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RockaRolla -> Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/18/2014 2:44:20 PM)

There's a general attitude, at least in the mainstream world, that people go downhill as they age. Youth is supposedly the best time of your life; you're younger, in better shape, and full of the optimism that comes from knowing your whole life is ahead of you. Then you get a few decades and kids under your belt, years and gravity take their tolls, and before you know it you're over the hill.

Naturally, I call bullshit on this.

I once had a guy on the other side tell me I'm already past my 'prime' and reached my peak when I was 16. This was an objective fact, he said, because that's what all the modeling agencies want. I called him out on this claim, and anyone who knew me at 16 would do the same.

As a teen, I was an overweight recluse who withdrew into books and the internet, which aggravated feelings of depression and anxiety. For years I was caught in a vicious cycle of wanting to withdraw out of fears that nobody wanted me around, and people actually not wanting me around because I was withdrawn and depressed.

It wasn't until I was 21 and in college that I made a serious attempt to snap out of that mentality and made myself get out more. Then I realized that, no, I wasn't as disliked as I thought. (Funny how anxieties can be.) This coincided with my curiosity and tentative exploration into WIITWD, so I met a lot of people at munches and a few prospects/partners. Still took me a while to figure out what my place in it all was, and what I wanted. This went on until shortly after my 23rd birthday, and I decided I was done with casual dating.

I'll be 24 in a couple of weeks. Granted, that's still well within the range of "young," but a far cry from the aforementioned HNG's rule of sixteen. I'm still fat, but I've become much more comfortable in my body. Still an introvert but not afraid of company. While my anxiety rears its ugly head on occasion, it's nothing I can't handle. I have a good job, moved out of my family's home (have two roommates so I can't say I'm living "alone"), I have a great boyfriend and a boytoy. I know what I want out of life, and life is good.

While I haven't been around long enough to pin down the peak years of my life, I'd say these are the best years so far. And I'd like to think things get better instead of go downhill. My impression of the members here older than I (because I'm sure at least 85% of the regulars here fit that category) tend to confirm that. So here are my questions:

Do you feel that the life you're living now can be described as "peak" or "best so far?" Or is the best yet to come?
Or do you feel that your best years have passed?



Mistycalm -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/18/2014 3:46:37 PM)

I think, for me, it's a combination of all combined. As a teenager, I spent most of my time angry and rebelling against the system and everyone in it. Wasted a lot of years in this mindset. Mid 20's to late 30's, I was in a relationship, and spent my time basking in how good life was lol. Late 30's to current, I spent mourning what all had been lost in the previous years.

Now, at 47, I realize that while my past was a rollercoaster ride of up's and downs, I think that the best is still yet to come. I am healthier now than I have ever been, more active in my surrounding community, have better friends lol, and am more content and at peace than I have ever been.

Life goes in cycles; some good, some bad; some productive, some destructive. I have learned from all of them. Now it's time to put all that experience to good use.
[;)]



Whiplashsmile4 -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/18/2014 4:02:28 PM)

Past "The Prime" for exactly what? (gives a slight smirk). It's something to think about. There are many aspects of life after all.



kallisto -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/18/2014 5:50:58 PM)

At 48, I feel like I'm in my prime. My kiddos are all grown and I'm finally living for me. Making changes that I want to make, losing weight, getting healthier .... best is yet to come.



RockaRolla -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/18/2014 6:06:28 PM)


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ORIGINAL: Whiplashsmile4

Past "The Prime" for exactly what? (gives a slight smirk). It's something to think about. There are many aspects of life after all.

I was talking mainly about one's personal enjoyment in life. You can be at the top professionally, romantically, whatever and still feel miserable.



DesFIP -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/18/2014 6:46:36 PM)

Physically past. Within spitting distance of 60 and have chronic problems. My arthritis no longer flares up, things hurt daily.

And it's hard to feel emotionally great when you feel physically crappy. The body and mind are not totally separate items, they influence each other.



dcnovice -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/18/2014 7:08:36 PM)

FR

I was gonna respond with three simple words--"Past. Long past."--but then I realized it's more complicated.

Physically, I've definitely landed--far sooner than I'd have liked--in what I call the Doctor Decades. In one of my first health updates, I wrote, "It’s starting to feel like being a patient is my full-time job, with editing as an eccentric hobby squeezed into spare moments!" Two years later, I'm coping with complications of complications of complications.

And yet . . .

In those rare and magic moments of energy and focus, I honestly feel I've reached a new prime as a writer. My updates, originally a tool for keeping a large, loving family up to date, morphed into a cherish opportunity to speak in my own voice, to say my own words, to voice my own feelings (or many of them). My professional writing seems even sharper and cleaner than before. And I can produce in amazing circumstances. I wrote a great (inho) cover story on bison the night before my October surgery. Who knew my long-sought muse would turn out to be my asshole?!



RareByrd -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/18/2014 7:38:58 PM)

I don't feel like I am past my prime in most ways--I still have hopes and dreams and am still looking forward to things in life. And I don't think I look like someone who is "past their prime". But I sure get a LOT less interest from men than I used to. Most of the men on here, for example, do not seem to be interested in women who are past 40 (and yes, that includes the ones who are themselves well, WELL, ***WELL** past 40). It's refreshing in a way not to have to wade through so much BS, but in another way, it really shows me in no uncertain terms that I am considered past my prime as far as romance/sex goes.



flutterby55 -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/18/2014 8:19:47 PM)

I don't feel past my prime, I'm as energetic and happy now as I ever was.



