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Greta75 -> RE: Asking personal questions online? (12/17/2014 3:04:25 PM)
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One of the reason why I come online (and usually end up staying in one or a few places intensely and then move on) is to exchange ideas with people.
Perhaps about stuff that isn't so easy talking to or about with people off'line.
For me, obviously I cannot go to a vanilla social function, and start asking everyone one by one if they are into bdsm. So if I want to talk about bdsm, I go to a bdsm site and look for bdsm people to talk about bdsm. If I want to talk about cats, I go find cat forums to talk about cats, etc etc. It's just easier to cut through all the small talk and go straight to common ground.
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Will you speak about things to a stranger online that you won't to an ordinary buddy offline or not?
In a way yes. It depends on my vibe with that stranger. I am a very instinctive person. I know what is appropriate and inappropriate with different people in real life, I know their thresholds of what information they can handle. Also, even in real life, people tend to open up very easy to me about things they wouldn't say to others. Because I am just the kinda person who is not easily shock by confessions of anything and always take it like it's normal. I met someone new today IRL, online meet , he really just contacted me today, and he said I was very non-judgemental, he was pouring his new found discoveries in his love for masochism and struggling with why he enjoy it.
It's what people always tell me when they are telling me very personal things IRL. My reaction is always like, oh, that's quite normal. One thing I learnt growing up in the punk and hardcore culture, is that, embrace differences, no matter how weird it is to you. As long as those differences that person has does not cause harm or hurt anybody.
Today one of my friends got criticized for looking like thug, and as an event host, he should clean up his look, by one of the participants. Yes, he does, appearance wise, he would give a very bad impression, but personality and character wise, his one of the nicest and kindest person, also very patient and calm with people, that's why I selected him as one of my event host. His god-like patience with people is an asset.
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One thing I notice though is peoples dislike for criticism online and their inability to admit mistakes. Perhaps we could include this discussion too.
I will admit a mistake if I make one, but if I don't think I make a mistake while others may think and feel I did, I won't admit it if I didn't think I make one. It's as simple as that. Admitting a mistake due to peer pressure is kinda stupid, especially when deep inside, you felt you did nothing wrong. So if people don't admit to their mistakes, may be it's simply because they didn't think it's a mistake.
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