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relocation questions. - 10/26/2014 3:15:00 PM   
here5487


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Status: offline 		I feel things are moving to fast.

My slave says she's ready to relocate whenever I'm ready for her but needs the money for the relocation. I assume the master is responsible for that but how do I know she will come. Any suggestions on spotting a scam?
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RE: relocation questions. - 10/26/2014 3:17:45 PM   
ElChupa


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Status: offline 		She's a fake. Drop her. Move on, bro.

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RE: relocation questions. - 10/26/2014 3:19:19 PM   
darkwanderer3305


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Status: offline 		Anyone who asks for money is suspect. Although there are surely some 'slaves' who are honestly ready to move-in and in need of some assistance; for the most part - if a slave asks for money so she can rush to your side, it is a scam.

My advice is for you to tell her (or anyone else asking for funds) that she can relocate herself, then, once she is there with you, that you will reimburse her for those costs if that is what you choose to do.

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RE: relocation questions. - 10/26/2014 3:22:38 PM   
here5487


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Status: offline 		Ya I did just that. She's "not working and had no money" I told her I would get her a train ticket and ina couple weeks she could go back and get her car. She said that was fine. That way I'm not giving her money.

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RE: relocation questions. - 10/26/2014 3:49:43 PM   
ResidentSadist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: here5487
I feel things are moving to fast...........


Not another word need be spoken. Did you lose control and she is in charge now, coming when she wants? If so, that's your bad because you're supposed to be in control. Are you approving of, supporting and paying for her control of you. Seems like bad relationship practice to me.

I don't care how big her tits are or how sexy she is, sound advice would be to clean up your act and get the relationship straightened out before investing further in it. You said, "spotting a scam". Don't you already know this girl well enough to figure out if she is robbing you? Unless "buyer's regret" is par for the course with you, paying to get what you want shouldn't be an issue. Now you say she is coming by train and leaving her car behind, that seems sincere. Is the real issue that things are moving too fast?

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RE: relocation questions. - 10/26/2014 3:56:43 PM   
crazyml


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Status: offline 		How long have you known this person?

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RE: relocation questions. - 10/26/2014 3:57:27 PM   
RockaRolla


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Status: offline 		How long have you two been together?

Given your feelings of moving too fast and not trusting her to follow through with the relocation, I'm guessing not long.

If you have these doubts at all, it's way too soon. If it's way too soon and she's asking for money, it's likely a scam.

Take a good, long look at this relationship and think about whether it will hold water.

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RE: relocation questions. - 10/26/2014 4:18:33 PM   
Moderator3


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RE: relocation questions. - 10/26/2014 4:23:28 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		With all due respect, OP, I read your profile. No real woman would relocate across the country to be with you based on that profile.

If you really want to keep things going with her, tell her if she picks up the tab for relocation, you'll reimburse her.

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RE: relocation questions. - 10/26/2014 5:28:03 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		You don't think she can sell that ticket on craigslist for cash? Then you're being foolish.

Of course it's a scam. And if it wasn't, you still shouldn't want to invite a total stranger into your home when you don't know what she looks like, how old she is, or if she's a meth addict.

It's a relationship. Take a long weekend and fly to her city. Stay in a hotel. The odds are she won't meet you for coffee but you can enjoy a vacation anyway.

Saying you're a dominant isn't an excuse to not have any communication or relationship skills. Being submissive doesn't mean you're submissive to every person out there. So what are you going to do when a month later she's yelling at you daily because she believes you lied? When she refuses to have sex or wash the dishes? Buy her a ticket back home?

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RE: relocation questions. - 10/26/2014 5:59:14 PM   
luxey2511


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Status: offline 		sorry to say, it's a scam.

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RE: relocation questions. - 10/26/2014 7:12:15 PM   
GoddessManko


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Status: offline 		Try the local munch at www.findamunch.com and try to connect with real people if you're not an introvert. You seem to have a boisterous and "clear and present" personality so I'm thinking it might be your best bet.

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RE: relocation questions. - 10/27/2014 7:47:44 PM   
Pballer123


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Status: offline 		Let me guess, she also does not have a camera or a web cam to verify that she is real but she has sent you some very nice pictures.

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RE: relocation questions. - 10/27/2014 9:14:42 PM   
Gauge


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quote:

ORIGINAL: here5487

Any suggestions on spotting a scam?



Unplug your computer.




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RE: relocation questions. - 10/27/2014 9:31:02 PM   
SeekingTrinity


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How much time have you two spent in the same space together? No, online doesn't count
Ever even met her in person?
How long have you two known each other?

Dude, that nagging little voice inside you that prompted you to come to the forum to ask what you have asked is there for a reason. Listen to it...for your own sake. You don't sound like a guy sure of this at all.

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RE: relocation questions. - 10/29/2014 10:23:55 AM   
MasterCaneman


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Status: offline 		If you can afford to send her a ticket, you can also afford to go to where she is. Ask her that and see what happens. Her response will tell you all you need to know. Good luck.

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RE: relocation questions. - 10/29/2014 10:50:09 AM   
MyMasterStephen


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Status: offline 		I don't see the problem. I mean, you HAVE met face-to-face several times already, haven't you? Spent time - and I mean days and weeks, not just hours - together, interacting on both vanilla and intimate levels, getting to know each other to determine that you're compatible and can live together in the same space without grating on each other.

You have, haven't you?

You haven't?

Then WTF are you doing talking about relocation?

You're not "the master" until you're in an established relationship, and unless and until she signs her possessions and savings over to you no, you're not financially responsible for her in any way. By all means help her out at your own discretion, but right now discretion seems to be hiding somewhere over the horizon.

Block and move on.

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RE: relocation questions. - 10/29/2014 11:21:19 AM   
littleladybug


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MyMasterStephen

You're not "the master" until you're in an established relationship, and unless and until she signs her possessions and savings over to you no, you're not financially responsible for her in any way. By all means help her out at your own discretion, but right now discretion seems to be hiding somewhere over the horizon.

Block and move on.




Dang...signing over possessions and savings? You ARE hard core.

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RE: relocation questions. - 10/29/2014 11:28:45 AM   
ChrchofDrk


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Status: offline 		We all know that slaves are property and property can't own property .. c'mon. get it right!!! geeez

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RE: relocation questions. - 10/29/2014 12:12:13 PM   
ExiledTyrant


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Status: offline 		~FR cuz it's trendy.

Look, assholes, I finally bought the chandelier now I need to aqcuire a saucy little tart to clean it and rest of the chateu. Now, unless you people are going to volunteer to be the saucy little tarts in the maid uniform that gets violated often, you need to leave off my scam network.

Jus sayin

Edited to add: the or "Tha" in some parts of the country.

< Message edited by ExiledTyrant -- 10/29/2014 12:13:41 PM >

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