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Boy-Toy? - 11/23/2014 1:19:35 PM   
RomanticRebel


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Status: offline 		Good afternoon Everyone,
I had an interesting proposal come my way recently. An older woman, mid 40s, not on this site, asked if I would be interested in being her "boy toy". Essentially the arrangement she was speaking of would involve my servicing her sexual needs while she would somewhat attend to my material ones, or a "sugar mamma/sugar baby" arrangement. This usually goes on without there being any real romantic or emotional involvement. I will say I have been in that situation before, and I find it doesn't work for me for a variety of reasons, the majority of which are emotional. However, I thought this might make an interesting discussion here and I wanted to ask around and see what your thoughts are on such a relationship? Is it something you would propose or accept? Why or why not?
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RE: Boy-Toy? - 11/23/2014 1:30:40 PM   
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I suspect that my answer will come as no surprise to you, based upon what you typed. None-the-less ...

I think you're right that a "boy-Toy" type arrangement probably lacks a whole lot of emotional entanglement and then, invariably, when one starts getting attached, that's a bad thing, also. I'll take it a step further: I think that in most instances, the one doing the financial supporting is basically engaging in a form of prostitution. That's not really a turn-on for me (even though, like most guys, I wish it could be).

However, when we twist the situation a bit, my answer is different. When I was younger, I was so full of bravado and machismo that there was "no way any woman of mine is going to support me !" Now that I'm a bit older, if I were ever in a position to be a father, again and my lady had a well-paying career, I might decide that for the good of not having children raised by strangers and for ease of economic necessity, I might just be a "house husband". This is contingent upon my holding my lady in high regard and actually having a mutually fulfilling emotional relationship.







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RE: Boy-Toy? - 11/23/2014 1:47:17 PM   
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Status: offline 		When I have boy-toys, it does not involve a sugar-mama investment. They have been multi-year relationships.

Yes, there have been emotional complications. I think there always are in any relationship. But I am in a live-in-the-moment phase of my life and not looking for happily ever after, as well as not expecting them to give up their futures for me, which I think helps keep things in perspective for both of us.

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RE: Boy-Toy? - 11/23/2014 2:11:40 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have someone I call a boy-toy, but it's not a sugar-momma relationship. I'm far too broke for that.

It's best described as a friend with benefits scenario, and he's a close friend. In that case there is some emotional attachment.

I would not entertain a sexual relationship with someone without the emotional investment. It just doesn't work for me. I've done it before, and found it lacking in the sense that my partner was entirely selfish about his needs and didn't care in the least whether I was satisfied. I'd rather be with someone who genuinely wants me to be as happy as they are.

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RE: Boy-Toy? - 11/23/2014 2:29:10 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have considered being the sugar baby before. I'm a broke 20 something- and before I paid off my student loan debt- which I paid my own way almost entirely- cept a few thousand bucks in scholarship money- I have to say the temptation was really real.

However, I realized I wouldn't really be proud of myself if I didn't work really hard to pay off my student loans. Not that sex isn't hard work- but I wanted to be proud of it and brag about it, and that wouldn't work if some man behind the curtain did it for me. I would feel guilty had I taken someone else's money. I'm also a bit weird about putting a monetary value on my pussy. But hearing "You can have whatever you like..." is a huge temptation- and everyone is getting some need filled.

but also taxes? like how does that work really?

I DON'T see it as prostitution- cause often there are dates, like real ones, involved, and occasionally real feelings- but over all I never bit. I don't like relying on others that much and I'm proud that I've done it on my own. And now I can finally afford cute clothes for myself and its so much more satisfying because its my own money.


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RE: Boy-Toy? - 11/23/2014 9:30:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		I will accept any woman who wants to pay my way for anything. I do not need an emotional attachment for that type of arrangement.

Since that is not likely to happen to me ever, I would never turn away my slut. She is everything I need... and the list of things I "need" is small.

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RE: Boy-Toy? - 11/23/2014 9:56:00 PM   
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Status: offline 		Gauge, I think it's cute when you talk about your girl

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RE: Boy-Toy? - 11/23/2014 10:00:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: shiftyw

Gauge, I think it's cute when you talk about your girl


I try not to make it sappy. At this stage of my life, she is just what the doctor ordered.

And thanks.

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RE: Boy-Toy? - 11/23/2014 10:05:08 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RomanticRebel
An older woman, mid 40s, not on this site, asked if I would be interested in being her "boy toy". Essentially the arrangement she was speaking of would involve my servicing her sexual needs while she would somewhat attend to my material ones, or a "sugar mamma/sugar baby" arrangement.



Please tell me you said yes! Please! Oh PUH-LEAZE!!!

No, just kidding. Great fantasy, but I'm a hopeless romantic, and I couldn't see being in a relationship with no affection.

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RE: Boy-Toy? - 11/25/2014 8:47:07 PM   
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Status: offline 		To an extent all of those thoughts crossed my mind. I'll admit I'm a proud person. I don't like the idea of someone else taking care of me. I certainly wouldn't have an issue with a "Friends with benefits" situation, but the idea that I'm essentially selling myself just makes me feel repulsive. Sure it might be an easy road, even attractive to some, but not for me.

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RE: Boy-Toy? - 11/28/2014 5:33:02 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RomanticRebel

Good afternoon Everyone,
I had an interesting proposal come my way recently. An older woman, mid 40s, not on this site, asked if I would be interested in being her "boy toy". Essentially the arrangement she was speaking of would involve my servicing her sexual needs while she would somewhat attend to my material ones, or a "sugar mamma/sugar baby" arrangement. This usually goes on without there being any real romantic or emotional involvement. I will say I have been in that situation before, and I find it doesn't work for me for a variety of reasons, the majority of which are emotional. However, I thought this might make an interesting discussion here and I wanted to ask around and see what your thoughts are on such a relationship? Is it something you would propose or accept? Why or why not?


I'll answer your question once we have a contract for 25% of the take.

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