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Gauge -> I Need Encouragement... (11/12/2014 8:37:30 PM)
You know the times when you just need someone to give you a bit of a lift, just to help you feel a bit better? That is what this thread is for. The idea here is a simple one, you can tell people what is going on and why you need encouragement, or you can just say you need some encouragement. Then other people can either post something positive to help lift your spirits. It can be a picture, a saying, or just simply tell you to hang in there. Sometimes, we need a little boost... I need encouragement. I'm having a difficult time lately. I don't want to get specific, but I am having more down days than I am good ones. I am struggling to keep my chin up and to keep going... I know that I won't give up, but I am tired... so tired.

ydd -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 4:17:15 AM)
Gauge, I too have had times where the black dog of depression threatens to overwelm me. I don't have answers for you, as each person is different. Do you need to see your doctor? Is there someone you can talk to face to face? You can get past this..just be prepared for a journey of some length. If you are a reader, take a look at "On The Edge of Darkness" by Kathy Cronkite. It got me through some difficult times, and I return to it every once in a while. Hugz....

ExiledTyrant -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 7:12:43 AM)
I need help with my central heater. If only there was a Hvac guy on this site, that just happens to be a fucking brilliant homophobic shithead of an Hvac guy that could give me some idea of what is going on with it.

smileforme50 -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 8:53:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant I need help with my central heater. If only there was a Hvac guy on this site, that just happens to be a fucking brilliant homophobic shithead of an Hvac guy that could give me some idea of what is going on with it. It's a shame I can't hook you up with my father...... Gauge.....try to be patient and take things one day at a time.... One hour at a time. Don't let things overwhelm you. Plus.... I have read many times you wonderful comments about your girl. Try to rind yourself that you have her and other great people in your life.

starkem -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 10:01:07 AM)
Gauge, I don't know much about you, but the little I do know shows you are engaged and personable to others, including strangers. Honestly, this is the part that most people that are viewing from the outside can not see -the inner turmoil and struggle to manage the things that overwhelm and threaten to dismantle the work you have dedicated towards keeping it all together in life. I wish you could disclose more Guage, then our words and concern can speak specifically to healing those troubles. My mailbox is always open. Stay positive, focused and determined. I enjoy your insight. ExiledTyrant all you need is a bonfire in the central location of the home and a few blankets. ;). I feel your pain. Owning a home has so many rewarding benefits, but the maintenance and development thereof is not noticed from the outside. It's hard work! I don't know the nature of your difficulty in finding the help you need, but I am sure you have the mastery to work it out. As to myself: I need a little encouragement at accepting intimacy. Have I become so jaded by love that I won't let anyone close? I do think I have pushed myself down so much that I feel inadequate. Some of these limitations are real. There is one that I can address though. Touch. I have developed a strong aversion to intimate touch, but I blame it on being a germaphobe. That is really not true; it is just an excuse. Any volunteers to help me with initiating trust, such as a hug, will be greatly appreciated. Guage, I like the thoughtfulness of this topic. We are all in need of something! This is a great discussion and opportunity to express that desire. May you all be successful in your respective quest.

ExiledTyrant -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 10:20:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: starkem ExiledTyrant all you need is a bonfire in the central location of the home and a few blankets. ;). WTF man, this isn't the place for such shenanigans, this is http://www.collarchat.com/m_4516358/mpage_1/key_really%252Cbad%252Cadvice/tm.htm#4516358

searching4mysir -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 10:58:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Gauge You know the times when you just need someone to give you a bit of a lift, just to help you feel a bit better? That is what this thread is for. The idea here is a simple one, you can tell people what is going on and why you need encouragement, or you can just say you need some encouragement. Then other people can either post something positive to help lift your spirits. It can be a picture, a saying, or just simply tell you to hang in there. Sometimes, we need a little boost... I need encouragement. I'm having a difficult time lately. I don't want to get specific, but I am having more down days than I am good ones. I am struggling to keep my chin up and to keep going... I know that I won't give up, but I am tired... so tired. hugs Hang in there. It will get better. Perhaps you need a mental health day to just veg and take care of you and catch up on sleep. I know when I'm sleep deprived, even a little, that things often look bleaker to me. It is harder for me to focus on even simple things. Sometimes journaling helps too. I see by your profile pic that you are a musician. Maybe try and find some solace in your music, maybe write something, even if you don't intend for anyone else to listen to it.

Gauge -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 11:07:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant I need help with my central heater. Write me on the other side. I'll help if I can.

Gauge -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 11:10:19 AM)
Thanks for the lift everyone. To be sure, I take care of my mental health, take my meds, have a good support system, see my doctor regularly and so on. I am just experiencing a downswing coupled with some other things. I'll be OK, I always am.[:)]

Gauge -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 11:20:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: starkem As to myself: I need a little encouragement at accepting intimacy. Have I become so jaded by love that I won't let anyone close? I do think I have pushed myself down so much that I feel inadequate. Some of these limitations are real. There is one that I can address though. Touch. I have developed a strong aversion to intimate touch, but I blame it on being a germaphobe. That is really not true; it is just an excuse. Any volunteers to help me with initiating trust, such as a hug, will be greatly appreciated. I have found that the only way to overcome something is to face it head on. Are you afraid of being close to someone? Are you afraid of being vulnerable? What stops you from experiencing intimacy? What I would suggest is that you start out small, just touch a little bit and gradually, over time, increase the amount. Opening yourself up to someone else can be scary, but it can be very rewarding too. You deserve to be happy. Be happy.[:)]

