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Subano -> Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (11/8/2014 10:47:18 PM)

Do Dominant men slap tits and Dominent womyn slap cocks because they are sexual organs?
Or do they hurt them more because they are sensitive parts of the body (e.g., pain).




orgasmdenial12 -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (11/9/2014 2:44:03 AM)

For me, it's about the combination of pain and sexuality. That feeling of pain combined with arousal is very exciting and a bit of a mind fuck - it hurts, but it turns you on.



ExiledTyrant -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (11/9/2014 3:43:59 AM)

It's more about the shit you're going to sign up for. If you "need" to have your cock slapped it's in your best interest to find someone that "needs" or "wants" to do that. It's easy to be seen as a Do-me /sub when you make poor choices in partners. Be clear on your likes, dislikes, wants, needs, and find someone that matches up need for need, want for want and you'll have a great dynamic. Find someone that their needs work with your wants, and wants work with your needs, and you still have a great dynamic. However, find someone that has no interest in doing the things on your wants and needs list and your Dynamic will suck.

Jus sayin



ResidentSadist -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (11/9/2014 4:31:12 AM)

That's a very broad question. Either gender slaps a lot of things, not just gentiles... and they slap them for a myriad of different reasons. Punishment, pleasure, dehumanization and for those inclined to S&M like me, it's just erotic foreplay and because I am playing slap & tickle with a masochist, there is no pain, we haven't approached the pain threshold with just slapping.

Smacking my masochistic slave's titties is about the same as licking her pussy. It makes her wet and sexually excited. If I slap her just so, with the right rhythm, it makes her cum. If I slap that same titty for a different reason like punishment or slap someone else who is not sexually masochistic, , it hurts and it will make them cry instead of cum.

40% is the reason behind what you are doing
40% is whom your are doing it with
10% is actually what you are doing

Mileage may vary.



Greta75 -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (11/9/2014 4:47:15 AM)

Yup, for me it's 100% about sexuality.



DesFIP -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (11/9/2014 5:23:26 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Either gender slaps a lot of things, not just gentiles...


Freudian slip?

The dynamic here is about him being in charge. But spanking here is for fun and games, it's sexual. We don't do face slapping though.



Subano -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (11/9/2014 11:24:18 AM)


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
We don't do face slapping though.


That's kind of what I was alluding to, which is that we don't slap, say, wrists (which, I would assume, are a non-sexual part of the body).



Greta75 -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (11/9/2014 3:57:05 PM)

I like face slapping through, it gets me wet too and can bring me to orgasms. Especially if I hit a wall, needs a slap to get me over the edge.



ResidentSadist -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (11/9/2014 8:06:35 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP


quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

Either gender slaps a lot of things, not just gentiles...


Freudian slip?

The dynamic here is about him being in charge. But spanking here is for fun and games, it's sexual. We don't do face slapping though.

LMAO, that's funny. nice catch



UnholyBear -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (11/10/2014 7:28:55 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Subano

Do Dominant men slap tits and Dominent womyn slap cocks because they are sexual organs?
Or do they hurt them more because they are sensitive parts of the body (e.g., pain).





In some ways it is a combination of both. When I top, much of what I enjoy doing has some erotic/sexual undertones as I love using pain to enhance pleasure to the bottom/sub I am playing with. Though I don't solely focus on the genitalia, I know they are very sensitive and it feeds the sadist inside seeing them cringe yet aroused and wanting more.



BecomingV -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (11/22/2014 12:36:48 AM)

Resident Sadist - Thanks for this:

quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

40% is the reason behind what you are doing
40% is whom your are doing it with
10% is actually what you are doing

Mileage may vary.


That ^^^ is the hottest post I've ever read! Including, the "mileage may vary" attitude. :)




sexyred1 -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (11/22/2014 8:26:44 AM)

I don't need pain at all.

I only like it if I am already aroused or if there is an erotic edge to it.

All of this is sexual for me.

I am weird that way.



Bhruic -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (11/22/2014 12:06:07 PM)

nevermind



FieryOpal -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (11/22/2014 1:59:23 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: sexyred1

I don't need pain at all.

I only like it if I am already aroused or if there is an erotic edge to it.

All of this is sexual for me.

I am weird that way.

If I may personalize that,

I don't need to inflict pain at all.

I only like to skirt the edges of that if I am already aroused or if there is an erotic edge to it.

All of this is sexual for me, and has to be expressed with eroticism of a sensual & sensuous nature.

I might be weird that way, but so what?

(Just makes it harder to find a good fit with a partner. [:(] )



RebeccaR -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (11/22/2014 2:22:59 PM)

Some of my dominant clients have always liked to slap my tits and face and twist my nipples. I find it arousing and almost a necessary part of sex. The pain/pleasure link...and I can cum from nipple twisting.
Some hurt me because they want to, most because they see the effect it has on me....and them.



ivone57 -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (11/30/2014 12:24:56 PM)

I know a dom that will slap tits as part of a scene... only because they are there and they do inflict some sorta pain...



EmpressElsa -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (12/1/2014 2:58:36 AM)

You are assuming that all Doms slap things. Some are not into that kind of play.

However, to answer your question, both and neither. Both reasons you post are possibilities, but it may also be that they are just there and happen to catch your attention at the time. You cannot answer this as an "or" question because everyone has different reasons for doing things, and those reasons may change from scene to scene.



CaptR -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (12/1/2014 8:19:03 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ResidentSadist

That's a very broad question. Either gender slaps a lot of things, not just gentiles...


This had me rolling with laughter. Mel Brooks couldn't have penned better.



darkwanderer3305 -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (12/1/2014 8:26:48 AM)

All pain can be added to a sexual scene. Slapping a wrist (like you mentioned), piercing an eyebrow, or bending a finger back can all be sexualized, depending upon the scene and/or context.

The point is that in a scene, where sexual activity comes into play, pain is meant to heighten or lessen those sexual feelings; depending upon how the dominant decides to guide the moment.



CaptR -> RE: Is the dynamic more about pain or about sexuality? (12/1/2014 8:48:50 AM)

There are several levels of arousal in slapping for us. She enjoys light to moderate pain during foreplay. During intercourse it heightens her ability to and can even cause her to orgasm if I'm administering to her "gentiles" (still chuckling over that one). The mechanisms at play here are pain, anger (hers), humiliation when combined with verbal stimuli and my own pleasure in delivering. We do practice face slapping but it's very controlled usually used only during passionate scenes when she's riding a wave or craves rough treatment.



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