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goldennectardrin -> Question for all Mistress (1/19/2015 11:41:18 AM)
I have a question to ask all Mistress ! I have a question for all Mistress who read this post. People who this do not concern. Please leave the jokes and clown comments replies off.... Question : Why is it that a Mistress that has seen you in the past before and know that you are a real client is so hard to schedule an session appointment with them again? Its not that the mistress DO NOT want to meet again . Its just how they operate. I REALLy DONT UNDERSTAND THIS.... I know this is a lifestyle , but aslo it is business at the same time at the end of the day ..... None of the mistresses are doing sessions for free... Ive ran across serval Mistresses that I would like to meet or have seen in the past , but when u call them to set up a date to meet . They give you the "ole , only call when you are ready to meet , call me 2 - 3 hours before you want to meet thats enough time , i dont set appointment for future dates. Only call when get to town & you are ready to meet " WOW,,, WFT Are you Serious ? When i her that . I really get turned off by that or have a gutt feeling this Mistress may be a escort ... I as the "client" will give them my personal info ,prove that i am real , offer to give them conformation emails , Itinerary info ectt. I do this because i mostly travel places to play ! Im the type of guy that will call or email ahead of time and ask if the dates i choose are good dates for the mistress ,so i will not be wasting my time . Most times id say 75% of the time the mistress will email you / text you ON the date that you asked about. Asking did i make it to town and when would i like to set up an appointment ... WOW In my eyes thats very unprofessional . By this time i havent heard back from you in the past days when i was making plans and the mistress just now responding back on the date i was inquiring about . Its too late ive made other plans or found another mistress.... Why cant the mistress be on the same page as the "Client" ? Why do you do sessions /Are you a real Mistress /Are you doing this just for the finance ? I dont understand this... Some Mistresses even have websites with a info page to fill out for booking a session and they still do & say the same ole shit.. This baffles me . I pretty much now can read a profile , website or bio of a mistress and can tell if she is worthy of booking a session. I still get fooled from time to time. You have to communicate people . Finding a mistress is hard enough ! At first i thought it was just the Afroamerican Mistresses , but ive tried white and latin as well with the same outcome. What i found that works for me is . If a mistress have video clips of her work , website with real session review details , her website is simple but to the point , she will email you back and communicate about meeting ..... these are just my experience that turned out good for me .. Another thing that bothers me is . Why would a mistress book a session with a client. Have them come to her place and she is still in a session with another client ? She invites you up when they done and you bump into her client coming out or see him leave.... Even Sometimes have you hanging arround in a parking lot / hotel , drive arround the meeting place , or wait in the loby . WOW WTF like people not watching , staff not watching . The client sticks out like a sore thumb . I refuse to do that anymore. Im not jumping through any hoops to meet . Im the client . I have the tribute in my pockets. I choose to tribute . I had a very bad experience 2012 with this type of foolishness. I booked a session called when i was there . She told me she was finishing up via text give her 15 minutes. Well we all know 15 minutes mean 30 to 45 minutes in this lifestyle. I drove arround like a fool . Off duty Police/security pulled up to me when i came back sitting in the car of the hotel parking lot... Long story made short. The meeting place was in a high crime area. In a city i am NOT from . The cop thought i was there delivering drugs or waiting on a working girl that i may have dropped off. He call a on duty cop they searched my rental car . Asked who i was there to see . Whats her name . So being in a fucking pickle .I said i was her to see a lady i met on a dating website here on business. I think it was a someone playing a joke by sending me to this hotel instead . They asked me to leave. The fucking mistress called me and texted me cursing me out, telling me to stop playing on her phone and wasting her time . She put me on her no show list . WOW REALLY ? This is the type of foolishness that goes on that people dont get to hear about..

goldennectardrin -> RE: Question for all Mistress (1/19/2015 11:55:21 AM)
Can a mistress explain this in detail?

