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hello - 11/3/2014 10:04:36 AM   
kokanee1966


Posts: 2
Joined: 11/2/2014
Status: offline 		why is it so hard to find a woman that will talk to you and not try to scam you? so many fakes out there. is there real women on this site? getting discouraged fast.
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RE: hello - 11/3/2014 10:13:37 AM   
GoddessManko


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Status: offline 		you joined yesterday, really? Giving it a week was just too much? Well I'll let you in on the secret. We're all typing cats.

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RE: hello - 11/3/2014 11:31:49 AM   
freedomdwarf1


Posts: 6845
Joined: 10/23/2012
Status: offline 		As with any site, you need patience - and LOTS of it!!

Very rarely does anything happen instantly.
You've been on here what... 1 day??
Come back and complain when you've been here for a year or two or more.
Maybe they'll refund your money.

Oh right... it's free!

What on earth did you expect???
Oh yeah, you're a 47yo Dom and expecting your insta-sub for life.
It don't happen like that.
And it might help if you used a bit of grammar in your profile and explained a little about who you are outside of a fetish wish-list.

Yes, there are real people on here and some have even met on here.
You need to put in some effort when you are fishing for rare fish.


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RE: hello - 11/3/2014 12:42:13 PM   
kokanee1966


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Joined: 11/2/2014
Status: offline 		awww.............but you see ive been here for a long while . diff profiles and its always the same shit. no replies back from messages sent. all deleted unread. why is that darin goddessmanko? deleted without even looking at my profile. its pointless to continue with this.

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RE: hello - 11/3/2014 12:57:24 PM   
stef


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Status: offline 		Thank god you stuck it out long enough to come here and whine about it. It's been hours since someone has started a thread like this and we were all starting to feel deprived.

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RE: hello - 11/3/2014 1:01:27 PM   
searching4mysir


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kokanee1966

awww.............but you see ive been here for a long while . diff profiles and its always the same shit. no replies back from messages sent. all deleted unread. why is that darin goddessmanko? deleted without even looking at my profile. its pointless to continue with this.



There are ways of reading your messages and profile without triggering a read notification.

No response IS a response...it means she has no interest in you. If you put the same amount of effort in your introductory email as you did in your profile, I'm not surprised there is no interest. Your profile makes you look lazy.

< Message edited by searching4mysir -- 11/3/2014 1:02:20 PM >

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RE: hello - 11/3/2014 1:06:44 PM   
freedomdwarf1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kokanee1966

awww.............but you see ive been here for a long while . diff profiles and its always the same shit. no replies back from messages sent. all deleted unread. why is that darin goddessmanko? deleted without even looking at my profile. its pointless to continue with this.

I am guessing that the 'Deleted Unread' is because -
1) They hovered over your mail and didn't like it;
2) They used the search, found your profile and could read it without opening it and didn't like it;
3) They aren't seeking a solo Dominant male.

And have you thought that No reply is a reply??
It means "Thanks, but no thanks".


ETA: So you've been here a while, and with different profiles.
You are bitchin because you get no replies and your mails get deleted unread.
What is the common denominator here?? YOU!!


< Message edited by freedomdwarf1 -- 11/3/2014 1:26:08 PM >

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RE: hello - 11/3/2014 1:14:21 PM   
DarkSteven


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Status: offline 		Why should they? Here's your profile:

"this part sucks. guess im just a guy looking for a sub/slave to explore with and to have a life time relationship with. i do believe that a master/slave relationship evolves around trust and honesty. without that then there is nothing. trust and respect must be earned. and in order for that to happen the two must communicate."

So a woman looking at your profile will see first that you don't bother to capitalize. Then, to break down your profile:

"this part sucks." - Sounds like you're whining.

"guess im just a guy looking for a sub/slave to explore with and to have a life time relationship with." - You're a Dom. Why would a Dom start with "guess im"? At 47, you should know what you want. Also, just "sub/slave"? No age expectations, level of education, etc.?

"i do believe that a master/slave relationship evolves around trust and honesty. without that then there is nothing. trust and respect must be earned. and in order for that to happen the two must communicate." - C'mon. What are you like? What would her life with you be like?

Your profile will do nothing to attract a woman here.

