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RedMagic1 -> RE: All I desire... (11/19/2014 4:07:09 PM)
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ORIGINAL: outthebox
You're really jumping the gun with a straw man fallacy. And that's untrue -- people DO indeed want to be someone's something, whether it's friend/lover/business partner/whatever. Ultimately, we're all "using" each other in life, but that doesn't mean one's intentions are disrespectful. Human relations are generally shaped by their mutual benefits. I'm currently under the assumption that not everyone here is trying to develop a deep, personal connection with someone(s); some people just want a certain kink satisfied, and are willing to pay for it. Nothing wrong with that. I didn't mention payment in my initial post (was hoping to spark a little curiosity first, rather than the semi-disgust that actually followed), but I also didn't say anything so outlandish that it warrants being accused of thinking solely with my dick/taking advantage of people. The fact that you inferred so much negativity from a simple statement that proposed my desires is honestly fascinating.
There was a shakeup here a while back, and most of the people in happy, fulfilling relationships left the message board. I think there will be a slow creep back of people in that category, but, until then, most OPs have to put up with a lot of jaded replies.
Absolutely there are women, including probably women on this site, who will hold you down and slobber on you. But look. Men tend to be much more overtly kinky than women are. And women's kinks tend to be "exaggerated" versions of vanilla sex, like rape fantasies. A kink where there's no intercourse at all, like panty fetish or what you describe, is almost exclusively male in origin. Women can learn to like it, a lot, but they almost always learn such tastes from a guy they trusted and wanted to please.
So be a guy that a woman trusts and wants to please. And tell her, "Look, I know this sounds crazy, but could you slobber all over my face tonight? It's ok if we both laugh our asses off afterward, but for whatever reason I think I would really enjoy it." Don't sound afraid of your kink. Make it approachable, even kinda funny -- because let's face it, a lot of what we do it pretty hilarious.
What I've written is worth doing even if you approach a professional dominatrix. You want her to want to please you, so it's more than just lick-for-pay.
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