AurumCaminus -> RE: Question for all Mistress (1/19/2015 12:22:23 PM)
I may not be the one you are hoping would answer, but what you are running into here is the same thing you would get with any other service industry. The really good ones have no need to advertise. It may cost more, and establishing contacts for a referral may be a chore; but you get out of it what you put in.

goldennectardrin -> RE: Question for all Mistress (1/19/2015 12:36:12 PM)
Hey this open for all to discuss on the topic. I just wanted to hear why this go on from other people and what they been through. Im sure the right mistress will post the true reason this happens ! I have found a mistress to serve . I 95% will meet with Mistress Simone Noir of Miami , but i will stray away to try a new mistress out every now and then ! Im not tring to replace Mistress Simone Noir. Yeah you are right AURUMcaminus What im running into here is the same thing you would get with any other service industry. The really good ones have no need to advertise. Thats a so true statement ......

wannapleez -> RE: Question for all Mistress (1/19/2015 11:35:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goldennectardrin None of the mistresses are doing sessions for free... That will come as a big surprise to every Mistress I've ever served.

GoddessManko -> RE: Question for all Mistress (1/19/2015 11:39:36 PM)
It seems like a perpetual flaming of female Dommes from a fellow with a more severe case of dyslexia than I have endured. Eyes well up with grateful tears as she thanks Mistress Simone Noir. My gawd woman, you are a saint.

ThePrincessKali -> RE: Question for all Mistress (1/20/2015 5:01:33 AM)
Maybe bitching about Mistresses who charge in multiple forums may be turning off the ones on this site. Go on backpages, visit a munch, or google professional Dommes. Like any other business you want to seek out those with experience and a professional demeanor. If you do that I think you will be successful.

thishereboi -> RE: Question for all Mistress (1/20/2015 6:58:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goldennectardrin Hey this open for all to discuss on the topic. I just wanted to hear why this go on from other people and what they been through. Im sure the right mistress will post the true reason this happens ! the only way you are going to get the right mistress to post the true reason is to have the mistress who turned you down come here and tell us what that was. Any other replies you get are just going to be guesses because there is no way we can tell you why someone else did something.

goldennectardrin -> RE: Question for all Mistress (1/20/2015 7:24:58 AM)
No people you are not understanding what im saying! 1st let me state that i mean PRO DOMME FEMALES.. I will admit i said it wrong by saying all dom females ... What im saying is she IS NOT TURNING ME DOWN! I asking why is it so hard to get in contact and set up a appointment if they know that you are real and they have met you serval times before.. Alot of PRO DOMME FEMALES do this ...

freedomdwarf1 -> RE: Question for all Mistress (1/20/2015 7:29:36 AM)
Try asking the Pro Dommes in question????? It's obviously not a common feature otherwise we could give you an answer - but we can't. Because we can only guess!

thishereboi -> RE: Question for all Mistress (1/20/2015 7:35:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goldennectardrin No people you are not understanding what im saying! 1st let me state that i mean PRO DOMME FEMALES.. I will admit i said it wrong by saying all dom females ... What im saying is she IS NOT TURNING ME DOWN! I asking why is it so hard to get in contact and set up a appointment if they know that you are real and they have met you serval times before.. Alot of PRO DOMME FEMALES do this ... quote: ORIGINAL: goldennectardrin FIN DOMME is a scam . This is what people dont understand but dont get me wrong . Some sub people will send or buy even pay a bills for a FINDOMME. A very Small % of peopel, but u best believe it is because they are tring to meet them real time offline. A rich wealthy person will not throw is money away on something he can not physically have or get some type of service. How do you think they became rich & wealthy. Wealthy people dont throw away money. Now a dumb MOFO that aint never had shit before or came into some money they havent earned themselves may give until they are out of ca$h . A rich/wealthy person may shower a domme with ca$h if he is getting something in return like real time meetings . Im not rich by no means nor am i broke either but ill be damed if i tribute my Ca$h to a findomme . I have to get something in return ! For those who tribute FINDOMME'S Think about this anybody can set up an account to receive donations , amazon , green dot , wester union , paypal ect . You dont have a clue to who you are sending $ to. Do this instead : TRIBUTE TO THE children hospital , homeless shelter , help an elderly person out , pay it forward , cancer charity . Do something usefull with you ca$h fuck these grimy begging FINDOMME'S. Perhaps you should take the advice given above and instead of trying to set up an appointment with a pro, find a good cause from the list above and send it to them.

