FieryOpal
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Joined: 12/8/2013 From: Maryland Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: SpyUnderCover <snip> Personally I lean toward the sensual side of domination, and many of the other dommes I know do as well. As do I and my lifestyle Domme friends. One of them is a Kind Sadist who is also a Sensual Domme. OP, what you are have been seeking perhaps is a Sensual Domme, who in turn will seek a sensual sub. (However, there is no way for me to know since you have a hidden profile.) I think where you may be getting perplexed is in seeing that more Dominants than not are Sadistic, but being sensual is not mutually exclusive. You also must separate M/f from F/m. There being many more DaddyDommes than MommyDommes is a male/female phenomenon. Women generally do not want babified adult males. If we wanted childish men, and men who suffer from Peter Pan syndrome of never wanting to grow up to accept adult responsibilities, there is a plentiful supply out there in the vanilla world. It's just not sexy or desirable. There are many, many more bb/lb's than there are MommyDommes to diaper their age-regressed bottoms, and when it comes to sensuality, that particular ABDL dynamic does not lend itself to sexual interactions. I personally find nothing erotic about an AT-Adult Teen either. Many women have raised or are raising children of their own and the last thing they want is to take on the responsibility of yet another child or a man with a demanding, immature childlike mentality. It's critical to separate D/s as a commercialized business enterprise with Pro-Dommes and other for-hire BDSM providers, including Cyber Fin-Dommes who either offer pay-for-cam-play or who sell articles of used undergarments. Some of them will profess to be lifestyle Dommes and then require tribute or demand monetary compensation because they are essentially in the business of being fetish & kink delivery systems. Their kinky clients seek a Top to their own bottom, which is BDSM presented with the veneer of a D/s relationship dynamic as a kind of D/s fantasyland experience, but which may not be an authentic D/s dynamic which entails ownership; and ownership requires a very-much-strings-attached commitment in the form of the submissive being collared by the Dominant. There are call girls who specialize as BDSM Tops and call themselves Dommes, who are not in fact Dominant women whatsoever, simply opportunists. This is a job and a role for them to play. They are merely service Tops. Many of their DO-ME kinkster clients are merely masochistic bottoms or fetishists who are not actually submissive males either. It works both ways in terms of misrepresentations (whether intended deliberately or not) or the trappings of illusory and/or delusional D/s.
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