ResidentSadist -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/18/2014 9:00:34 PM)

The older and smarter I get, the more I get out of life. Things I that would have gone over my head in my 20s, I can now appreciate. I eagerly await the day that I am old enough that being with a very young girl in itself is kinky.



smileforme50 -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/18/2014 9:27:23 PM)

I don't know if I am in or past my prime. But I can tell you that my sex life has been better over the last 4 yeasts than it was for the first 48.

I also can totally agree with everything RS said.



samdarella -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/18/2014 10:20:22 PM)

Sorry Master but you're there. Not only would a young girl (over 18 of course) be kinky it would be considered perverted by many. I happen to love perverts so bring on the young girls. They might not know what they are doing but they can do it a whole lot longer than I can these days. Those 2 hour long blow jobs are tough on this old girl. Yes I'm past my prime. It takes me 2 days to recover from a 6 hour long session of torture and sexual debauchery. But I'm stubborn. I still work doubles as I'm suffering the after effects.



DaddySatyr -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/19/2014 2:19:54 AM)


I have felt for some time that I have far fewer days in front of me than I have behind me. The doctors confirmed that, quite some time ago. Not only am I "over the hill", I'm "down in the valley, looking for a 6' X 3' piece of underground real estate.







Screen captures (and pissing on shadows) still RULE! Ya feel me?



ResidentSadist -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/19/2014 5:18:28 AM)

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ORIGINAL: samdarella
Sorry Master but you're there. Not only would a young girl (over 18 of course) be kinky it would be considered perverted by many. I happen to love perverts so bring on the young girls. They might not know what they are doing but they can do it a whole lot longer than I can these days. Those 2 hour long blow jobs are tough on this old girl. Yes I'm past my prime. It takes me 2 days to recover from a 6 hour long session of torture and sexual debauchery. But I'm stubborn. I still work doubles as I'm suffering the after effects.


I don't feel "there".

After offering to let your 20 y/o friend and neighbor have a job as our maid, while cleaning the dungeon I offered to let her live with us in the red cage. Later she tells us she dreams about us and having babies for us. Our latest play prospect is mid 20s and just three (or four) years ago before I met you, my lover was 18 years old. All of them are corrupt and kinky souls and that just doesn't have that old & young forbidden fruit feeling in it for me ya' know?

I just don't feel that I . . . or we, are old enough to be forbidden fruit yet.



Lucylastic -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/19/2014 6:00:19 AM)

If Im past my prime, then damn I dont care.
Im having more fun at 52 than I did at 22, Altho 22 was crazy fun too
yep Im old, 52 and feel 92 some days with various issues, but in my head I know what I want, more especially what I dont want.
My body may never the same again, but I sure as hell am not gonna sit n regret its decline into old age.
I can still feel fabulous, and sexy and horny and enjoy my libido.
I will be past my prime when that part of my life withers.
Until then....Im gonna enjoy what I have.



orgasmdenial12 -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/19/2014 9:06:10 AM)

I'm at my peak but I know that even better is yet to come.

The older I get, the more I have accomplished, the more stable my relationships become, I get wiser, I have more agency and control over the things that matter to me - life is great, and it only gets greater as I go on.



IrishMist -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/19/2014 4:36:58 PM)

~FR~
If that was told to me, my response would be "past the prime for what?"
Skydiving? Most likely.
Running marathons? Not likely.
Having kids? Most likely.
Sex? Not likely, I am just getting into my prime lol [8D]

It's pretty common for men and women, who ARE past their prime, to look for younger (age 18-25, just a generalization ) partners. In their warped sense of reality, they think that having someone young hang on their arm somehow makes them more desirable.

It's a good thing us old timers know better. All it makes them look like is desperate.
And anyone who sprouts off such bullshit, in my mind, is too immature to recognize that age is the biggest turn on around.

( there are exceptions to this)



DarkSteven -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/19/2014 5:27:35 PM)

I don't follow. Past prime for what?

There's a trade off. As I age, I'm more secure financially and have more knowledge with which to face the world. I'm in worse shape physically but still in decent shape.



GoddessManko -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/19/2014 7:59:28 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: IrishMist

~FR~
If that was told to me, my response would be "past the prime for what?"
Skydiving? Most likely.
Running marathons? Not likely.
Having kids? Most likely.
Sex? Not likely, I am just getting into my prime lol [8D]

It's pretty common for men and women, who ARE past their prime, to look for younger (age 18-25, just a generalization ) partners. In their warped sense of reality, they think that having someone young hang on their arm somehow makes them more desirable.

It's a good thing us old timers know better. All it makes them look like is desperate.
And anyone who sprouts off such bullshit, in my mind, is too immature to recognize that age is the biggest turn on around.

( there are exceptions to this)


Ha, good answer. I would say I am getting into my prime now, which is why I'm ready for a more adult relationship. I think if someone picks a younger mate, it's pretty awesome. Male or female, good for you. It reminds me of this overweight girl on youtube who has a really hot, athletic boyfriend and people are so bewildered by it. To each his own and all of that.
I am not attracted to younger guys though the older I get the more I seem to attract them like flies, and it's NOT great in the gym. I think it's the new thing, as far as age differentials. Because it's a collective thing where I get more attention from the younger guys than older. I also look younger than my age in the face but my age is no secret, and I literally never talk to anyone under 30 at the gym, I hope it's obvious they would be barking up the wrong tree.



DerangedUnit -> RE: Are you in, or past your 'prime?' (10/20/2014 3:08:58 AM)

Im past my prime most definitely, but I'm not really fond of all that spunk of my youth anymore. Completely content to just sit in a rocking chair with a shotgun and scream at kids.



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