"all deleted unread. why is that darin goddessmanko? deleted without even looking at my profile." But she likely did look at your message. You're incompatible with her because she's a Domme living in Florida, and you're a Dom living in Idaho. She has no reason to expect that anything would be possible between you two. Also, I have a hunch that the content of your message may have had something to do with it. Finally, publicly stating that a recipient deleted your email is poor manners and does NOT help your image.

Fella, what is the image you want to project, and what will you do to project it?

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RE: hello - 11/3/2014 1:17:04 PM   
Gauge


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kokanee1966

awww.............but you see ive been here for a long while . diff profiles and its always the same shit. no replies back from messages sent. all deleted unread. why is that darin goddessmanko? deleted without even looking at my profile. its pointless to continue with this.


OK. So, it is also pointless to complain about it, isn't it? If this is all the staying power you have to look for that special someone, then I know the answer as to why you are still looking.

This takes time and patience. Think of it like fishing, if you caught something every time you cast out your line, you would tire of it quickly and catching fish would be mundane because it always happens. Who cares how many people delete your shit, you aren't looking for them, you are looking for the person that reads and responds.

You identify as a dominant, then be a dominant. That means be patient, and understand that you have one thing working against you, and that is a penis. If you were a female you would be bitching about all the email you get... and the cycle goes on. You are merely one of the many dominants that contact submissives, you need to stand out, and your profile really says very little about who you are or what you are seeking. Start there. If you are sending form letters, stop... Actually read a profile and respond to it. Also, if you are emailing submissives that are 20 and look like they are from a porn magazine, chances are that they are and are fakes. Look for subs that have some substance to their profiles, and you may have better success.

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RE: hello - 11/3/2014 1:32:08 PM   
ResidentSadist


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Joined: 2/11/2007
From: a mean old Daddy, but I like you - Joni Mitchell
Status: offline 		Patience is a virtue and a good domly leadership quality. Instead of being extremely impatient, you would fare better to display some patience. Take time to fix your uninformative profile and load more than one selfie picture in the car. Girls notice that stuff so give them a nice face pic and a full body shot.

You have been so impatient you haven't made a real profile. Girls notice that stuff. That paragraph of cliches' and a type-O you are try and pass off as a profile isn't going to cut it for most girls here. Typing up your profile without using a single capitol letter makes you look sloppy or lazy and would scare most girls away except scammers and sex workers.

It is common to believe a master/slave relationship revolves around trust and honesty . . . even vanillas know trust is earned. You don't say one single thing about yourself in your profile. Instead you spout common knowledge. Your profile is how you represent yourself. It's part of their first impression of you. Treat it like your advertizement about yourself. Sell yourself and write something appealing that makes the reader want to get to know you. A sloppy profile is like taking a picture of yourself with you shoes untied, your fly open and your shirt buttoned up wrong.

You haven't been here 24 hours. Are you complaining that you haven't found a suitable partner who finds you attractive, wants the same intimate kinks, is in the right age range and wants the same M/s style relationship that you want? Instant submission and intimacy is work for the pros and bait for scammers.

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RE: hello - 11/3/2014 7:09:34 PM   
DesFIP


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Joined: 11/25/2007
From: Apple County NY
Status: offline 		And now the profile has gone poof.


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RE: hello - 11/3/2014 9:28:31 PM   
SWDesertDom


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Joined: 4/5/2012
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quote:

ORIGINAL: GoddessManko
Well I'll let you in on the secret. We're all typing cats.


Miao?

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RE: hello - 11/4/2014 7:59:24 AM   
DarkSteven


Posts: 28072
Joined: 5/2/2008
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quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

And now the profile has gone poof.



So he whined about how hard his search is, and got specific pointers on actions he can take to fix it. His response was to leave.

He's looking for a world where he can woo submissives by whining and no effort.

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The small-breasted ones want larger breasts. The large-breasted ones want smaller ones. The straight-haired ones curl their hair, and the curly-haired ones straighten theirs...

Quit fretting. We men love you."

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RE: hello - 11/4/2014 12:35:03 PM   
Spiritedsub2


Posts: 3316
Joined: 7/18/2012
Status: online 		He got more attention on this thread than he's probably received in all of his online excursions combined. Perhaps that is the motivation behind the hourly fakes/whining threads. If so, the solution seems readily apparent...

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