Have you ever felt to just take a break from it all?

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raiken -> Have you ever felt to just take a break from it all? (7/13/2006 1:27:15 PM)
There are times, when i have gotten to the point that i needed to step away from the community, the munches, the clubs and the online community and groups, if for nothing else, but just to regroup and re-evaluate my position or just for a rest in spirit perhaps. Sometimes i just get discouraged, or tired and need a refresher. One M/s couple i have been friends with for a while, has done this last year. They shut down their website, and dropped out of the community, and still have no desire to return. They shared with me, that they both lost the desire to keep going in certain circles that continue the same old issues and topics over and over, and how it got tiring and stale for them to continue to participate. Has anyone else ever felt this way, and if so, what were your reasons for doing so? ~raiken

mnottertail -> RE: Have you ever felt to just take a break from it all? (7/13/2006 1:33:54 PM)
Sure, but I get sick of work too. I get sick of my mother calling me on the phone and don't want to pick it up when it rings and listen for another 40 minutes to what she has already told me three times (but that one I do anyway) ......... The same old grind is the same old grind. It is not like you are turning your back on something that is fundemental to your beliefs. It is just that you don't need to be immersed in something until your mind is pruned up all the time. No different than you want to quit orgaming at some point, for a while, at least. Ron

Curiossdragnlily -> RE: Have you ever felt to just take a break from it all? (7/13/2006 1:38:36 PM)
i can totally understand raiken. i have gotten to this point and i am just happy with my MasterBut W/we are going thru other transitions at the present time so this could be the reason for it. Maybe in time it will all come back .lol with respect, lily, collared and owned slave of Master Curios srn 308-692-331

yourMissTress -> RE: Have you ever felt to just take a break from it all? (7/13/2006 1:48:47 PM)
I have and still do take breaks from people, places, situations that I'm uncomfortable with or tired of. Sometimes the only way to get out of a rut is to switch to a whole new wagon completely. Usually when I do this I never return to that person, place or situation again. I'm able to gain a better perspective on why I was uncomfortable and see things without any emotional clouding.

Caretakr -> RE: Have you ever felt to just take a break from it all? (7/13/2006 2:36:50 PM)
I quit the local scene about three years ago. There was a sudden influx of swingers who had no idea of what bdsm was about,and having these people at the local club...Hitting on my date every time I turned around, became too much to want to deal with. Then there were the gossips, the cliques etc.....it was all just too much like going back to high shool.

IndigoDadesi -> RE: Have you ever felt to just take a break from it all? (7/13/2006 2:38:12 PM)
Sure. I think everyone feels like that from time to time. When I feel like Im not gaining anything from a situation, or Im not enjoying it anymore I take a break. Ive even taken breaks from D/s in my own relationship because it wasnt working at the time. It allows me to step back and take a look at what is really going on and to adjust or to move on.

impishlilhellcat -> RE: Have you ever felt to just take a break from it all? (7/13/2006 2:40:42 PM)
I've often thought about taking a break from it all. I went through a particularly rough time with someone and thought god I love this sooo much, but is it really worth it. I tried vanilla dating someone for about two weeks and I couldn't handle it. It was enough of a lesson to teach me that even though times may be rough it's not worth giving up what I love.

OsideGirl -> RE: Have you ever felt to just take a break from it all? (7/13/2006 2:48:13 PM)
We dropped out of the scene a great deal when we moved from LA to San Diego. We will get up to LA once in a while, but it's a long drive and usually involves hotels. Beyond that, if anything ever happened to Master and I, I probably wouldn't pursue another D/s relationship simply because of the level of inanity that exists within the community now. I can't imagine giving up my kinky ways, but I just don't have the patience to deal with people that have no grasp on reality.

LotusSong -> RE: Have you ever felt to just take a break from it all? (7/13/2006 3:00:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: raiken There are times, when i have gotten to the point that i needed to step away from the community, the munches, the clubs and the online community and groups, if for nothing else, but just to regroup and re-evaluate my position or just for a rest in spirit perhaps. Sometimes i just get discouraged, or tired and need a refresher. One M/s couple i have been friends with for a while, has done this last year. They shut down their website, and dropped out of the community, and still have no desire to return. They shared with me, that they both lost the desire to keep going in certain circles that continue the same old issues and topics over and over, and how it got tiring and stale for them to continue to participate. Has anyone else ever felt this way, and if so, what were your reasons for doing so? ~raiken Yup. Been there, done that

MizSuz -> RE: Have you ever felt to just take a break from it all? (7/13/2006 3:46:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: raiken They shared with me, that they both lost the desire to keep going in certain circles that continue the same old issues and topics over and over, and how it got tiring and stale for them to continue to participate. Has anyone else ever felt this way, and if so, what were your reasons for doing so? Yes, for the same reasons mentioned and because if I don't moderate my participation I get burned out, especially of being approached as if I'm a fetish delivery system. I've been in an off phase for some time now. Not that I ever completely bow out, but my participation becomes extremely selective and I become more of a loner. I also get very rigid about my boundaries during these times (one look at my profile probably gives that away).

MsCameron -> RE: Have you ever felt to just take a break from it all? (7/13/2006 4:12:41 PM)
Absolutely :) In fact, I've really removed myself from most things for the last year. A few play parties and one or two munches but that's been it. I keep my "toe" in with my close friends as far as play goes and still spend my time with lifestyle people. All of my profiles are on hold and will remain so until the more pressing issues in my life are resolved. When will that be? LOL I have no idea. I guess when I feel comfortable enough to go back. MC

michaelGA2 -> RE: Have you ever felt to just take a break from it all? (7/13/2006 4:16:56 PM)
almost daily, but hey...what WOULD i do with my time...LOL

eruditegirl1 -> RE: Have you ever felt to just take a break from it all? (7/13/2006 4:26:01 PM)
I actually was just thinknig about this today...seemed Vanilla was easier for me...but then I also wonder if it's just more comfortable....seems to be more difficult to find a Dom...than a Vanilla BF...maybe it's just me....

indigo302 -> RE: Have you ever felt to just take a break from it all? (7/13/2006 5:01:13 PM)
Funny you should ask... I've been struggling with that decision for the last few months...

LotusSong -> RE: Have you ever felt to just take a break from it all? (7/13/2006 6:24:02 PM)
There is more to life and vanilla (lifestyle) pays the bills (shrug)

Sinergy -> RE: Have you ever felt to just take a break from it all? (7/13/2006 6:26:58 PM)
Hello A/all, I have only reentered the lifestyle a few months ago after a haitus of almost 4 years. Real life has this weird way of making put things like a sex life on the back burner for me. Now I am back because things seem to have all worked out the way I intended them to work out. Sinergy

cynthiamarie -> RE: Have you ever felt to just take a break from it all? (7/13/2006 6:44:52 PM)
quote: Yes, for the same reasons mentioned and because if I don't moderate my participation I get burned out, especially of being approached as if I'm a fetish delivery system. Definitely. Also, when I form attachments that don't work out, I need some downtime.

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