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realmanfordomme -> whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 4:46:30 AM)
I just dont understand it, I am an attractive perfectly well balanced man , self employed, own a home all that nonsense . yet i have absolutly no desire or need to , build myself my self esteem ,or make myself feel powerfull by abusing , humiliating or beating up on someone , or even treating her badly for that matter! I thought maybe that meant i was a sub .But neither do i desire, to take abuse from some silly bimbo ,prancing around in some holloween costume , that hates men ,due to the fact she was screwed over my some nit wit , and now wants to seek extract her revenge on all of mankind ! Is there something wrong with me ? Joe

NINASHARP -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 4:48:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: realmanfordomme I just dont understand it, I am an attractive perfectly well balanced man , self employed, own a home all that nonsense . yet i have absolutly no desire or need to , build myself my self esteem ,or make myself feel powerfull by abusing , humiliating or beating up on someone , or even treating her badly for that matter! I thought maybe that meant i was a sub .But neither do i desire, to take abuse from some silly bimbo ,prancing around in some holloween costume , that hates men ,due to the fact she was screwed over my some nit wit , and now wants to seek extract her revenge on all of mankind ! Is there something wrong with me ? Joe Is that really how you see all this, Joe? Nina

LadyJulieAnn -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 4:50:21 AM)
Nope. Nothing wrong with you. Consider yourself enlightened. Be well, Julie

Kree -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 4:51:29 AM)
Sounds to me like the only thing wrong with you is that you do not understand the dynamic of BDSM as practiced by most people and that you have joined Alice in stumbling through a looking glass that isnt your thing. There is nothing wrong with being vanilla and having opinions about BDSM, so why waste your time on sites like this?

RavenMuse -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 4:51:52 AM)
Yes there is. You obviously lack common sense if you think you will get a positive responce in a place like this from a "Whaaaa! Poor me" post! If you have a real question, post it but otherwise quit it with the self pitying "She done me wrong" type... try writing country music songs with it instead (Or does she need to have shot your dawg first, not sure on that one!)

MHOO314 -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 4:56:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: realmanfordomme I just dont understand it, I am an attractive perfectly well balanced man , self employed, own a home all that nonsense . yet i have absolutly no desire or need to , build myself my self esteem ,or make myself feel powerfull by abusing , humiliating or beating up on someone , or even treating her badly for that matter! I thought maybe that meant i was a sub .But neither do i desire, to take abuse from some silly bimbo ,prancing around in some holloween costume , that hates men ,due to the fact she was screwed over my some nit wit , and now wants to seek extract her revenge on all of mankind ! Is there something wrong with me ? Joe Whoa! Slow down there---can we trash the generalizations? Ick! Ok if you are referring to Doms---MOST of them do not "abuse or beat" their submissives to make themselves feel powerful---there are enough real abusers out there to cover that category. If you are referrring to Dommes or Dominas--I can assure you again, MOST of them are not man haters who prance around in their stillettos and leathers (don't know abou tthe Halloween costumes, that may be an option).--- Now, there is indeed a dynamic that exists between Dominance and submission that involves power exchanges, SM, etc etc etc--but it is not the same relationship to relationship--it is what YOU and your submissive agree it is to be. Perhaps a tad more reading and learning may be in order--please do not caste assumptions.

Lashra -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 4:58:43 AM)
I think perhaps the concept of BDSM may have escaped you. I don't know any Domme's like you described, but I am sure they are out there. I personally like men, but I prefer men who are submissive to be involved in relationships with. Maybe you should do some soul searching and discover who it is you truly are and then go from there? BDSM may not be for you at all whereas a vanilla relationship maybe. Good luck, Lashra Whipping asses since 1981

twicehappy -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 5:06:39 AM)
If this is how you view the intricate complexities and abounding beauty of what it is that we do i suggest you go to a vanilla dating site where your skewed perspective of the extraordinarily intense emotional and physical dance of bdsm will not interfere with your black and white bad B movie visions of our lifestyle.

litleone8620 -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 5:15:55 AM)
Joe: There is something wrong with you, if that is really how you view BDSM. The men you speak of, who abuse their woman to make themselves feel stronger are abusers, not dominants, though, there are probably some like that out there. And i hope you do not see yourself as one. The Dommes you speak of are Hollywood style women, but also out there. Doubtly they're out there as a personal vendetta against men in general because of some bad, past experience. I wonder what made you think our lifestyle is as you described.

tzndeny -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 5:21:18 AM)
Joe, I see absolutely nothing wrong with you, Joe. It sounds to me like you have good common sense. As another poster said, consider yourself "enlightened." All the best to you!

