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ORIGINAL: ReinRaus

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ORIGINAL: needingrelease50

From what I am seeing there seems to be more extreme female Domme's than those that enjoy the softer more sensual side. I am also seeing more and more females who seem to be very aggressive in their actions and tones from moment one. Is anyone else seeing this trend as well and if so do you have an explanation as to why?

As a Domme that can consider herself "sensual" if we're using labels in this discussion, I can tell you it's just a matter of variety in the pool. I probably receive just as many messages from male submissives that come off as overly eager and aggressive while asking me to do insane personal and extreme things (cage me, cuck me, make me your slave, use me, etc). The extreme Dommes you're speaking about are probably better matches for these types than I am.

Personally I delete these messages because it's my assumption they're inexperienced or not serious submissives that are trolling this website looking for a temporary thrill. I demand that potential partners have a normal, levelheaded discussion while we get to know each other before any sort of power play happens in person. You have the same right to express in your profile or through PMs that you want to have a calm chat to get to know someone instead of jumping in and having orders barked at you by some stranger. If she reacts to this request in a hostile manner, then you two are simply not compatible. Move on.

Asking why they prefer to be extreme is like asking why you prefer to receive sensual treatment. Or asking why you may like chocolate while I like strawberry. Personal preference—that's why.

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ORIGINAL: missalphasubtoy

Well, the simple answer to this is that the women who are "not extreme" aren't going to be emailing anyone and that most of the women who email ANY submissive man are pro-s/findommes/scammers i.e. anyone who stands to gain financially from contacting you and see you as a client in some form. I can count on one had the numbers of cold messages I have sent. I have received probably over 400. there is no need to email anyone on this site. Men will email us instead.