FieryOpal
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From my perspective, as noted in plum red:
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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
The vast majority of dominant women in the scene have a primary male partner with whom they are vanilla or submissive.
Straight (unprofessional) lifestyle Dommes have a primary male partner with whom they are both vanilla and Dominant.
(What you are referring to, Red, is more applicable to BDSM Top providers who may not be Dominant women and be more of a S/switch to begin with.)
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They then recruit a secondary partner, or a stable of partners, who are submissive to them.
They may recruit a secondary partner, or a stable of partners, who are submissive to them, either as non-sexual service subs or to fill a sexual and/or BDSM need that their primary partner does not provide (much more common when the lifestyle Domme is bisexual).
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You like being sub in a personal, romantic relationship, but you like power over male sexuality in a non-romantic relationship. No reason you can't do both. But also, you might find that there's a particular person you're willing to make an exception for, because you love them so much -- a woman you want to dom, or a man you decide to be romantic with. That's the exciting thing about moving fantasies into the real world.
Being as young as you are OP, the sky is the limit, as long as you don't box yourself in.
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Whatever the reason, it's very similar to the fact that women almost always date, and marry, sideways or up, economically.
With arranged marriages, yes. However, I have heard of women who have either gotten themselves disowned, disinherited, looked down upon, or become the female relative we don't discuss at family gatherings. Also war changes things. During wartime, these conventionalities no longer apply.
Example 1 - My ex-husband's paternal grandmother was an heir to the Gillette fortune. She fell in love with and eloped with a "common" working man, his paternal grandfather. She was disinherited as a result and lived to regret her rash actions. At a very young age, their three children were raised in foster homes the rest of their childhood lives.
Example 2 - A niece of mine met a man on the Internet, back when that sort of thing was frowned upon. She ran off to be with this man in another part of the country, who had basically nothing, leaving her two small preschool-age daughters with relatives. She never returned to reclaim her abandoned children, and went on to have a baby with this man and ended up on welfare. She was disowned by her father, a brother-in-law of mine, and I have no further news.
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