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CobaltRose -> I dont know (11/26/2014 8:41:50 AM)

I just....dont know. I have a gf who loves me and is into kink. Part of me wants to get GRS one day and have penetrative sex from her (strap-on), the other part wants to keep it and have penetrative sex to her. And other days i just wish to suck a bunch of dicks (even though i have NO desire for men otherwise), feel their cum over me and in my mouth, dear god i feel like a fucking succubus desiring cum like that. My gf has no problem with me exploring my sexuality, and nor do i of her. But...i just dont know. Im confused



ExiledTyrant -> RE: I dont know (11/26/2014 8:45:54 AM)

There is nothing we can do to reconcile this for you. However, there may be many people that can relate similar angst and how they've overcame it, but ultimately you are responsible for your own happiness, no one is going to make you happy, they can facilitate it, and the way you achieve that is in understanding yourself as completely as possible.

Jus sayin



CobaltRose -> RE: I dont know (11/26/2014 9:00:51 AM)

I also am looking for something to talk about. I...honestly dont know what to talk about in the forums.



ExiledTyrant -> RE: I dont know (11/26/2014 9:14:18 AM)

That's the beauty of this forum, we can talk about anything.

So... what do you think about those Daleks, think they have a shot at the pennant this year?



CobaltRose -> RE: I dont know (11/27/2014 3:39:53 PM)

Daleks, i know about, the other thing i dont.

Anyway i hope i get some advice about the original post.



FieryOpal -> RE: I dont know (11/27/2014 4:04:01 PM)

Rose, you've gotten some really good advice here in previous threads from njlauren about your transgender-related issues, and from other posters who also recommended that you check out your local LGBT group and get involved with one. Have you contacted any of those websites, or tried to find out if there is an LGBT kink-friendly therapist in your area? Your gender-identity confusion about your sexuality isn't going to resolve itself by itself; and your new girlfriend is not your therapist, nor is it fair to her to be your sole or main sounding board, much less to try to unravel these personal issues for you.

Those of us who post here, myself included, are limited as to what sort of helpful advice we can give you short of encouraging you to get involved with group therapy and individualized therapy. You know you'll have to take these steps in order to pursue any kind of gender reassignment in the future, so the sooner you get started, the better.



CobaltRose -> RE: I dont know (11/27/2014 4:09:17 PM)

I know. Its really annoying, all the transgender specializing therapist in my area are busy. I really feel lost. And i dont use my gf as therapist.



DesFIP -> RE: I dont know (11/27/2014 9:43:52 PM)

You're still very young so you don't have to make any of these decisions right away.
Are you on the waiting list for the good therapists? If not, do so. Because in time they will have a slot for you.



dcnovice -> RE: I dont know (11/27/2014 9:50:14 PM)

Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.

RAINER MARIA RILKE, LETTERS TO A YOUNG POET



starkem -> RE: I dont know (11/27/2014 11:44:50 PM)

Brilliant dcnovice!

I thought I was going to have to come in here undo some confusion.

Liking the penis but not the man is not at all unusual. A penchant for the pegging is not either. The question is very important. I doubt, however, if these call for extremes of therapy or having to engage people in some experimental quest that may or may not provide answers. Yet, how poetic it is the question of You, CobaltRose. Enjoy the thought.

As for myself, the same questions had arisen, but not out of desire for something whole or something new. The cravings were simpler to address than my decline in libido. I mean what else does one do when you are no longer capable or desirous of penetrating someone? Let's see now, I could become a monk or suck dick. I could find people (people who love to top via male or female) and still be back in this game. Yeah keep my options open, right? Perhaps, but not so fast. I see nothing wrong with men embracing femininity. Why must there be answer to the question of You?

Do I really want to be bothered with sexual partners??? That may be the question for me. LOL But I must remain patient toward the unresolved. This does not mean to be stagnant like a muddy soggy puddle of water, but be aware of the big reveal evolving around you.



MasterVenom13 -> RE: I dont know (11/28/2014 2:06:36 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: CobaltRose

I just....dont know. I have a gf who loves me and is into kink. Part of me wants to get GRS one day and have penetrative sex from her (strap-on), the other part wants to keep it and have penetrative sex to her. And other days i just wish to suck a bunch of dicks (even though i have NO desire for men otherwise), feel their cum over me and in my mouth, dear god i feel like a fucking succubus desiring cum like that. My gf has no problem with me exploring my sexuality, and nor do i of her. But...i just dont know. Im confused

I understand I've had a few bi fantasies though they've always been more forced bi in nature (I'm something of a switch) in my sub/slave days I use to pursue a Master for a time though I suspect this was more fantasy. My point is I think you might be bisexual or bi curious. Hell maybe it's just a fantasy like it was with me.

Mind you I am speaking purely as a porn addict slash potential sex addict. That could also be your problem to as I have often felt like a incubus desiring nothing but sex. If this is the case I recommend seeking therapy from a professional.



LookieNoNookie -> RE: I dont know (11/28/2014 5:18:51 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: CobaltRose

I just....dont know. I have a gf who loves me and is into kink. Part of me wants to get GRS one day and have penetrative sex from her (strap-on), the other part wants to keep it and have penetrative sex to her. And other days i just wish to suck a bunch of dicks (even though i have NO desire for men otherwise), feel their cum over me and in my mouth, dear god i feel like a fucking succubus desiring cum like that. My gf has no problem with me exploring my sexuality, and nor do i of her. But...i just dont know. Im confused


Am I that old?

WTF is GRS?

Too gawdamned many acronyms!

(And, by the way....Cobalt....you're just a guy....you'll get past all this shit when you're 77 or so).




PeonForHer -> RE: I dont know (11/28/2014 5:40:47 PM)

quote:

WTF is GRS?


Gender reassignment surgery. I had to work it out, though, admittedly. ;-)



LookieNoNookie -> RE: I dont know (11/28/2014 6:23:29 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: PeonForHer

quote:

WTF is GRS?


Gender reassignment surgery. I had to work it out, though, admittedly. ;-)


Wow.



CobaltRose -> RE: I dont know (11/28/2014 8:23:47 PM)

Im not a guy im a transgender woman stuck in a man's body. Why do people keep calling me a guy? I am not a man embracing feminity, im a woman discovering herself, thinking things i never thought of before.



Gauge -> RE: I dont know (11/29/2014 12:18:47 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: CobaltRose

Im not a guy im a transgender woman stuck in a man's body. Why do people keep calling me a guy? I am not a man embracing feminity, im a woman discovering herself, thinking things i never thought of before.


Relax.



CobaltRose -> RE: I dont know (11/29/2014 8:56:06 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Gauge


quote:

ORIGINAL: CobaltRose

Im not a guy im a transgender woman stuck in a man's body. Why do people keep calling me a guy? I am not a man embracing feminity, im a woman discovering herself, thinking things i never thought of before.


Relax.

im sorry i overeacted, its just annoying.



Gauge -> RE: I dont know (11/29/2014 9:05:53 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: CobaltRose

im sorry i overeacted, its just annoying.



There is no need to apologize, I am sure it is frustrating.



ivone57 -> RE: I dont know (11/30/2014 1:59:26 PM)

sounds like wank material to me .... the responses will get him/her off...just saying



CobaltRose -> RE: I dont know (11/30/2014 8:03:56 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: ivone57

sounds like wank material to me .... the responses will get him/her off...just saying

I know it may seem like that but i am seriously confused about my feelings right now. I wish people didnt assume things about me. Its really annoying.



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