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RE: Consent and something most often overlooked.... - 7/18/2006 2:46:57 AM   
SoulfulSadism


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Status: offline 		You have more than a good point, Logan.
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RE: Consent and something most often overlooked.... - 7/19/2006 10:22:08 PM   
dominmd


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Status: offline 		I have a sub that I do not have sex with. That would be a hard limit for both of us. So our relationship dynamic is not sexual in nature. Therefore, neither of us has an addiction to sex.  If anything we are addicted to interaction with each other and everyone around us. But that would just make us normal people.

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RE: Consent and something most often overlooked.... - 7/20/2006 9:39:58 AM   
akisha


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Good morning, my name is akisha and yes i am an sexual addict. My Top happily refers to me as a SAN heheh. But I'm only addicted to sex with people i trust and like so i guess that would still be consentual now wouldn't it? LMAO

I have yet to meet any one that would sleep with anything just because it had a penis, come one now really. You sent someone to a therapist because they have a high sex drive?? that just blows me away. I'll admit there probably are people with problems but I'm guessing it's probably not an epidemic. Yes some people use sex to find fulfillment in areas that their lives are lacking but that is not a sexual addiction it a crossed wire in their thinking process that is all. Some people equate sex to love or desireability.

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RE: Consent and something most often overlooked.... - 7/20/2006 2:10:40 PM   
losttreasure


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*laughs*  Spoken like a true man. 

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RE: Consent and something most often overlooked.... - 7/20/2006 8:27:08 PM   
LoganStrange


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Status: offline 		Unbelievable,
Ok, one more time I will say this,
you can love sex without being an addict,
so you can have a high sexdrive without being an addict,

Addiction is more than any of this, addiction is DESTRUCTIVE behaviour,
NOT a high sex drive.
When your love for sex destroys your job, your relationships, and you have tried to stop but CAN'T, then that is addiction.

You can be a total slut and not be a sex addict, you can have a dozen lovers and not be a sex addict.

Please try to understand the difference,

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RE: Consent and something most often overlooked.... - 7/20/2006 8:56:59 PM   
mnottertail


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But the whale is undoubtably one of the largest mammals alive today........

my statement is equivalent to yours in social and political import.

I should do what? wring my hands?  walk me through this please.........

All you smoke inhalers and ADHD and whatever is the hepatitis de jour......jus' hol' up........




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RE: Consent and something most often overlooked.... - 7/21/2006 7:04:29 AM   
sublizzie


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Status: offline 		Someone who is sexually addicted would make a very poor sex slave/submissive. They would be only interested in their needs and not be willing to forgo meeting those needs regardless of the Dom/me's wishes. A sex addict would go from Dom/me to Dom/me seeking out sexual gratification without considering any of the consequences of their actions. They would not be submitting or bottoming, they'd just be manipulating BDSM to meet their sexual addiction. There would be no power exchange. It would all be about them sucking as much sexual energy as possible from each donor until they moved on to the next.

I can see how a sex addict might wander in to BDSM and see it as a new supplier for their addiction, but they wouldn't really be part of WIIWD. They'd be a leach on whomever they came in contact with who indulged their addiction.

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RE: Consent and something most often overlooked.... - 7/21/2006 7:52:18 AM   
LoganStrange


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Bless you sublizzie!

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RE: Consent and something most often overlooked.... - 7/21/2006 8:24:29 AM   
Bearlee


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Status: offline 		Exactly...their focus would be sex, not any particular part of BDSM.
 
There are 12-step programs for sexual addicts.  I watched one of those 60-minute educational shows on the topic.  It included interviews with recovering sexual addicts... it can ruin lives as well as can any other addiction.
 
I would think it easier for such an addict to frequent bars and streetcorners than a BDSM site or club.
 
bearlee

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RE: Consent and something most often overlooked.... - 7/21/2006 10:29:19 AM   
sublizzie


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Status: offline 		From what I have read, sex addicts try many things on their downward slide into totally giving in to their addiction. Some have tried swingers clubs; others kinky clubs.They end up on the streets if they don't realize what's going on early enough. It's sad and something that should be dealt with speedily with a trip to a good therapist and a 12-step program.

It's too bad there are not more people who are aware of such things and willing to steer sex addicts into proper treatment instead of making use of them in their playing. But then, there are people who will supply alcoholics with their drug of choice just to watch them make a fool of themselves too.

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