FieryOpal -> RE: Question for all Mistress (1/20/2015 8:29:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goldennectardrin No people you are not understanding what im saying! 1st let me state that i mean PRO DOMME FEMALES.. I will admit i said it wrong by saying all dom females ... What im saying is she IS NOT TURNING ME DOWN! I asking why is it so hard to get in contact and set up a appointment if they know that you are real and they have met you serval times before.. Alot of PRO DOMME FEMALES do this ... I can't speak for Pro-Dommes, but in general, if you have turned out to be a difficult client, then your (return) business will not be welcomed. Demanding Prima Donnas are often more trouble than they're worth. This isn't to say that this is how you act, but look at this way. A. Client A is always polite, considerate, accommodating, appreciative, and sticks to the BDSM menu being offered. He is a good or generous tipper. He is a dream client. B. Client B is easygoing and doesn't try to Top from the bottom, makes an effort to play the part of a submissive, or may actually be submissive and not merely a sub-fevered kinky-fetishy bottom. He tips well and has some social skills. He is a desirable client. C. Client C is predictable, sticks to his fetish/fantasy script, doesn't try to squeeze every last play minute he can (isn't a clock-watcher) out of the session, and is a fair to moderate tipper. He is an acceptable client. D. Client D thinks he is a clever negotiator and expects sexual contact (explicitly or implicitly). He treats the Pro-Domme like a glorified hooker, rarely compliments her, and constantly makes comparisons to other Domme-Tops. He is an undesirable client. E. Client E is a no-tipping tight-arse, haggles over every fee, and expects freebie acts included in his session. Or Client E complains a lot, acts demanding, and is hard to please, regardless of how well he tips. He is not only undesirable, but makes himself into a pariah. Now, why should a Pro-Domme fit you in her schedule unless you are either an A, B or C client? After trying out Client D or E, why would a service provider look forward to seeing this client again, unless she is hard-pressed? Ask yourself this, Would you want yourself for a client?

camille65 -> RE: Question for all Mistress (1/20/2015 8:32:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goldennectardrin Hey this open for all to discuss on the topic. I just wanted to hear why this go on from other people and what they been through. Im sure the right mistress will post the true reason this happens ! I have found a mistress to serve . I 95% will meet with Mistress Simone Noir of Miami , but i will stray away to try a new mistress out every now and then ! Im not tring to replace Mistress Simone Noir. Yeah you are right AURUMcaminus What im running into here is the same thing you would get with any other service industry. The really good ones have no need to advertise. Thats a so true statement ...... The true reason? That would be different for every pro Domme. They aren't robots with all the same automatic programming (and I don't mean that sarcastically, honest).

