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SweetForDaddy -> The Female Orgasm (10/17/2014 12:55:03 PM)

I only have clitoral orgasms, the clitoris has to be directly stimulated, it can be stimulated in a variety of ways but it has to be stimulated with some kind of rhythmic pressure. Isn't that the only place where the nerve endings are that make orgasm physically possible?

I have squirted, through masturbation and anal sex once but I don't consider that to be an orgasm. I think this was from the G spot being stimulated. It's an intense experience but not an orgasm as I know them to be. I hear some people describing them as an orgasm, does it feel different to some people than it does for me?

I think with vaginal orgasms (don't know because I never had one) the same nerve endings are being stimulated because the stem of the clit is being touched in some way? Maybe the clit is a different shape/longer in some women than others? If that is the case, wouldn't that mean that anal orgasms or any other type are a total myth?

I find it so odd that in this day and age its still so mystical, even amongst women themselves.

I'd love to hear other womens thoughts.



littleladybug -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/17/2014 1:01:05 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SweetForDaddy

I only have clitoral orgasms, the clitoris has to be directly stimulated, it can be stimulated in a variety of ways but it has to be stimulated with some kind of rhythmic pressure. Isn't that the only place where the nerve endings are that make orgasm physically possible?



Actually, no. I've had orgasms simply from nipple play. No clitoral stimulation whatsoever.

But, isn't what really what matters is that you or your partner know where your buttons are? *s*





SweetForDaddy -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/17/2014 1:03:22 PM)

Where do you feel the orgasm when that happens?




littleladybug -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/17/2014 1:07:01 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SweetForDaddy

Where do you feel the orgasm when that happens?




All over...same with a clitoral orgasm....



shiftyw -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/17/2014 1:10:32 PM)

I've really only had a couple "internal" orgasms- the feel the same.
I do squirt- it usually feels the same as a regular orgasm.

This will help you: http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-relationships/anatomy-of-an-orgasm



SweetForDaddy -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/17/2014 1:15:56 PM)

Is it possible for you describe that feeling?

I will attempt to describe mine - It's like an electrical current in my clit and it builds in waves, there are other signs that its happening, stiffening of limbs, rapid heartbeat sometimes, internal muscles contracting but the main sensation and the only one I can describe as orgasm happens in my clit. It wouldn't be an orgasm without that for me.



SweetForDaddy -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/17/2014 1:17:44 PM)

That link didn't work for me.



FieryOpal -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/17/2014 1:18:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: littleladybug
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ORIGINAL: SweetForDaddy

I only have clitoral orgasms, the clitoris has to be directly stimulated, it can be stimulated in a variety of ways but it has to be stimulated with some kind of rhythmic pressure. Isn't that the only place where the nerve endings are that make orgasm physically possible?


Actually, no. I've had orgasms simply from nipple play. No clitoral stimulation whatsoever.

But, isn't what really what matters is that you or your partner know where your buttons are? *s*

llb, I've come (no pun) very close to getting orgasms while having my nipples sucked on, but not what I'd technically consider an orgasm. The same with my neck being an erogenous zone for me that sends chills up and down my spine (but strangely, not my earlobes, and blowing in my ear is just plain annoying). I can feel cervical contractions like when I was nursing, but the difference is that there are also pulsations within my vagina. Not sure whether that involves my G-spot or not.

OP, I used to only have clitoral orgasms thru my 20s. During intercourse I could come without digital stimulation when my husband's body was rubbing against my pubic mound and that would give me a clitoral orgasm. It wasn't until I hit my early 30s that I started experiencing vaginal orgasms. They're less intense, but longer lasting. If you are expecting the same degree of intensity, then you may not have distinguished a strictly vaginal orgasm from a clitoral. Chances are that you have been experiencing them because you say you've squirted, and so do I with vaginal/G-spot stimulation. With anal, it's an indirect stimulation from bearing down on the vaginal canal. (At least it is for me.)

ETA: FYI, I can experience both kinds of orgasms overlapping one another when I'm in a position, such as doggy-style or while laying on my side, where I can self-stimulate my clitoris during penetration.



mnottertail -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/17/2014 1:19:13 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SweetForDaddy

That link didn't work for me.



Oh, honey, it worked for me, those lips were.............



DaddySatyr -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/17/2014 1:22:16 PM)


I would think that this belongs in the "Myths & Rumors" section. No?

I have known a few ladies in my life with whom I've been able to talk about this kind of thing, openly and honestly. I consider myself to be a rare breed; I listen.

As crazy as this sounds; please try a little experiment:

Put your thumb on your clit and slip your index finger inside you. Now, try to make an "OK" symbol with your thumb and forefinger. Where your forefinger is touching is the "G spot".

