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ConfidentDominat -> Questions for subs/slave (10/22/2014 8:27:05 AM)

Hi,

My name is Jeffrey. I'm 24, an accountant, very fit, independent and very strong.

I am interesting in this lifestyle (have had some experience) but have no idea how to find a sub.

Any advice on where to find subs. I live in Toronto

I;ve never had a problem getting or attracting women but have had almost no success finding a sub (or having my previous relations be with someone who is also in this lifestyle)




IrishMist -> RE: Questions for subs/slave (10/22/2014 9:15:08 AM)

Start attending public functions.
Get out and meet people.

and always remember that a submissive/slave is still a person first. Get to know them, just like you would anyone else.




ConfidentDominat -> RE: Questions for subs/slave (10/22/2014 9:20:31 AM)

I understand what your saying. I am very polite, respectful and easy going in nature.

I wouldn't want to do anything with someone I was not comfortable with or visa versa.

I am saying people I've met are not into this. What public functions?

I have lots of friends and always meet people, I'm saying that I cant meet people who share this interest





GoddessManko -> RE: Questions for subs/slave (10/22/2014 9:37:45 AM)

Hey OP, this may or may not have anything to do with it but I'd remove "rough" and "aggressive" from your profile. Search for women who are relocatable. Venture into other online formats such as fet and also try vanilla sites with references to 50 shades of grey. Cliche but it works. I gave this advice to another young male D and it worked great for him. At the munches you may or may not meet people you click with, most people your age have told me they have not. If you have any questions on your best approach in an online setting and also with a new sub you can email me but it is likely your approach since you seem well put together otherwise. You have to sort of reel yourself in as a Dom and get to know them as a person first and gauge vanilla compatibility. If they have little to no experience with it you don't tread into the masochism right away full throttle, it's more like a gentle pushing of the envelope.
Edited to add; If you do want to at least try the public functions, I would look for local dungeons on fet and for munches on findamunch.com
MsDDom posted this on a thread once and seems to be the easiest way to find local munches. But honestly I would try pof or one of those vanilla sites and make it known you are dominant. I myself have fared better on those, though the fella I'm considering I met on cs.




shiftyw -> RE: Questions for subs/slave (10/22/2014 9:47:45 AM)

Have you used this website?
There's plenty of educational, play, and munch events in your city.
Try fetlife.com to find some of the events.
I'd just google BDSM in Toronto.




IrishMist -> RE: Questions for subs/slave (10/22/2014 11:23:17 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ConfidentDominat

I understand what your saying. I am very polite, respectful and easy going in nature.

I wouldn't want to do anything with someone I was not comfortable with or visa versa.

I am saying people I've met are not into this. What public functions?

I have lots of friends and always meet people, I'm saying that I cant meet people who share this interest



Public functions: Munches, clubs, etc. Google the different places where you live. Get out and meet people who share the same interests; not only do you meet other Dominants, but submissives also.




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