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badkitty - 12/4/2014 11:26:43 PM

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Do you like treating your sub like a little girl and make her wear a collar?

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RE: badkitty - 12/5/2014 3:50:04 AM

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Two different questions.

1. Daddy Doms aren't real common in the forums.

2. I'm not following. I have never met a submissive that wasn't delighted to wear a collar, and had to be forced to do it.

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RE: badkitty - 12/5/2014 4:20:24 AM

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I don't know that I treat my ladies like little girls. Certainly, I teach them, care for them, coddle them, adore them, even spoil them, to a degree.

My identification as a daddy is a result of a young lady identifying me as such and then, an extremely well written essay that explained what it meant to the author that resonated very deeply with me. Unfortunately, I don't think this essay is available, online, in its entirety, anymore. I have a copy of the original and have posted it here, in different threads, before.

Collars, for me have always been kind of tantamount to a wedding ring and I never insisted upon a wedding ring, either. There are collars we use for play. If you're referring to that aspect, then yes, I LOVE making these little slut muffins wear a collar (and the leash is NOT optional).

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RE: badkitty - 12/5/2014 5:22:48 AM

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Do you like treating your sub like a little girl and make her wear a collar?

No and yes in that order.

In my relationship we don't do age play, it's not our thing, big fan of the collar and leash though.

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RE: badkitty - 12/5/2014 5:33:17 AM

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Being treated like a little girl doesn't have to be age play. It can be just about guiding and nurturing etc rather than someone actually age playing.

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RE: badkitty - 12/5/2014 6:58:46 AM

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Being treated like a little girl doesn't have to be age play. It can be just about guiding and nurturing etc rather than someone actually age playing.

In my book, guiding and nurturing isn't treating someone like a little girl.

To treat someone 'like a little...' is very much age play.

And to answer OP's questions, we are the same as GotSteel: No and Yes in that order.

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RE: badkitty - 12/5/2014 9:02:52 AM

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Do you like treating your sub like a little girl and make her wear a collar?

If you don't mind my asking, is there some reason why you want to know? Because if you're simply gathering comparison data, then you could set up a poll under Polls, which might be more helpful to you.

Had you posed a "Why" question, I think you would get more informative responses.

Treating your sub like a little girl can run the gamut from bg (baby girl) to an older adolescent tg (teen girl)/AT (Adult Teen).
As freedomdwarf1 noted, this is age play no matter how you look at it, and there are Dominants who aren't interested in doing that sort of thing, like myself.
In fact, there's probably as much vanilla age play (sans collar) that goes on with middle-aged or older Sugar Daddies and their 20 to 30-somethings.

As for wearing a collar, nobody "make{s}" their s-type wear a collar. They both want to collar and be collared. Some may opt for a less traditional collaring symbol of ownership, such as wearing a necklace, charm bracelet, or something more practical to be worn out in public or while at work, perhaps reserving an actual collar during play or while home together.

I'm a straight Domme so I don't have an lg, and there are much fewer MommyDommes than there are DaddyDoms. Much, much fewer.

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RE: badkitty - 12/5/2014 9:20:33 AM

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Being treated like a little girl doesn't have to be age play. It can be just about guiding and nurturing etc rather than someone actually age playing.

I agree... that's often the dynamic between myself and my little girl, but it doesn't seem accurate to call it age play. Age play seems more like infantilisation to me, although I could be misinformed on that.

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RE: badkitty - 12/5/2014 9:27:39 AM

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Do you like treating your sub like a little girl and make her wear a collar?

1. No. I raised two kids...have no desire to be with an adult "stuck" at a certain age. Especially when it seems as if that age is chosen so as to avoid adult responsibility. At that point, the whole idea of "guide, nurture, take care of while BEING served" becomes " guide, nurture, teach, raise and SERVE". sort of reverses the roles, does it not?
Now...age play? On the rare occasion. But never below a certain age and certainly not in a non-sexual way .

2. Collars. I look at them, like many others, as similar to a wedding ring and therefore have not collared every submissive I've been involved with. For-play collars? Love them and the leash. A symbol that weare together like a necklace, similar to a collar? Yes.

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RE: badkitty - 12/5/2014 11:16:03 AM

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I am not treated like a little girl and he's not a Daddy Dom. We are in a D/s relationship, not a DD/lg relationship.