Gauge -> RE: Question for all Mistress (1/20/2015 9:29:51 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: goldennectardrin I have a question to ask all Mistress ! I have a question for all Mistress who read this post. People who this do not concern. Please leave the jokes and clown comments replies off.... You posted it on a public forum, all are free to answer. You might get some good answers from those that are not female dominants. quote: Question : Why is it that a Mistress that has seen you in the past before and know that you are a real client is so hard to schedule an session appointment with them again? Its not that the mistress DO NOT want to meet again . Its just how they operate. I REALLy DONT UNDERSTAND THIS.... Why haven't you asked them? Asking people on an Internet forum will only invite speculation as to their motives for such behavior. quote: I know this is a lifestyle , but aslo it is business at the same time at the end of the day Not at all. A small portion of folks can make a living doing this. There are actually people that practice this in their private lives and never take a dime. quote: None of the mistresses are doing sessions for free... Ive ran across serval Mistresses that I would like to meet or have seen in the past , but when u call them to set up a date to meet . They give you the "ole , only call when you are ready to meet , call me 2 - 3 hours before you want to meet thats enough time , i dont set appointment for future dates. Only call when get to town & you are ready to meet " So, you are complaining about the fact that they have rules or guidelines for booking appointments? Can you not figure out why they might have such rules or guidelines? Perhaps they got burnt too many times before? quote: WOW,,, WFT Are you Serious ? When i her that . I really get turned off by that or have a gutt feeling this Mistress may be a escort ... Or they could be a business person trying to make the most money in their day that they can. You say "escort" but they are providing a service to you, don't piss on what they do because they have rules to follow. quote: I as the "client" will give them my personal info ,prove that i am real , offer to give them conformation emails , Itinerary info ectt. I do this because i mostly travel places to play ! Im the type of guy that will call or email ahead of time and ask if the dates i choose are good dates for the mistress ,so i will not be wasting my time . Most times id say 75% of the time the mistress will email you / text you ON the date that you asked about. Asking did i make it to town and when would i like to set up an appointment ... WOW In my eyes thats very unprofessional . You could send them a DNA sample, a lock of hair, a shoe print, and a family tree all well in advance, but if they don't take appointments in advance then you are wasting their time... and yours. quote: By this time i havent heard back from you in the past days when i was making plans and the mistress just now responding back on the date i was inquiring about . Its too late ive made other plans or found another mistress.... Why cant the mistress be on the same page as the "Client" ? Why can't the client be on the same page as the Mistress? Correct me if I am wrong, but if you are looking for someone to order you around, use you, etc. I would think you would follow their rules. Color me shocked that when you do not follow their rules they don't want to book more appointments with you. quote: Why do you do sessions /Are you a real Mistress /Are you doing this just for the finance ? I dont understand this... That you don't understand much is fairly obvious. quote: Some Mistresses even have websites with a info page to fill out for booking a session and they still do & say the same ole shit.. This baffles me . Wow... they all have rules to follow. Who would have thought? quote: I pretty much now can read a profile , website or bio of a mistress and can tell if she is worthy of booking a session. I still get fooled from time to time. You have to communicate people . They are communicating. You simply are not listening. quote: Finding a mistress is hard enough ! The term you are looking for is Pro-Domme. You are not looking for a Mistress to own you, you are paying to play. quote: At first i thought it was just the Afroamerican Mistresses , but ive tried white and latin as well with the same outcome. What i found that works for me is . If a mistress have video clips of her work , website with real session review details , her website is simple but to the point , she will email you back and communicate about meeting ..... these are just my experience that turned out good for me Then you have solved your problem. Only look for those people with what you described. The ones with silly rules stating how they are to be contacted and how their guidelines for appointments work will only waste your time. Especially if you don't follow their guidelines and then get all pissed off when they don't session with you. quote: Another thing that bothers me is . Why would a mistress book a session with a client. Have them come to her place and she is still in a session with another client ? She invites you up when they done and you bump into her client coming out or see him leave.... Even Sometimes have you hanging arround in a parking lot / hotel , drive arround the meeting place , or wait in the loby . WOW WTF like people not watching , staff not watching . The client sticks out like a sore thumb . I refuse to do that anymore. Im not jumping through any hoops to meet . Im the client . I have the tribute in my pockets. I choose to tribute . I had a very bad experience 2012 with this type of foolishness. I booked a session called when i was there . She told me she was finishing up via text give her 15 minutes. Well we all know 15 minutes mean 30 to 45 minutes in this lifestyle. I drove arround like a fool . Off duty Police/security pulled up to me when i came back sitting in the car of the hotel parking lot... Long story made short. The meeting place was in a high crime area. In a city i am NOT from . The cop thought i was there delivering drugs or waiting on a working girl that i may have dropped off. He call a on duty cop they searched my rental car . Asked who i was there to see . Whats her name . So being in a fucking pickle .I said i was her to see a lady i met on a dating website here on business. I think it was a someone playing a joke by sending me to this hotel instead . They asked me to leave. The fucking mistress called me and texted me cursing me out, telling me to stop playing on her phone and wasting her time . She put me on her no show list . WOW REALLY ? This is the type of foolishness that goes on that people dont get to hear about.. Somehow, I suspect that there is more to this story. Not that I am interested in hearing it, I just think there has got to be more to it than that. You sound like you don't understand why, when you do not follow someone's rules, why that would upset someone. Considering the amount of people that professional dominants work with, I suspect that the problem is not so much theirs as it is yours. Following simple contact rules is a good screening process for those that these professionals might have difficulty with... quite smart actually. If you do not follow their rules, you have no right to be shocked that they don't want to session with you. You were in the wrong to start out, not them. You have yourself to blame for that.

