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Curious - 11/2/2014 8:13:10 AM

Interested53

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Hi,

i am a newbie with the desire to find a Dominant woman. I am 51 and not sure how to find that. I am honest and sincere and hope to find a woman that can teach & guide me. I have been interested in submission for sometime now but don't know how to approach it. I do have a profile here but never any luck so i am reaching out here. Hope to hear back from someone. sub

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RE: Curious - 11/2/2014 8:19:25 AM

shiftyw

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Welcome!

We do a lot of discussing on this side of the site.
Your best bet here isn't to place a personal ad, but if you post in the ask a mistress section looking for profile advice, I'm sure they would all be able to help fine tune your profile to attract a lady.

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RE: Curious - 11/2/2014 9:01:07 AM

FieryOpal

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Do stick around on this side and read some of the discussion threads. Like shiftyw suggested, ask for profile advice and how best to approach a Domme with your intro contact message. Meanwhile, make sure to read our profiles to gage whether you might be what they say they are seeking, as well as journal entries to find out as much as you can about her as a person. Too often, we end up feeling like newbies think we're here to be their instant fetish & kink delivery systems instead of getting the same degree of consideration that a vanilla lady would get on a vanilla dating site, at the very minimum. Would you or any other respectful man start hitting up a vanilla lady for sex and not make any effort to date her first? (Not that you would be such a tool, but if you expect insta-Domming or instant sub training from a lifestyle Domme, chances are this will be off-putting.)

It may not seem that way at first, but it isn't all about whether you're a good fit, but also about whether a Domme is a suitable fit for you. For example, I'm not sadistic. As far as I'm concerned, I don't need to be contacted by masochists who should be looking for a Sadistic Domme in the first place, not just any Dominant woman to scratch their itch(es).

Best of luck.

< Message edited by FieryOpal -- 11/2/2014 9:11:11 AM >

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RE: Curious - 11/2/2014 9:02:20 AM

DarkSteven

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Subs are a dime a dozen. Quit being a sub and be a man who happens to be sub. What's your career? Why did you end up in Philly - were you born there, or did something make you move? What hobbies do you have?

If you interest a woman in you as a man, the kink will follow.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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