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Online Tasks (for Female) - 12/27/2014 5:22:03 AM

Frentzen

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Hi,

I'm discovering the scene, and im playing with a switch FEMALE at the moment.
We started with little clips and wax play etc, we want to make another step for more excitement (like Ginger etc). So what are youre experiences? And how can it be reached with low budget equipment.

I'm curious; what are your most humiliating or painful tasks in online play?

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RE: Online Tasks (for Female) - 12/27/2014 5:44:14 AM

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You are looking for on-line tasks for a female Switch to give you as your Top, because you're a male sub. Why are you asking for ideas from others when your Top should be the one coming up with ideas and then discussing them with you? Did she task you to gather info from Cyber Dominants?

If you want to explore being a switch also, and roleplay at D/s during your BDSM play, there's nothing wrong with that. Just be aware that if you are in charge of and in control of the scene, whether you are assuming the role of bottom or Top, this makes you the Dominant one. When she wears the mantle of authority, then she is being your Domme. I hope that you can see the distinction. It doesn't make much difference now, but this is not how you would interact with your Mistress in the future unless she specifically has no issue with having a switch partner and not a collared sub.

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RE: Online Tasks (for Female) - 12/27/2014 5:47:31 AM

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I wish I could give a better answer than
A) I have never "played" with anyone that was so lacking in imagination on what they wanted to do to me..
B) I suck at adding links to threads but there are several topics on this subject and I know a few had some good suggestions... try the search function on the forums.

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RE: Online Tasks (for Female) - 12/27/2014 6:10:30 AM

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i just want to gather some examples

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RE: Online Tasks (for Female) - 12/27/2014 6:21:18 AM

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Well, you can gather all you want but only the two of you know each other and what you would like.. So I suggest sitting down with that and making a list, when said list is done, discuss which are doable and which can be made doable..

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RE: Online Tasks (for Female) - 12/27/2014 3:06:36 PM

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Write down what you're interested in. She should do the same. Play with the stuff common to both lists.
No way for anyone here to know if you can tolerate habanero juice on a sound. Or if you're into sounds to begin with.

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RE: Online Tasks (for Female) - 12/28/2014 5:47:49 AM

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This is from my old....fifteen year old website.
I REALLY need to clean it up and make it habitable. Considering the changes Ive gone thru in the last 12.
This is from when I was in an online only relationship.
Use the warnings, excuse the mess, use your brain and enjoy.
http://www.lucylasticslair.com/rbm/ldideas.html

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RE: Online Tasks (for Female) - 12/30/2014 12:55:37 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lucylastic

http://www.lucylasticslair.com/rbm/ldideas.html

Dang, those are a bunch of ideas.
(Btw, a kosher dill pickle can be substituted for the cucumber, unless there is sensitivity to vinegar.)

The good thing about having a list to go over, as SinFix and DesFIP suggested, is that you can get a feel for what appeals to you and also instantly determine what would exceed either of your limits, or what can get set aside for future reference so that you both are on the same page.
With a list like Lucy's printed out, rate each activity on a scale of 1-5. (Credit goes to littleladybug for passing along the 5-point scale from an earlier thread.)
1 = This really turns me on and gets me excited.
2 = I like this idea and want to try it out.
3 = Neutral. I could tolerate doing this, but I'm not thrilled about it.
4 = Soft Limit. Possibly an option for Dominant to consider for disciplinary action.
5 = Hard Limit/Deal Breaker. No effing way.

OP, sometimes us fuddy-duddies (meaning me) have to get the stick out of our butts and remember how much fun we used to have when we were young. Just have fun with your on-line antics, be playful and light-hearted while you experiment safely, don't forget to talk dirty with one another, and enjoy yourselves. Throw some vanilla stuff into the mix and don't let yourselves get caught up in BDSM-centric uni-dimensionality. Sprout those D/s wings, the both of you and best of luck.

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