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Them some wild kinks! - 11/12/2014 6:51:35 PM

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Here's a question....

When you first started learning about and exploring kink and power exchange relationships, what kink or behavior shocked you the most that people actually did and enjoyed....but that you later discovered (to your surprise) you enjoyed as well?

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RE: Them some wild kinks! - 11/12/2014 9:17:17 PM

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Here's a question....

When you first started learning about and exploring kink and power exchange relationships, what kink or behavior shocked you the most that people actually did and enjoyed....but that you later discovered (to your surprise) you enjoyed as well?

Pain. I didn't get it or understood what was so fucking attractive about inflicting pain, or even those that received it. It made zero sense to me.

My first date with a submissive ended up with a baptism of fire for me because as we fucked, she wanted me to slap her, and so I did. She kept egging me on to hit her harder, and harder still. The entire time she was moaning and cuming like a fountain... and I realized that I was so fucking turned on by all of it, the power, the pain, the pleasure, all of it. I found that I couldn't get enough of it. I was shocked.

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RE: Them some wild kinks! - 11/12/2014 9:38:11 PM

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Pain. I didn't get it or understood what was so fucking attractive about inflicting pain, or even those that received it. It made zero sense to me.

I still don't get it and it still makes zero sense to me.

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OP, that's a tough one because there's so much to pick from and we went about it gradually. Nipple clamps. Sexual humiliation--I was really uncomfortable with that but hubby got into it; the key for me is that I have to respect the person or else I can't cross over that bridge, and then he has a to be a cocky bastard who needs to learn lessons in humility. Otherwise, this dynamic falls flat and won't work with me.

ETA: I don't get into degradation and won't go there, nor SPH cuz why would I want a sub with a puny d!ck in the first place.

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RE: Them some wild kinks! - 11/13/2014 2:32:53 PM

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A few things have surprised me.

Like Gauge, I have to say pain. My former Dom/husband started out together in exploring bdsm over 30 years ago. I always enjoyed rough sex, ass slapping, some biting but as time went on, the more different kinds of pain stimulation we explored, the more turned on I got and the more I wanted. If someone told me back then that I'd be into what I am now, I would have thought them to be crazy.

Being made to feel completely vulnerable to the point that I'm embarrassed is a turn on to me. I don't embarrass easily so it is a challenge and something that doesn't happen often but he has found a few keys that if twisted the right way will get me there. This is only done in private, never in public and it's nothing that I see as gross like shitting in front of him, scat, etc.

Living a D/s lifestyle itself surprised me. I always knew from a very young age, before I was even sexually active that I wanted bedroom D/s but my desire to expand D/s to every day life was shocking to me. I was always an independent person, a go-getter, I didn't/don't need to depend on anyone for anything and in my young years I couldn't comprehend how a submissive and being an independent person can actually co-exist within someone. Going from bedroom D/s to lifestyle D/s was a gradual process for my former and I, adding a little more, then a little more and so on before it became a full D/s relationship. I would never want to go back to having a vanilla relationship with just bedroom D/s.

Ask me the same question 5 or 10 years from now and I have no doubt there will be more things I'll be surprised to find I like. I'm always wanting to explore more and experience something I haven't experienced.

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RE: Them some wild kinks! - 11/13/2014 3:59:12 PM

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I always knew from a very young age, before I was even sexually active that I wanted bedroom D/s but my desire to expand D/s to every day life was shocking to me. I was always an independent person, a go-getter, I didn't/don't need to depend on anyone for anything and in my young years I couldn't comprehend how a submissive and being an independent person can actually co-exist within someone. Going from bedroom D/s to lifestyle D/s was a gradual process for my former and I, adding a little more, then a little more and so on before it became a full D/s relationship. I would never want to go back to having a vanilla relationship with just bedroom D/s.

OMG I could have written these words myself.....wow

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RE: Them some wild kinks! - 11/20/2014 9:11:21 PM

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This may or may not fit the category, but...

Androgyny.

When I first came to terms with my orientation I wanted feminine girls and masculine guys. Didn't see the appeal of mixing the two. Nothing bad, just not my thing. But sexuality tends to evolve, and that must be what happened here. Now I have a GQ friend with benefits, born male and very feminine, and think he's damn fine. He's sitting across from me right now in a transparent lace cut-off shirt and lacy black skirt.

More on topic: Humiliation. It was something I always saw as contrary to an enjoyable sexual experience. Now I think I can get into it... at least on the giving end. I don't respond to being humiliated well, personally.

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RE: Them some wild kinks! - 11/20/2014 9:18:44 PM

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Butt stuff. (<--I realize this isn't necessarily a "kinky" thing...)

I know, I'm such a romantic...

But anal used to be off the table for me. It squicked me out, etc.

Now I'm into it. Like I'm trying to remember the last time we played without my butt involved in some way..

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RE: Them some wild kinks! - 11/20/2014 9:27:20 PM

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Using whatever random object available as a kink device, that includes everyday and food items. I become amazingly resourceful when excited it seems. In my usual state I'm not that inventive, LOL.

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RE: Them some wild kinks! - 11/20/2014 11:11:45 PM

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There hasn't been anything that initially shocked me that I later liked.

I didn't get the appeal (at all) of spanking initially. I didn't see the big attraction to it until the first time I got a good ass beating and then it was..."sign me up!"

Of the stuff that shocked me or squicked me out...I'm still not into...like scat...golden showers. I recall chatting on IRC with a guy into bestiality which I'm entirely against. He was incredibly intelligent and well-spoken though and it was definitely interesting talking to him, but I couldn't reconcile his sexual appetite with the thoughtful person he seemed to be. Very strange.

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RE: Them some wild kinks! - 11/20/2014 11:12:55 PM

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I cannot tell you but I am still shocked that I did it and liked it.

It's a bit dangerous and was with my ex who went further with me than anyone ever.

I think that was the thing, I was turned on that he went to dark places that others refused.

I would never do it again though. Not safe.

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RE: Them some wild kinks! - 11/20/2014 11:15:27 PM

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I cannot tell you but I am still shocked that I did it and liked it.

It's a bit dangerous and was with my ex who went further with me than anyone ever.

I think that was the thing, I was turned on that he went to dark places that others refused.

I would never do it again though. Not safe.

Enquiring minds (okay me!) want to know. What was it? Breath play? Or something related to it?

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RE: Them some wild kinks! - 11/20/2014 11:17:23 PM

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No I hate breath play. It's too crazy to discuss.

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RE: Them some wild kinks! - 11/20/2014 11:34:43 PM

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I was trying to find a "please!!!!" meme...to put in here. You know, to try and be cute about asking.

I found this instead.

Yes please. :D

But back to the query at hand...how's about messaging it to me? *hopeful grin*

I'm trying to wrack my brain to figure out what would be immediately dangerous and interfering with breathing was all I could come up with.

Edited to add:

Hey, I just noticed you went from a redhaired harlot to a feisty wench. :D

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