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GoddessManko -> RE: Please Give Me Your Perspective :) (10/23/2014 9:31:19 PM)
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ORIGINAL: DarkSteven
Hi, Jeff. Here's my perspective. Your profile states:
I turned 18-years-old at the beginning of the year (2014) and I'm still living at home.
Why mention you're still living at home?
I'm going to a community college and it's so hard to meet women! All the nice ones are taken and they have such attitudes. They know they are "hot" so they can treat men like crap and there is 100 other men in line to meet them.
Nope. Saying you're going to a community college doesn't say much. Instead, say what your major is or is going to be. What kind of job you see yourself holding, and why. It's because you want to help people, or you like working with hands. You love working with numbers, or you feel we should make the world a better place. Tell about YOU, your hopes and dreams, what makes you tick.
Then you complain: meeting women is hard, they have attitudes, they treat men like crap, and there are too many other men wanting to meet them.
Bull. Community colleges have about a 1:1 ratio of men to women.
Let me ask you a question. If you were a single Domme looking for a man, would YOU be attracted to a man who wrote that?
Let's try again...
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Hi! I'm Jeff! Good to meet you. I'm attending a community college. I really like the English and humanities classes. The math and science... meh. But I want to be a biologist some day, so they're just something I have to live with. Research in biology just excites me. (Plus I look good in a lab coat.)
I'm looking for a woman aged 18-35. If you're experienced, you can teach me. If you're not, then we can learn together. And watch movies and eat pizza too.
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I would like to be in a D/s relationship, where it's all about her. To do as she says and to please her. My needs and desires are only to please her.
Please don't say things that that. Dommes read them every day and they're usually written by people who have no experience and don't really know what they want. Implying that D/s relationships are totally different than vanilla relationships ignores the fact that, 95% of the time, D/s relationships ARE vanilla.
Thank you so much DS and everyone. Also thank you to everyone who responded to my thread so graciously, it kind of reverts back to this. Everyone gave you really great advice but I think you should ESPECIALLY consider what DS is saying as it ties into what is going to attract someone who is willing to mentor if you are willing to learn or you two learn together.
You need to come across as real, realistic and genuine. Highlight qualities about yourself she might find appealing, domestic servitude or errands for example that may not require monetary exchange. You need to put real thought into your profile and to what would set you apart.
There are scammers and time wasters on all sides, it's the internet, they exist on vanilla sites as well. You have only been on the site for a few days so you have to be patient and proactive.
Yes, a lot of male subs do waste time but some Dommes won't use a "gift card" and things of that nature because it just seems unethical like SpyUnderCover said. Unfortunately many submissives are kind of feeding into the "time wasting" motif and it makes the process a bit complicated but not impossible. I would say be proactive, find something in her profile you like and try to adhere to any hidden protocols therein besides monetary tribute.
The fact you are willing to take it offline is a huge plus because I'd say majority want to keep it to online fantasy play. Some girls verify with pics or cams and are willing to make exceptions for a sub who is willing to be an asset in some way, even if its yard work.
Good luck!
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