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ReinRaus -> RE: Was it wrong or did I provide her with a good learning experience? (1/14/2015 6:55:43 PM)
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ORIGINAL: seekingreality
The OP screwed with her work life. That to me is a huge no no. And it's a shame she didn't tell you to fuck yourself, but what is is.
Workplaces have a culture. The OP said he told her not only to dress badly but act like a "clutz/slob." Who the heck wants to be around a slob at work?
It's not like the OP changed someone who dressed like a 2-dollar whore at work into someone who wore plain, but professional attire.
I agree with this and was surprised at the hostile comments defending his actions as being a moral lesson. This was not the place to make a juvenile point by instructing her to show up looking like a slob in a place where her appearance could impact client relations or disrupt things in the office. In a perfect world we could surround ourselves with people who only judge us by what's on the inside, but that's just not possible for those who choose a typical job in certain fields. You need to fit in with things or possibly lose your respect from supervisors, your job, your income, your insurance, etc. IMO, putting these things at risk is not worth the heart-warming lesson OP was going for.
Maybe pulling the same thing around your friends and seeing who stops inviting you to go out is a fine way of weeding out insincere company, but doing it at work is going to have more possible consequences than the benefit of learning this lesson. I don't know how people are saying, "Fuck the higher ups and forget your coworkers if they don't stick by you when you come to work in a stained hoodie!"
OP didn't mention until later in the thread that his sub wasn't dressing appropriately and that she legitimately needed to be given some pointers. After reading this, I think his actions were lazy and reckless. He could have taken the time to go through some of her wardrobe, toss the inappropriate items, and teach her what dressing in an acceptable manner should look like for her position and work environment. This would have benefited her in the long run without possibly tarnishing her image or ruining the chance of a raise in the near future for this little stunt. Instead, he stupidly told her to go all-out slob mode just because it's the easiest way to make a blatant point while shaming her professionally. Dressing like a slut at the office is just as bad as dressing in sweats and a t-shirt when you're supposed to be coming in business casual. OP dropped the ball at caring enough to guide her to the middle ground.
Like I already suggested, a Dom needs to think before acting. Actually, most adults would benefit from getting in the habit of doing this.
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