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Having my wife seduced - 10/27/2014 7:43:08 AM   
Utopia432


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Status: offline 		My wife admitted she has been having fantasies about meeting other men. She likes dominant and muscular guys and she even went as far as looking for someone on Craigslist but she's too scared about actually meeting them so after a few emails she just stops responding.

She would like for someone to approach her but I believe that's almost impossible because when she's out she's either with me or with our daughter. So I thought I might try pushing things a little bit and maybe arrange for someone to seduce her. However I'm not sure it's a good idea and I feel kind of guilty about that.

What do you guys think? Has anybody done it before and tell me about his experience?
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RE: Having my wife seduced - 10/27/2014 7:52:02 AM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Okay, you described what your wife wants. What do YOU want?

Assuming that she wants to be seduced into having sex with you watching but not participating (except maybe in a clean-up capacity after), that's called cuckolding. If that turns you on, go for it. If not, have some frank discussions.

Arranging for someone to seduce her and her not knowing you're behind it? Not only is that a good way to damage your marriage, it makes me wonder just how much this is HER fantasy and not yours.

Assuming that you're BOTH on board, go on over to Fetlife and join some cuckolding groups. Read and learn. And make sure that whoever she takes up with is tested and you get the papers to prove it.

Like I said, join and learn from the cuckolding community. Craigslist is NOT the way to go.

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RE: Having my wife seduced - 10/27/2014 9:37:09 PM   
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Status: offline 		I disagree with Steven that you're describing what she wants. You're describing what you think she wants, what you hope she wants.

She may well only desire the titillation of talking online to guys with no desire to meet them. It's not at all uncommon for people to have fantasies that are much wilder than what they want to do.

Talk to her. Ask her if she wouldn't like someone like this to be set up for her or not.

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RE: Having my wife seduced - 10/28/2014 5:51:29 AM   
HeartAndSoul31


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Status: offline 		I don't think it would be wise to set up any surprise meetings.

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RE: Having my wife seduced - 10/28/2014 6:02:52 AM   
FieryOpal


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

She may well only desire the titillation of talking online to guys with no desire to meet them. It's not at all uncommon for people to have fantasies that are much wilder than what they want to do.


Is it possible, OP, that if your wife has confided in you regarding fantasizing about other men, that she might be testing your response to her disclosure?
If she is a young mother, she may be feeling insecure about her womanliness and confused as to how her role as a mother fits in with being a sexually desirable wife to you.
You should ask yourself in all honesty, have you been neglecting your wife? Do you have once-a-week or biweekly romantic date nights, devoted to just the two of you to reconnect on an intimate level?
Is there any reason she might feel that she is no longer as attractive to you and that you might be desiring other women? Has she caught you watching porn behind her back or checking other women out?

You both are raising a family together. It is uncharacteristic for wives to make a potentially hurtful admission unless one or more of the following factors has come into play:
-- Due to your own propensity to want to be cuckolded, you have been suggesting that she might enjoy having sex with another man, thus sending the message that you do not value, honor, and cherish her enough to want to keep her all to yourself.
-- She hasn't owned her jealous nature and wants to see how possessive you are, not how willing you are to risk losing her to another man.
-- She knows that talking about this with you will get you aroused, but she only wants to conduct a fantasy or on-line romance from the safety of her home with no intention of actually acting upon her fantasies.
-- She knows that talking about this with you will get you aroused and is getting your tacit approval to find somebody else to replace you and is biding her time until someone better comes along because she's grown tired of you or doesn't see a promising future ahead by staying with you in a dead-end marriage.

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RE: Having my wife seduced - 10/28/2014 8:02:51 AM   
starkem


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Status: offline 		The last factor listed rings true to me. Utopia432 I wish you all the best. Hopefully everything is as you stated and both of you will have fun in this experimental quest. If you have doubts of any sort, please address them before it's too late.

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RE: Having my wife seduced - 10/28/2014 8:22:55 AM   
Bhruic


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Status: offline 		Taking your post at face value, but assuming this is something you want to give your wife...

Rather than set up a meeting, or place her in a position of being seduced and wondering if she is cheating on you. I would suggest going to a swingers or sex club. It used to be that single men were not allowed at such clubs, but (at least around here) that seems to be changing. Then you and your wife could split up and mingle, and you could approach men at the club, point out your wife, and invite them to seduce her.

That way you have a controlled environment where you both know ( or at least know more) what to expect, and you have a source of likely candidates. You are also an active participant... in choosing the candidates, and you have an environment where you can easily create the fiction for her that it is a spontaneous pickup.

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RE: Having my wife seduced - 10/29/2014 7:25:43 PM   
LookieNoNookie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Utopia432

My wife admitted she has been having fantasies about meeting other men. She likes dominant and muscular guys and she even went as far as looking for someone on Craigslist but she's too scared about actually meeting them so after a few emails she just stops responding.

She would like for someone to approach her but I believe that's almost impossible because when she's out she's either with me or with our daughter. So I thought I might try pushing things a little bit and maybe arrange for someone to seduce her. However I'm not sure it's a good idea and I feel kind of guilty about that.

What do you guys think? Has anybody done it before and tell me about his experience?


You're a cuckold.

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RE: Having my wife seduced - 10/29/2014 8:06:06 PM   
RockaRolla


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Status: offline 		Don't arrange for anything to happen behind her back. If this is an experience you want her to have, talk to her about it. It could be that she just wants your confirmation that it's OK to get involved with other men, it could be that she just likes the fantasy. But don't push her into doing anything.

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RE: Having my wife seduced - 10/30/2014 7:53:34 AM   
HalifaxSubRuthD


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Status: offline 		Cuckolding...an old vice.

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RE: Having my wife seduced - 10/30/2014 8:02:13 AM   
altoonamaster


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Status: offline 		i have assisted couples like you in this

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RE: Having my wife seduced - 11/5/2014 2:44:08 PM   
Nightrider


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Status: offline 		This is quite normal in this day and age. However, it will be both of your decisions on whether to carry it out. There are consequences either way!

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