MissKatya -> RE: Question for all Mistress (1/20/2015 12:11:57 PM)
quote: I can't speak for Pro-Dommes, but in general, if you have turned out to be a difficult client, then your (return) business will not be welcomed. Demanding Prima Donnas are often more trouble than they're worth. This isn't to say that this is how you act, but look at this way. I'm going to agree with you on this. I'm going to attempt to read his post again and comment in detail but the quick response is that if he is a pain in the ass session, then a Pro-Domme will stop seeing them. I have dismissed quite a few men who are just not worth my time and energy, even if our kinks are compatible. If I'm not enjoying myself in session, then it's pointless. Too many men have a mindset that $$$=control therefore they are entitled to behave poorly and are surprised when they quickly learn how wrong that assumption is.

LukeSilver -> RE: Question for all Mistress (2/4/2015 12:45:50 PM)
I have often had dominant females not show up or cancel on me on the day. I wasnt seeking findomes no money was involved or mentioned. they obviously were not sure chickened out or changed there mind. some business like psychologist or dentist fine people for not showing up for appointment etc. whilst this is a hedonistic life style, a lot of the time it feels sinful or wrong. thats not me saying it is but that part of me feels that way. It is completely reasonable to have a realistic expectation that someone will cancel. if people are doing it for a business then they cannot schedule people in advance and reject potential interest from other sources. hence why they may prefer on the day.

CynthiaWVirginia -> RE: Question for all Mistress (2/4/2015 1:21:33 PM)
quote: I know this is a lifestyle , but aslo it is business at the same time at the end of the day ..... None of the mistresses are doing sessions for free... With many, it's not a business. None of the people I know from half a dozen munch groups are charging money for sessions. All of the sessions I've done have been for free. (In a few more months I'll have been into this for 12 years.) quote: Why would a mistress book a session with a client. Have them come to her place and she is still in a session with another client ? I'm guessing that she is treating this as a business and expects you to wait in line like at a doctor's office, etc. If you don't like this or find this embarrassing, why not rent another room at that hotel and ask her to have your session in the room you paid for? Or sit in some nearby restaurant reading a newspaper while drinking coffee...and wait for her to phone your cell phone to tell you when it's your turn to come up to her room? When there's a problem, negotiate for a more workable option. Find one that doesn't endanger her clients by making them lurk in a sleazy motel's parking lot for hours. I can't think of any other suggestions to make.

MissKatya -> RE: Question for all Mistress (2/4/2015 3:00:10 PM)
quote: if people are doing it for a business then they cannot schedule people in advance and reject potential interest from other sources. Quick response but I have to completely disagree with this statement. Most Pro-Dommes I know prefer sessions scheduled in advance and rarely take same say appointments. They have a certain protocol that they maintain because they want to avoid no-shows. They also have various screening methods to weed out time wasters and wankers so the ratio of those who contact them and don't show up verses those that follow through are fairly low. Please note that I am speaking purely from a Pro-Domme perspective, which is what I believe the OP was discussing.

Dvr22999874 -> RE: Question for all Mistress (2/4/2015 3:12:05 PM)
Schedule the clients so there is a time lapse in between them (maybe a half hour or so) for the Mistress to rest, have a cup of coffee and maybe a shower or adjust her make-up. The second client then knows when to arrive and doesn't have to sit around like a bump on a log trying to look inconspicuous. Just because it's a business, doesn't mean it needs to be operated like the Ford production line, unless the Mistress is REALLY money-hungry.

Dvr22999874 -> RE: Question for all Mistress (2/4/2015 3:14:43 PM)
As Katya said, the Mistress soon learns the art of screening the wankers, drop-kicks, time-wasters and no-shows and usually will have them flagged in some way or another.........................and yes, I know some girls in the sex-industry who use these methods.

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