made his choice. There are others things get left entirely up to me, quite simply because he doesn't want to be involved with the decision.

I've never been given a choice of obedience in the manner of "Do this or you'll get punished." At the beginning of our relationship he laid it out that the only two options were to do it or have a very good and valid reason for not doing it. And that reason needs to be presented when it's assigned, not after it should have been completed.



sleazybutterfly -> RE: Choices (7/12/2006 12:24:18 PM)

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At the beginning of our relationship he laid it out that the only two options were to do it or have a very good and valid reason for not doing it. And that reason needs to be presented when it's assigned, not after it should have been completed.


This is pretty much what I have had also.  It's ok if there is a valid reason..but it had better be given before it is to happen..and not used as an excuse after.
 
~Andrea



Taylore -> RE: Choices (7/12/2006 12:42:41 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

This question is for submissives, my Master always gives me a choice.  I can either do what he says or i get the strap and have to do it anyway.  Not much of a choice for a sub who does not like pain.

My question is how many subs get any kind of choice not just the kind described above.  And what are the choices?

And for the Masters/Mistresses who read this forum how many give their subs choices and what are they?

Matt's littleone

This slave ALWAYS has a choice. I have the choice to obey; if I choose not to, I am shown the door. It's very simple.



juliaoceania -> RE: Choices (7/12/2006 1:10:01 PM)

Deleted because I realize it really isn't all that related to the opening post once I posted it... Is the heat getting to me or what?



RavenMuse -> RE: Choices (7/12/2006 1:35:03 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35
And for the Masters/Mistresses who read this forum how many give their subs choices and what are they?


helen gets many choises.... Like we go somewhere to eat, she has the chance to choose what she wants, but if she starts dithering then I'll simply choose for her.

I've told her she has to be in bed by a certain time, She has the choise to ask to go earlier should she feel tired enough to sleep earlier.

There is the mum part of her life where it is HER responcibility and she makes ALL the choises (I'm still there for advice and support though)




sub4hire -> RE: Choices (7/12/2006 1:54:34 PM)

Our relationship is based on mutual respect so I always have a choice.  Of course because it is based on respect more often than not I also ask his opinion.

Though when it comes down to something insignificant like what to wear for the day, there is no discussion.  It is just what he has decided.

Controlling someone by fear is not respect. 



littleone35 -> RE: Choices (7/12/2006 2:55:36 PM)

It is more of a tease then anything else i am sorry if i sounded afraid of him.  I am not he knows what choice i am going to make so he teases me by saying see i give you a choice.  I serve him out of love and respect nor fear.  I guess i just worded it wrong.

Matt's littleone



babysburnin -> RE: Choices (7/12/2006 6:22:45 PM)

Littleone, I didn't get a sense of fear from your post.  I have choices...but they depend on HIS mood sometimes.  If HE is feeling particularly DOM, which I can read, I don't push it - just obey.  Most other times I have choices, and HE actually asks for my opinion/input.

When playing though - the only choice I have is to use my "safe words". 



ownedgirlie -> RE: Choices (7/12/2006 6:34:03 PM)

~ fast reply ~

I didn't take the OP to be fearful,  either. 

I am given a choice, over all.  Submit to him or don't belong to him.  As for choices in basic day to stay stuff...those are his choices, also.  If we are out to dinner, he'll allow me to look at the menu, and then will ask what looks good to me.  I tell him, and he orders it for me.  Sometimes I will say there are a couple of things that look good, and I tell him what they are.  And he decides.  Once he ordered me this absolutely horrible wine.  I had just told him a few hours pior that I hated that wine.  I laughed to myself that he would order it for me, thinking that was just cruel. LOL.  As I was sipping it, using all I could muster to not crinkle my nose at it, he said, "I don't know how you can stand that shit."  Apparently he misunderstood, and thought I liked the stuff.  Oh well.  I drank it anyway. 



TxBadMan -> RE: Choices (7/13/2006 9:53:58 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

This question is for submissives, my Master always gives me a choice.  I can either do what he says or i get the strap and have to do it anyway.  Not much of a choice for a sub who does not like pain.

My question is how many subs get any kind of choice not just the kind described above.  And what are the choices?

And for the Masters/Mistresses who read this forum how many give their subs choices and what are they?

Matt's littleone

My girl always has choices. In some instances, she is given only two. Either obey, or terminate the relationship.
In others, she has the choice of speaking up and expressing her concerns. If she uses this choice, we discuss it, then I make a decision.
And still, in other instances, she has the choice to ask my advice on something or not. I do not require that her life be totally managed by me. She is an adult, she knows how to think on her own, and she knows how to make the distinction between what is right, and what is wrong.

No matter what kind of relationship a person is in, choices are always present.



Curiossdragnlily -> RE: Choices (7/13/2006 10:07:43 AM)

The choices that i am allowed to make are within the boundaries that Master has set. As His slave there is only one choice and that is to obey. Disobedience will and is dealt within appropriately. Now my Master does know i have a mind and wishes me to use it. If it is something that i may state a fact or anything like that, He wishes me to do so. As long as it is done respectfully. He will consider it. But that does not mean that i still will not be doing it as He originally stated. i know that He will listen though.
with respect,
lily, collared and owned slave of Master Curios
srn 308-692-331



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