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And oh my, how it changes the dynamics of the D/S side of the experience. All sorts of lovely leashes arise from that simple idea.

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ORIGINAL: sheisreeds

Pulling this a bit out of context, my partner and I were discussing how our dynamic relates to bondage, and I replied that pain is my favorite form of restraint. Doesn't need to leave all sorts of nasty marks either. Just a few well placed pinches, and press a few pressure points, and he ain't going nowhere. Starts coming back to his senses? Just repeat. So much less effort than rope, and much more screaming.

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel


I think this is where a meat space community really helps.

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ORIGINAL: Kana

I was never scared of my sadism. I'd taken years of martial arts and was well versed in the fine art of hurting people. I did, however, worry tremendously as to what it said about me as a man, as a person and as a decent being. That was a long time ago though.

Basically, the thing that changed everything was the realization that;

A-Certain women, for whatever reason, are attracted and drawn to masochistic acts and interactions that seem abusive. That they are going to participate in these interactions because that's who and what they are and what they crave-they are drawn to such acts as a moth is to a light;

B-I'm a decent guy. Not an asshole, not a diety, but a pretty good mofo. I have lots of experience and know what to do and how to do it yet, in a safe way, know how to still extract maximum pleasure/pain/humiliation/degradation ... as opposed to some real dangerous, ill-informed misogynistic fuckers out there. I also happen to be sane, which helps lots. Thus;

C-I can actually help give a woman what she needs/craves/desires, yet do it in a not completely detrimental fashion, unlike most men on sites like this. Thus, instead of the common perspective which is that she's doing me some vast favor by submitting to me,* I'm actually the one doing her a solid by beating the fuck out of her. I'm the one who is helping her out, not the other way around. In fact, the slut should be more grateful-I may need to whip her harder...

Yeah, that little tidbit only changed everything.
Instead of being a twisted asshole, I was being a good guy. Not a black hat but a white hat.
And oh my, how it changes the dynamics of the D/S side of the experience. All sorts of lovely leashes arise from that simple idea.


*Can there be anything more pathetic than a wanna-Dom crawling and groveling to get someone to submit to them. "Pleeeeaaaaase, just be mine. I'll do whatever you want."
Uhhh, dude, that's the polar opposite, not of what she wants, but whats she craves in her deepest soul. It's the one path doomed to failure

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ORIGINAL: Mikhaelis

I am a sadist. I see a lot of people on here claim to be sadists, but listening to them talk shows they are just role playing according to some book or advice from some other ill equipped wannabe. I ENJOY and THRIVE on inflicting pain on others. I have since I was a very young child. I do not fault myself for this nor do I see it as some sort of character flaw. I do not fear it. It is who I am, just as there are others out there who need pain inflicted on them. It is primal, it is powerful, and it is who I am. Am I a bad person? No. DO my desires run dark and deep? Very. So when I see "loving", "romantic" "sadists" post on here it makes me retch in disgust.

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ORIGINAL: Mikhaelis

So when I see "loving", "romantic" "sadists" post on here it makes me retch in disgust.

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ORIGINAL: Moderator3

I wouldn't get too upset on this one folks.

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ORIGINAL: stef

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ORIGINAL: Moderator3

I wouldn't get too upset on this one folks.

I think you're confusing pointing and laughing with getting upset.