The mistake a lot of people make, when they try to make a lady squirt the first time is they think it's about penetration. It isn't. Your partner needs to get you very relaxed; maybe a nice, warm bath and a very slow, sensual (not sexual, guys) massage. Once you're relaxed, if you lay on your back and your partner puts one or two fingers inside you and moves them in an up-and-down motion, chances are likely that you'll experience some squirting.

Obviously, I left out the part where they "warm you up" in whatever way works best for you.







Screen captures (and pissing on shadows) still RULE! Ya feel me?



shiftyw -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/17/2014 1:25:56 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SweetForDaddy

Is it possible for you describe that feeling?

I will attempt to describe mine - It's like an electrical current in my clit and it builds in waves, there are other signs that its happening, stiffening of limbs, rapid heartbeat sometimes, internal muscles contracting but the main sensation and the only one I can describe as orgasm happens in my clit. It wouldn't be an orgasm without that for me.


I tend not to give out wank fodder on this board, but for you, cause you're profile pic is sexy, I will make an exception.

I feel pulses, generally so strong it could "eject him" if he isn't at the right angle/depth. That is the case for ALL my orgasms- no matter the source.
If I squirt, its usually not like...some huge fire hose spouting, its more a well...squirt, that diminishes to a trickle.

All this doesn't really matter though- because every lady is different. Why stress about this?
Please don't tell me it was the deep throat thread...



SweetForDaddy -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/17/2014 1:28:29 PM)

FieryOpal, I've come close with nipple play also, I mean I can get very excited by it but I'm at a loss to understand how it could be physically possible to achieve orgasm that way because there is no direct stimulation of the nerve endings that make orgasm possible.

I do feel pleasure from penetrative sex, anal and vaginal, its a nice feeling but I don't think I've missed having a vaginal orgasm, unless they are so shit I didn't even notice.

Squirting is a weird one, it feels like everything swells up inside, definitely intense and there is a release of fluid, sometimes in large amounts but theres not that electrical kind of pulsing that I know an orgasm to be, or the feeling of being satisfied afterwards.




shiftyw -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/17/2014 1:30:44 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SweetForDaddy

FieryOpal, I've come close with nipple play also, I mean I can get very excited by it but I'm at a loss to understand how it could be physically possible to achieve orgasm that way because there is no direct stimulation of the nerve endings that make orgasm possible.

I do feel pleasure from penetrative sex, anal and vaginal, its a nice feeling but I don't think I've missed having a vaginal orgasm, unless they are so shit I didn't even notice.

Squirting is a weird one, it feels like everything swells up inside, definitely intense and there is a release of fluid, sometimes in large amounts but theres not that electrical kind of pulsing that I know an orgasm to be, or the feeling of being satisfied afterwards.




I actually agree- for me- squirting doesn't satisfy me, and usually he has to get me there again in order to calm me down. I still get pulses though, mine all feel really the same. I get really turned on by nipple play, but I need clit or at least vaginal contact to cum, all the time.



SweetForDaddy -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/17/2014 1:37:35 PM)

shiftyw, hehe, thanks. I'm not stressed, just interested. It was the deep throat thread :-)

The pulses I feel with clitoral orgasm are so strong I have 'ejected' things and him'

Are we really all that different when it comes to this? I'm not so sure we are. It's a bodily function and we all have pretty much the same bits. I'm sure we are all different in what gets us to the place mentally and in some ways physically but the anatomy of a woman is such that the nerves that make it physically possible to achieve orgasm are only in one place.



shiftyw -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/17/2014 1:44:54 PM)

Yah, but to describe what we feel I bet is different to every girl. How many hormones you have, wether you're on the pill or not, etc.

That link says simply- that a sad sad 25% of ladies have an orgasm at all with a partner. It doesn't mention spontaneous orgasms- which I'm clearly a skeptic. But basically it says, it doesn't happen for a lot of ladies because they don't have enough clitoral stimulation.

Also, THIS is an example of why I didn't like what was being stated in that thread- don't feel pressured to orgasm in a certain way! You're just as good at cumming as every other lady.

ETA- the article also states they can't find the point of a female orgasm. So...that shows you how little anyone actually knows.



SweetForDaddy -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/17/2014 2:14:55 PM)

shiftyw

Cant find the point, hehe, unbelievable really but that could be taken to be quite literal in a lot of people cases ;-) 25% is very sad indeed.

I don't feel pressured to come in a certain way at all really. I have in the past, some people see it as a bit abnormal if you don't achieve orgasm through penetrative sex. Thats the one of the reasons I started this thread, so people don't feel pressured or think they aren't normal because they don't. I didn't want to take the deepthroat thread any more off topic by adding to the orgasm discussion there.