IronBear -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 5:23:01 AM)
Y'know there is a basic art od Domination which requires not the whip or chains nor even a fancy costume. It is Domination by power of will of personality and character.. All good Dominants have this and is in fact an essential and major part of a Gorean Master or mistress. Two people already posting to this thread have it and whom I am blessed and proud to have as Friends have this ability. I refer of course to Mistress Hawthor (MH00314) and RavenMuse. You would do well to listen to them.. Cheers and luck

irishbynature -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 5:23:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: realmanfordomme I just dont understand it, I am an attractive perfectly well balanced man , self employed, own a home all that nonsense . yet i have absolutly no desire or need to , build myself my self esteem ,or make myself feel powerfull by abusing , humiliating or beating up on someone , or even treating her badly for that matter! I thought maybe that meant i was a sub .But neither do i desire, to take abuse from some silly bimbo ,prancing around in some holloween costume , that hates men ,due to the fact she was screwed over my some nit wit , and now wants to seek extract her revenge on all of mankind ! Is there something wrong with me ? Joe It sort of appears you're knocking Dommes and submissives. No offense, honestly, but the thing that might be wrong is your sterotyping of D/s...."But neither do i desire, to take abuse from some silly bimbo ,prancing around in some holloween costume , that hates men ,due to the fact she was screwed over my some nit wit , and now wants to seek extract her revenge on all of mankind !" I don't hate men nor do I prance around in a halloween costume or seek revenge...nor do I wish to be abused in any form or fashion. The word "bimbo" is a bit strong as well. Perhaps it's the negative attitude you have?[&:] Irishbynature FSSP

smilezz -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 5:31:05 AM)
....and here is exactly why society gets the "wrong" impression of BD/SM. People wonder why alot of us want to keep it in the closet (so to speak). ~smilezz~

MistressDiane -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 6:04:41 AM)
Sounds like someone's been visiting too many "commercial" websites and has implanted in their mind the typical stereotype. edited to add............... I'm sure that if you get to know folks who are involved in BDSM in reality you'll find the difference to be astounding!

Caretakr -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 6:09:52 AM)
Shrugs. It's evidently more about what you think is wrong with us.

JessieMe -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 6:10:13 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RavenMuse If you have a real question, post it but otherwise quit it with the self pitying "She done me wrong" type... try writing country music songs with it instead (Or does she need to have shot your dawg first, not sure on that one!) Thats RUN OVER the dawg RM.. sheesh...

KennelDeSade2 -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 6:13:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: realmanfordomme I just dont understand it, ---Is there something wrong with me ? Joe You mean something more wrong than being a troll? Don't give it a second thought, just leave the worries about how to best handle the girls to me, and you go on home and get a nice TV dinner and watch the Lifetime Network some more.

JessieMe -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 6:13:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: realmanfordomme I just dont understand it, I am an attractive perfectly well balanced man , self employed, own a home all that nonsense . yet i have absolutly no desire or need to , build myself my self esteem ,or make myself feel powerfull by abusing , humiliating or beating up on someone , or even treating her badly for that matter! I thought maybe that meant i was a sub .But neither do i desire, to take abuse from some silly bimbo ,prancing around in some holloween costume , that hates men ,due to the fact she was screwed over my some nit wit , and now wants to seek extract her revenge on all of mankind ! Is there something wrong with me ? Joe Joe, if you dont mind.. what made you wish to discover this lifestyle if you consider yourself neither dominant or submissive? I am really curious and not trying to flame because I dont understand what it was you hoped to gain by trying to find someone compatible when you state yourself you fit into neither dynamic.

MistressOfGa -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 6:40:31 AM)
quote: (don't know abou tthe Halloween costumes, that may be an option).--- <Spits coffee> lol Perfect!

Clothespingirl -> RE: whats wrong with me? (7/13/2006 7:08:18 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KennelDeSade2 You mean something more wrong than being a troll? Don't give it a second thought, just leave the worries about how to best handle the girls to me, and you go on home and get a nice TV dinner and watch the Lifetime Network some more. Okay, that does it! KennelDeSade is my new hopeless, unrequited, online love...

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