He does put a play collar and sometimes a leash on me for play. I'm not forced to wear it and it's not something he would ever have to force on me, I enjoy wearing it.

I am collared but my formal collar is a gold chain with 3 pendants on it, it's not a locking collar. I'm not forced to wear my formal collar either, I started wearing it when he collared me which we both wanted. It's a symbol of our commitment to each other, not much different than marriage.

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RE: badkitty - 12/5/2014 12:12:39 PM

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Being treated like a little girl doesn't have to be age play. It can be just about guiding and nurturing etc rather than someone actually age playing.

In my book, guiding and nurturing isn't treating someone like a little girl.

To treat someone 'like a little...' is very much age play.

And to answer OP's questions, we are the same as GotSteel: No and Yes in that order.

Age play to me is role-play, its someone pretending to be younger or older than they actually are. A lot of little girls don't do this. A non age-playing lg has child-like qualities, its a part of them, not a role that they play.

To the OP - I don't care about collars personally, they make me feel a bit like a pet dog. I do like symbols of commitment, I would just prefer to wear something like a necklace or ring that I can wear all of the time. I wouldn't feel comfortable wearing a collar 24/7 but I would a piece of jewellery. I don't hate collars, if my partner really wanted me to wear one I would, its just not my preference.

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RE: badkitty - 12/5/2014 12:24:24 PM

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Being treated like a little girl doesn't have to be age play. It can be just about guiding and nurturing etc rather than someone actually age playing.

In my book, guiding and nurturing isn't treating someone like a little girl.

To treat someone 'like a little...' is very much age play.

And to answer OP's questions, we are the same as GotSteel: No and Yes in that order.

Age play to me is role-play, its someone pretending to be younger or older than they actually are. A lot of little girls don't do this. A non age-playing lg has child-like qualities, its a part of them, not a role that they play.

See...even though I'm a Doctor and a fairly compassionate being, my question (s) for someone like this would be "Why? Did something traumatic happen to 'stick' you at this age? What part of that child-like quality do you find appealing to maintain as an adult?

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RE: badkitty - 12/5/2014 1:27:16 PM

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Being treated like a little girl doesn't have to be age play. It can be just about guiding and nurturing etc rather than someone actually age playing.

In my book, guiding and nurturing isn't treating someone like a little girl.

To treat someone 'like a little...' is very much age play.

And to answer OP's questions, we are the same as GotSteel: No and Yes in that order.

Age play to me is role-play, its someone pretending to be younger or older than they actually are. A lot of little girls don't do this. A non age-playing lg has child-like qualities, its a part of them, not a role that they play.

See...even though I'm a Doctor and a fairly compassionate being, my question (s) for someone like this would be "Why? Did something traumatic happen to 'stick' you at this age? What part of that child-like quality do you find appealing to maintain as an adult?

It could be something traumatic, it could be something missed out on in childhood, maybe they had to grow up too fast, maybe they weren't parented as a child very well, it could be lots of things and they probably aren't all negative or necessarily traumatic things. I don't see it as being stuck at an age, its a part of them, not all of them usually. Sometimes that part is present all or some of the time and sometimes it only comes out with their partner at certain times. They usually have adult responsibilities that they take seriously, as much as any other adult.

Maintaining the qualities may not be the point.

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RE: badkitty - 12/5/2014 1:27:41 PM

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Being treated like a little girl doesn't have to be age play. It can be just about guiding and nurturing etc rather than someone actually age playing.

In my book, guiding and nurturing isn't treating someone like a little girl.

To treat someone 'like a little...' is very much age play.

And to answer OP's questions, we are the same as GotSteel: No and Yes in that order.

Age play to me is role-play, its someone pretending to be younger or older than they actually are. A lot of little girls don't do this. A non age-playing lg has child-like qualities, its a part of them, not a role that they play.

Whether it's in play or part of their natural self, if you are not treating them as a fully fledged adult, it is age play.

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RE: badkitty - 12/5/2014 3:00:02 PM

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I like some age play, but I dont go very young, I age play as a teen, current man isn't into it but I have an ex who was my "daddy"

I don't like collars, I don't correlate the two.

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