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smileforme50 -> RE: Online rejection response (11/23/2014 8:35:24 PM)
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ORIGINAL: RockaRolla
When guys on dating sites bitch about how women never respond, this shit is why.
When I was still looking I'd get the itch every now and then to be "nice" and turn down guys gently. 0% of the guys took it well. Either they'd get hostile or start begging me to reconsider.
I recall one who demanded I come over that night for sex, and do a 180 to insult me when I told him no. Apparently I'm a fat ugly fuck and carry myself like trash. [:D]
But yes, the worst messages I got were from OKCupid. Fetlife and Collarme lent themselves well to wannabe abusive "Doms," but they were still more grounded in fantasy. The vanilla guys on OKC were 100% serious.
Damn right about this....I even put a entry on my CS journal about this last year:
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One thing I read very often in people's journals (Hint: I read primarily journals of male Dominants) ...is a frustration with not getting any response to an introductory message. A lot of Dominants have said that they wish that submissives would send them something....even if it is "No thanks".
Well....from the viewpoint of a submissive.....I agree with this. I can understand why they feel this way. You don't want to be left wondering. It's nice to know exactly where you stand.
But.....another thing I have noticed very often is that when I send a message of "Not interested", the matter isn't simply dropped. I get a response of "Why not?" They insist on a specific reason.
My guess would be that this is the primary reason most submissives don't respond at all to someone they aren't interested.
If you would really rather have a response of "no thanks, not interested" instead of just being ignored (which is understandable)....I would hope that people would follow their own words and actually be satisfied with a simple "No thanks, not interested".
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