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Is it considered "normal" here for people to ... - 11/7/2014 8:28:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		Is it considered "normal" here for people to ask you to "join them" on kik/skype/yahoo?

I'm not sure where to ask this, but, I got a message in my CollarSpace email saying, in effect:

quote:

I greatly appreciate your interest in me. I'm currently looking for a sub.
Come join me on my yahoo messsenger, skype, or kik, for further instructions.
YM: [email protected]
Kik: name
Skype: name

Do that now. Go.


I have removed the name of the person sending that, but, I just want to ask whether this is your classic scam (probably is) and, what the heck "kik" is, and what it means to "join" someone on "yahoo" or "skype".

I do realize I can CONTACT someone on Yahoo and Skype - but I don't know what "join" means in that context.
Is this type of "join me" request common here?

Belatedly, Googling for KIK, I see it's simply a messenger app for smartphones, so, in effect, "join me" must mean, in her vernacular, "send me a message".

But, is this normal happenings on collarspace (which I'm new to)?
What's wrong with the collarspace mail app?




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RE: Is it considered "normal" here for people... - 11/7/2014 8:30:53 PM   
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RE: Is it considered "normal" here for people... - 11/7/2014 8:41:51 PM   
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Status: offline 		Some will try to get you off site so that they can play by their own rules. Use your common sense and make sure you protect yourself and computer. If you hesitate, go with that.

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RE: Is it considered "normal" here for people... - 11/7/2014 9:22:30 PM   
crumpets


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ORIGINAL: Moderator3

Some will try to get you off site so that they can play by their own rules. Use your common sense and make sure you protect yourself and computer. If you hesitate, go with that.


Thanks M3 for that sage advice.
I certainly hesitate, so, I will heed your admonishment, and press the "go away" button in the profile.

I did run a requisite reverse image search on the profile picture, because it seemed too good to be true, but it came up clean.
And, I ran the obligatory reverse search on the yahoo email address using spokeo, which also came up blank.

I do know that yahoo chat is inherently insecure, as is skype, so I would never use them anyway.
At first, I had thought Kik was a fetish site (as in fetlife, for example, which DarkSteven informed me about); but it appears that kik is just yet another chat app (which is just as probably as insecure as all the rest).

So, I will respect your advice, and simply delete and hide the profile.
Thanks!

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RE: Is it considered "normal" here for people... - 11/7/2014 9:29:30 PM   
Moderator3


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Status: offline 		I don't mean to say that is the motivation. Just use caution and try to get to know people a bit before you jump in.

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RE: Is it considered "normal" here for people... - 11/8/2014 8:13:08 AM   
RockaRolla


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Status: offline 		Yeah, they're common. My experience with the types who are so quick to move to another site is that they lack a decent attention span and their patience is better suited for IMs. Which isn't inherently bad. But they also tend to be looking for a quick thrill, which isn't what I'm looking for.

If you're looking for something more long term, stick to a platform where longer, more in depth conversations are encouraged. IMs are more suited to quicker or less serious chats. I suggest sticking with CS, Fet, or maybe emails for a time.

Just my thoughts.

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RE: Is it considered "normal" here for people... - 11/8/2014 9:21:18 AM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		It's also not uncommon for dommes moving immediately off this site to do so in order to demand money from a male sub. Since here there are warnings about not sending money to strangers.

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RE: Is it considered "normal" here for people... - 11/8/2014 12:02:27 PM   
Subano


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RE: Is it considered "normal" here for people... - 11/9/2014 1:41:08 AM   
BecomingV


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Status: offline 		Keep in mind that by moving "off site" it's easier to communicate from work and from home.

A boss, or a spouse, won't think much of someone using an email or vanilla chat service, while chatting via a kink site, presents challenges if someone should walk in.

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RE: Is it considered "normal" here for people... - 11/10/2014 5:43:07 PM   
SWDesertDom


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Status: offline 		While all of the above are true, and you shouldn't move off-site if you don't want to, remember that communication on CM can be pretty clunky, and drives a lot of us nuts.

Also, if a picture looks too good to be true, it probably is, even if it doesn't come up in image searches.

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RE: Is it considered "normal" here for people... - 11/10/2014 6:34:42 PM   
crumpets


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SWDesertDom
if a picture looks too good to be true, it probably is, even if it doesn't come up in image searches.


This is certainly a good point, as it's not hard to change the fourier transform of a picture such that Google won't find it anymore.
But, most don't bother, IMHO.

BTW, the MystressWorld DID contact me (with a form letter).
Somehow I pay a few hundred bucks for the privilege of sucking black cock.
At least that is how it sounded.

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