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RE: i got Online Slave , how to train - 7/12/2006 6:27:54 PM

mstrj69

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Do you know all of her likes and dislikes. If she dislikes undressing in front of the cam or playing with herself when on cam, tell her she has to as a punishment. Or you can just not be online with her for a couple of nights as punishment. The opposite goes for rewarding her. You can have her wear or not specific clothes while on cam with you or whatever else you want to have her do. Maybe clean the house during the day when you are at work. You can command her to do anything that does not require her touching you or vice versa.
As for those here who say take it slow, that is great unless she wants to take it faster than you do.

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RE: i got Online Slave , how to train - 7/12/2006 6:48:49 PM

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My question is now that you think you are Dom, what are you supposed to do when you actually meet this sub?Are you really wanting to meet this person eventually? If not, walk away from it because it is a waste of your time and her time especially to find someone to cook and clean. Dom/Dommes have responsibilities to subs as well as them having to follow our orders. We are responsible for a sub's health and well being. We are also to provide them with a safe environement to be involved in. It is not all about following orders online.
I train online occasionally for special people whom I think really want to eventually be involved in the life; however, three out of four of them do not make it.
Do you know what the SSC is? Need to know all about these things before you start Doming someone.

Respectfully, Mistress_Jan

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RE: i got Online Slave , how to train - 7/12/2006 8:35:52 PM

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ORIGINAL: jadedshadow

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hello everyone , i got a slave online ... she is pretty and well obedient , well we will decide to go for real time in future but for now it will be online ...
First, rather than slamming you because you both chose to go the safe route and explore this online, I want to congratulate you both. Online BDSM can be a great way to test the waters before making the leap into r/t.
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As she is online slave can anyone tell me what does a female online slaves expect from there masters/mistress ...
They expect the same things from them as in r/t. The need and desire to please is still there. They want to serve, and expect to be trained to please you.
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how should i use her ... what sorts of punishments i can give her online .. she is always conntected to me with chat on camera.
Thanks .

My advice is to take it slow. Communicate a lot first, and continue to openly and honestly communicate as you both grow together. You know what you want and what you expect, but have you asked your slave what she expects? Make sure you both are on the same wave length with what will or will not be happening. There is no right or wrong way that this should be done. Anyone who says otherwise is full of it. Don't set your relathionship standards up by what others here or anywhere says. The important thing is to find out what you both want. As to what to do, that will very well depend on the specifics of your relationship with one another. Some of the things I would suggest would be setting up a schedule for her with tasks that would be pleasing to you for her to do each day while you are not present - you can have her take cam pics or something to prove it if need be. Have her make a list of her fantasies and see which of them can be done online. Have her write an email to you on how she can please you via online. Get her to start an online journal where she can put her thoughts on all things on it for you. Position train her, using the cam to make sure it's done properly. Have her buy some toys and let her use them on cam for you. Choose her clothing, letting her model each outfit for you. And the list goes on and on and on.. some or none of these things may work for both of you..the main thing is whatever you choose to have her do is to make sure her mind is getting set that she belongs to you. Just take it one slow step at a time.

While online relationships can sometimes be a safer way to get comfortable with one another, or to secure one's comfort in being an active Dominant or submissive/slave, there is also an increased danger of physical, and even more-so, emotional harm that can easily come out of them. If someone is in the 'hey I've got a slave, now what can I do with her online', frame of mind, it doesn't sound like he is wanting to proceed with an abundance of caution, or at a very slow pace. His asking how to 'punish' his new slave, whom he claims is obedient, sounds questionable to me.

Online relationships can be more emotionally scarring than real-time relationships for several reasons. The dominant is not present to ensure the well-being and proper adjustment of the slave; to offer a touch of appreciation, a look of encouragement or disproval. To ensure all the demanded actions or reactions to them are not physically or emotionally harmful immediately, or in the hours which follow.

A new submissive or slave may not be aware of the hard-core emotions that often take place in these relationships, and jumping into an online relationship as a safer beginning, may not be the right solution, unless a lot of learning, awareness and a slow evolution are involved.

There is no 'right' or 'one' way to have an online relationship, but there are certainly some 'wrong' ways.... and when I read posts like the OP, it's a bit alarming.

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RE: i got Online Slave , how to train - 7/13/2006 4:41:33 AM

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i really donot know what my slave wants . i think she wants just nothing . i have asked her number of times what she expect from me .... she says nothing just she want to serve me thats it .

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RE: i got Online Slave , how to train - 7/13/2006 5:00:07 AM

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How long have you had this slave? I notice you had just joined collarme. Do you have any experience at all? Of you do not what makes you think you are qualifed to own a slave... I realize everyone had no expeirence at some time but then you need to either have a Mentor or have done LOTS of reasearch before taking someone....

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RE: i got Online Slave , how to train - 7/13/2006 5:12:06 AM

nephandi

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i think the main question would be, is it the start of a serious relationship what is to move of the screen an into real life, or is it a bit of online play? both are fine, but the aprotch is different. If i got myself an online play partner, it might be fun whit cybering, having roleplay senes or sending pictures of doing things but byond a penpal frindship, there would be little emotion and the relationship would be just for fun.

An alternative is an online mentoring relationship, that can go rather deep, or an online start of an relationship that can be deep to, and how to play and interact will depend on the nature of the relationship you are having.

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RE: i got Online Slave , how to train - 7/15/2006 1:19:05 AM

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greeting jadeshadow

what wondeful and sound advice you give that person your true to helping others he
is seroius and you saw this it nice to see this happen other helping others

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RE: i got Online Slave , how to train - 7/16/2006 6:24:22 AM

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ORIGINAL: online2nddegree

i really donot know what my slave wants . i think she wants just nothing . i have asked her number of times what she expect from me .... she says nothing just she want to serve me thats it .

Ah well there is where you must begin..... I sense you both are young and very new to this. There is no right or wrong way (except safe, sane and consensual) to dominate someone. If you are doing it online you need to be extra creative in your tasks and things. There is no way to have her cook or clean for you online and frankly if thats all you want you might hire a maid.

You need to spend time talking to her... find out the WHO WHAT WHERE WHEN AND WHY.
Who she is as a person..her personality.. her life.. her daily obligations in it..her prior experience serving..
What her limits are.. things that she won't or can't do.... and FYI every one has them... even if they say they don't.
Where does she want a serving relationship to go... does she wan't to be controled 24/7 real time one day.. does she only want to play online..is it just a sexual thing.... its it just maturbation fantasies and bedroom only or does she wan't to serve outside as well...
When is she able to serve you and how often.... if you went real time when would she be able to make that happen ( if there is distance involved)

and finally you need to ask WHY... why does she want to serve.... and especially why does she want to serve you....

you said you think she wants nothing..... no one wants "nothing" in any relationship.... at the very least she wants your attention...

dominating online is a very verbal and written way to do so... you need to work harder to really communicate well for it to work.. both written and if you do phone /voice chat.. verbally....

I would get to know your slave a bit better first... do some yahoo searches and reading online... and begin by setting up a daily task or two...

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