ExiledTyrant -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 11:22:38 AM)
We've been banter buddies for a very long time... we used to kick the dog together... I sure miss that damn dog benji. I love seeing you on here, creepo, always have, that is why I am giving you all these tokens of my affection: [sm=banana.gif][sm=banana.gif][sm=banana.gif] [sm=ubanana.gif][sm=ubanana.gif][sm=ubanana.gif] [sm=banana.gif][sm=banana.gif][sm=banana.gif] [sm=ubanana.gif][sm=ubanana.gif][sm=ubanana.gif] [sm=banana.gif][sm=banana.gif][sm=banana.gif] [sm=ubanana.gif][sm=ubanana.gif][sm=ubanana.gif] [sm=banana.gif][sm=banana.gif][sm=banana.gif] [sm=ubanana.gif][sm=ubanana.gif][sm=ubanana.gif] [sm=banana.gif][sm=banana.gif][sm=banana.gif] [sm=ubanana.gif][sm=ubanana.gif][sm=ubanana.gif] [sm=banana.gif][sm=banana.gif][sm=banana.gif] [sm=ubanana.gif][sm=ubanana.gif][sm=ubanana.gif]

Gauge -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 11:32:46 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant We've been banter buddies for a very long time... we used to kick the dog together... I sure miss that damn dog benji. I love seeing you on here, creepo, always have, that is why I am giving you all these tokens of my affection: Motherfucker. Laugh... when that little yellow dictator is in power and you are in front of the firing squad, I will squeal with glee.

shiftyw -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 11:47:33 AM)
In all seriousness, you're a solid voice of reason here. Level headed and full of actual advice. I have a great deal of respect for your opinion. You can get through this, and I'm sorry things are rough <3

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 12:29:45 PM)
I have to agree with shifty [:)] You are certainly one of the solid stalwarts of the forums. [sm=bowdown.gif] It's great that you made this thread for those that may need it. Personally, I seem to be the complete opposite of you. My mental health is fine. Though I'm sure many won't agree with that! lol. I don't need meds except for pain. The fascination of Americans for wanting/needing psychiatrists just baffles me. I don't need a support system as I've always been the one supporting others; so I do that for myself as well. I only see my doctor maybe once a year and only then if I really need to. As for downswings? I never have them. There is always someone worse off than I am. So I take solace in knowing that simple fact, so that keeps me in good spirits [8D] As bad as my life gets at times, it will never ever get to anywhere near those of the refugees we hear about. My life is (comparatively) good. I'm good. I have my family and friends. That is all I really need; at least for now. Chin up me 'ol mucker! It could get worse!! [:D]

smileforme50 -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 1:14:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: shiftyw In all seriousness, you're a solid voice of reason here. Level headed and full of actual advice. I have a great deal of respect for your opinion. You can get through this, and I'm sorry things are rough <3 [sm=agree.gif] What she said....

InHisHeart -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 3:06:46 PM)
Big (((HUGS))) Gauge. When I'm down and out, I keep the thought that it won't last, the ups do follow the downs and tomorrow could very well be a feel great day. I tell myself "this too shall pass". It's been 5 months since I've been back in PA taking care of my ill mom. Being away from Master this long is so hard but it is what it is. Also had an unexpected death in the family last week which was a shock to all of us. Tonight it's snowing out in NEPA. I don't like that white shit but can't do a damn thing about it! sigh So much other stuff has had me in a not so pleasant mood over the past few months but as long as I keep waking up in the morning, I'll keep shoveling through the shit, keep taking advantage of and cherishing the things throughout the day no matter how small and insignificant they might seem that do make me smile and looking forward to better days ahead.

DesFIP -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 5:09:50 PM)
Gauge, any chance you've got some Seasonal Affectiveness Disorder adding into the usual depression? If so, try a light box, and add in some Vitamin D III, aka the sunshine vitamin. Around here, we all suffer from SAD. And D III is what every doctor I've ever spoken to recommends.

Gauge -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 5:19:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: InHisHeart Tonight it's snowing out in NEPA. I don't like that white shit but can't do a damn thing about it! sigh Yeah... tell me about it.

Gauge -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 5:21:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP Gauge, any chance you've got some Seasonal Affectiveness Disorder adding into the usual depression? If so, try a light box, and add in some Vitamin D III, aka the sunshine vitamin. Around here, we all suffer from SAD. And D III is what every doctor I've ever spoken to recommends. Oh definitely, every fucking winter. I already take D3 but I have yet to get a light box, mainly because I would probably not use it. Bright light bothers me.

Dvr22999874 -> RE: I Need Encouragement... (11/13/2014 5:52:51 PM)
LOL...............sorry folks but I just couldn't miss the irony of this thread. You are talking about winter and SADS over there and we have a guy coming around in about an hour to talk with us about installing a solar-power system and then tomorrow we have somebody else coming to measure up for a 9 Kw air-con system. I am originally from U.K. and not only the weather but the whole damn place depressed me, so I moved here (after wandering the world to find something like this area smile). Anybody passing through this area or close by is welcome to visit and will be made very welcome.

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