I'm skeptical of any orgasm that isn't from direct stimulation of the clitoris or vagina really, I can only just grasp that women have vaginal ones. I wish the damn things were easier to describe. I've heard lots of people saying they have other types but I've never really heard one of those types being described.



FieryOpal -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/17/2014 5:19:44 PM)


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ORIGINAL: SweetForDaddy

...some people see it as a bit abnormal if you don't achieve orgasm through penetrative sex.

I'm skeptical of any orgasm that isn't from direct stimulation of the clitoris or vagina really, I can only just grasp that women have vaginal ones
....

Hm-mm, how do I say this delicately. I don't come from intercourse by itself when my partner's not well-equipped. If it's too big then it's uncomfortable, so that factors in as well.

If you had never experienced an orgasm before in your life, you might be skeptical of those women who do, and you would not have a frame of reference for it, because there just isn't any comparable set of sensations.

The breast-genital connection gets strengthened in women who have breastfed. There are neural pathways there, and this is why those cervical contractions (while nursing) will naturally tighten the vagina back up after childbirth.

There are many things in life that are subjectively experiential and cannot be understood objectively from the outside looking in. That doesn't mean that they aren't real. [:)]



Greta75 -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/17/2014 5:22:18 PM)

I am completely numb inside my vagina, so I have never gotten a vagina orgasm in my life.

But I can get gazillion orgasms with clit stimulation.

I wouldn't even worry too much about it, every woman is built differently.

Some women can only orgase through anal penetration and nothing else.

Although if you can, try getting this:

It's fairy wand with it's attachment, this is the best design of a dildo I have ever played with, because there is feelers at the end of the dick which tickles the g-spot when penetrated and the feeling is amazing. For me, most dildos are useless, even curved one, I never feel like they stimulate the gspot at all, but this the only one that did it for me. I've got a huge toys collection. And tested many things to try to make myself orgase inside, as men's dick usually doesn't work for me. Their fingers work better, guess because fingers can hit the g-spot.

http://shop.mercitoys.com/Fairy-Attachments/Fairy-Mini-Wand-Massager-Attachments/Fairy-Mini-Mini-II-Vibrator-Attachment-Cactus.html




orgasmdenial12 -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/18/2014 3:37:23 AM)

I never orgasm through direct clitoral stimulation, I only orgasm from penetration. It is the 'cervical tapping' of the thrusts that make me orgasm. I find any direct stimulation of the clitoris to be unpleasant.

Scientific studies have recently concluded that there is no such thing as the G-spot and this concurs with my own anatomical responses to pressure in that area - does nothing for me.

I find this link interesting, which discusses, amongst other things, the percentage of women who can orgasm from different types of stimulation.

http://www.athenainstitute.com/illustrations/acog00-Table5.gif

In women with an intact uterus, 82% could orgasm from clitoral stimulation, 39% from vaginal stimulation and 17% from cervical tapping.

I personally believe squirting to be a type of weeing but I recognise that this is a sometimes unpopular view (which does not disprove it however).

I think the thing that most concerns me about the female orgasm, is how ignorant a great many women are about their own bodies and are willing to believe whatever is the most popular recent idea without researching and considering it for themself. At a doctor's one time, I was discussing a slight issue with my cervix, and the nurse was amazed that I knew where my own cervix was. I can't believe that in this day and age there is any woman who doesn't understand the basic anatomy of her own genitals.






orgasmdenial12 -> RE: The Female Orgasm (10/18/2014 3:46:23 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SweetForDaddy
I'm skeptical of any orgasm that isn't from direct stimulation of the clitoris or vagina really, I can only just grasp that women have vaginal ones. I wish the damn things were easier to describe. I've heard lots of people saying they have other types but I've never really heard one of those types being described.


I also have had orgasms from nipple stimulation from clamps.

I get a 'butterfly' tingly feeling around my vagina which I believe is uterine spasms and this rapidly snowballs into a really fantastic orgasm.

The orgasm is so strong and quick that I literally couldn't get the clamps off quick enough to stop it (I was doing orgasm denial at the time - or trying to!) and it was accompanied with excellent vaginal spasms, hip thrusts up, etc.

I have had to learn to notice this feeling and avoid playing with clamps when trying to do denial, as 3 times I have accidentally ruined periods of orgasm denial with orgasms from nipple clamps.

This has also been reported in women breastfeeding so it is not as uncommon as you may think. (This is not a scientific link but just to show you another discussion about it).

http://www.ivillage.ca/relationships/love-sex/6-surprising-way-women-orgasm




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