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MistressTexas -> RE: Confused about possible danger (7/13/2006 10:34:53 AM)
Well Violet, my only advice to you, other than to listen to the previous advice of all the wonderful posters here, is to check out this thread. http://www.collarchat.com/tm.asp?m=421409 It just may give you some further insight.

Curiossdragnlily -> RE: Confused about possible danger (7/13/2006 10:40:01 AM)
i think you and O/other's answered the question very well..ALWAYS follow your gut.. with respect, lily, collared and owned slave of Master Curios srn 308-692-331

littleone35 -> RE: Confused about possible danger (7/13/2006 11:47:06 AM)
I can only restate what the others said don't go to meet this guy. As for the training i have had more then one master 3 to be exact and each one had his own way of doing things a different way of training me. Not one person can train you for someone else. Best of luck in your search. Matt's littleone

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Confused about possible danger (7/13/2006 12:09:59 PM)
BIG RED FLAG!!!! If something doesn't feel right to you, dont do it. Go with your gut instinct.

SweetSarijane -> RE: Confused about possible danger (7/14/2006 6:37:25 PM)
I'm of the same mind as those who've already posted. He sounds like a predator type, preying on newbies who don't know anything. Asking for a phone number 10 mins into initial conversation???? uh uh...hell no. Offering to "train" you for a future Dom?????? nope...only the Dom you submit to can train you to his preferences...no one else can do it for him. Lotsa red flags here. Ignore, block, delete, cut contact permanently. Make sure it's right for you before you submit.

Sinergy -> RE: Confused about possible danger (7/14/2006 9:05:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Violetblushes I'm a new submissive. I posted my profile looking for a few friends around my area to just hang out with and answer questions and stuff, and was contacted by a dominant from another state. He seems very nice, but it made me nervous when he asked for my cell phone after 10 minutes of chatting with me. He's married but is looking for a sub, and I told him I'm not looking for a married dom. He said that he'd be willing to train me because another dom. would want me to know how to please him. He also wants to fly me out to him and his wife. I'm not sure what I should do. Everything I've grown up hearing about the internet says I'm nuts for even considering, but I don't know enough about this lifestyle to know if what he says is true. He keeps insisting that he is sincere and won't go any further than i'm comfortable with. Could someone please give me some advice so I know whether I should cut contact now? Hello A/all, Thank you for allowing me to post on this thread. There is a book by a man named Gavin DeBecker called "The Gift Of Fear." I heartily recommend it; it deals with a lot of the things brought up in this thread. Sinergy

jojoluvr -> RE: Confused about possible danger (7/14/2006 10:17:18 PM)
i've read the book Sinergy recommends -- it's a must. it changed my perspective of the world. and as a newbie here myself, i've encountered more than enough of the type of Dom pressuring You. no matter what lines or claims He throws your way, being submissive doesn't mean being foolish. so ditto to all the "run like hells" offered already -- hang in there...i've also met some insightful and understanding Doms here too. and no matter what, each conversation is instructive in its own way... jo

champagnewishes -> RE: Confused about possible danger (7/15/2006 1:31:08 AM)
If the man didn't call himself a Dom, but was some guy on the internet would you give him your cell phone number after 10 minutes? If he didn't say he was in the lifestyle but wanted to date, would you hop on a plane to go meet him? Things aren't any different here than anywhere else. Don't allow your desire to learn cloud your common sense. Learning doesn't come with a price tag, a guilt trip, or under the guise of being a favor.

jonmark5 -> RE: Confused about possible danger (7/15/2006 2:30:22 AM)
ok as A Dom do"t go he want sex not friendship or to help yu he could teach you or the net and take it nice and slow if he cared about helping you and what if you go and he is not just an ass hole but an killer you never khow so like I tell my sub friends is better to play it to seif then not self enoght one more thing you need to seat down and ask your self what it is your looking for .for your self and from your self before you get any kind of Dom then you will khow when you meet the right one

Estring -> RE: Confused about possible danger (7/16/2006 12:49:59 AM)
In spite of all the good advice given here, I'm betting she has already decided to go.

mons -> RE: Confused about possible danger (7/16/2006 3:36:01 AM)
*[&:]greetings* i remember your post i wrote and i will write you again. frist dear a true dom would not rush you he would want you to trust him first and not want your number so fast he is a ffake this show on how fast he is trying to get you. i remember so many many years ago i thought i was submisive and i remember this one person a dom talk to me intro me to the people on teh room it was a dominant men and women room i decide aafter much thought i am not inot this i am not sumissive when i told him this and i remember this to this day he said he had my heart we spoke and he was so aggressive i have to block him from my email and im. he move fast. you need to remeber i dom can be a gentleman and will wait for you to come to him and kindly take you on now like so lol wild animal running you to the groud chasing you. your new you most be careful and i mean careful some can mess up a good submissive by being the worst fake i seen some with chains and will want you fast they will not wait so i hope everyone here is telling you how not to be caught in a bad place with someone who is crazy take your time submissive does not mean dumb or door mate *i wishe you luck* *mons take care*

feastie -> RE: Confused about possible danger (7/16/2006 4:54:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Violetblushes I'm a new submissive. I posted my profile looking for a few friends around my area to just hang out with and answer questions and stuff, and was contacted by a dominant from another state. He seems very nice, but it made me nervous when he asked for my cell phone after 10 minutes of chatting with me. He's married but is looking for a sub, and I told him I'm not looking for a married dom. He said that he'd be willing to train me because another dom. would want me to know how to please him. He also wants to fly me out to him and his wife. I'm not sure what I should do. Everything I've grown up hearing about the internet says I'm nuts for even considering, but I don't know enough about this lifestyle to know if what he says is true. He keeps insisting that he is sincere and won't go any further than i'm comfortable with. Could someone please give me some advice so I know whether I should cut contact now? Don't go, don't have contact with this guy anymore. Honestly, how can you even question this. The guy isn't local, your first request, he isn't single, your second request...and after ten minutes he's asking for your phone number and telling you how he and his wife want to fly you to their home for training. Excuse me, are you missing the huge red flag waving here? Aren't there alarm bells going off all around you? Should sound like an air raid siren. Red flags are red flags, pay attention to them and don't let anyone schmooze them out of you.

Violetblushes -> RE: Confused about possible danger (7/16/2006 11:45:09 AM)
Hey everyone. I just wanted to thank you all for your kind advice and to let you know that I did as you suggested and cut all contact. Now that I look back, I see it was rather stupid of me to even consider it, but that's the beauty/curse of hindsight, ne? Anyway, thanks again for all of your advice. Sincerely, Violetblushes

popeye1250 -> RE: Confused about possible danger (7/17/2006 3:06:36 PM)
I agree with everyone else in here. Don't do it! If I were talking to a sub in here we'd be talking for quite a while until we BOTH felt comfortable about progressing. Then it would be more appropriate for me to give her MY phone number and not the other way around! And you always meet in a* public place* when you meet for the first time and also the woman should have a friend with her. Use Common Sense.

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