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profile advice - 1/24/2015 10:38:04 AM   
devildog24


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Status: offline 		can you please take a look, and tell me if this is a profile ritten that may attract a true lifestyle Mistress?

please don't be to harsh just looking for friendly critique
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RE: profile advice - 1/24/2015 11:36:03 AM   
camille65


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From: Austin Texas
Status: offline 		Hiyas devildog and welcome!

I'm not dominant but I took a look at your profile. Personally I think it is fine, with one very slight exception. I don't like photos of people where they've partially cropped someone else out, it is just something that annoys me and makes me wonder. I've no idea if that bothers other people though!



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RE: profile advice - 1/24/2015 12:01:25 PM   
devildog24


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Status: offline 		I just was trying to protect her privacy

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RE: profile advice - 1/24/2015 12:16:27 PM   
NookieNotes


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Status: offline 		I agree. Get pictures of yourself without other people, rather than using pics where you crop someone out. In fact, your pics are not flattering, and don't give me the impression that you take this seriously at all.

Silly faces with a Monster can?

I understand you are a joker-type. That's cool. but get some images of you being interesting and attractive to go with.

The rest seems mostly OK.

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RE: profile advice - 1/24/2015 12:26:26 PM   
camille65


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ORIGINAL: devildog24

I just was trying to protect her privacy


Oh I totally get that, I do. But it should be fairly easy for most people to get a good solo picture.


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RE: profile advice - 1/24/2015 12:44:26 PM   
GoddessManko


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From: Dante's Inferno
Status: offline 		I agree with what everyone else said but your profile in itself "lovable asshole"? Maybe you should elaborate on that rather than telling her you're gonna put up a fight. I don't know, I find the whole "I'm very Dominant outside of this" thing offputting because then it's like demanding we earn your submission otherwise you'll be more than eager to top from the bottom. Your profile seems to say the issue with the women in your past was that they were not necessarily kinky though Dominant and that's fine. What turns me up is when a man talks about what he loves about Dominant women and FLR rather than a list of requirements and suggestions he's gonna be taking "jabs". It's almost like some of the subs look for a reason to criticize a Domme and use the excuse "I'm a person first, remember?" But some enjoy a sub with an "out of this world" personality. I would just suggest you be mindful during your search to be as respectful as possible while still maintaining your authentic disposition. But to remember who you are addressing and trying to appeal to. Your pictures as well, very strange body language. I can't help but wonder why you picked those. The monster can one isn't as bad as the cropped one, but at least you didn't blur her out. *Shudders*

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RE: profile advice - 1/24/2015 1:10:42 PM   
PeonForHer


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Status: offline 		DD - for what it's worth - you come across as friendly, human and not someone who reduces himself to a vision of himself as a 'slave' in some fantasy world. Your profile has the necessary basic ingredients and, from what I hear from femdoms, that's actually somewhat rare. i have a good feeling about your chances. Good luck.

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RE: profile advice - 1/24/2015 2:17:57 PM   
FieryOpal


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From: Maryland
Status: offline 		If you're a Libra, then where is the romantic side of you? Libra males are reputed to be the most romantic lovers of the zodiac. They love to please their partners.

I would stress more the committed relationship aspect of what you seek, namely that you want your partner to be your best friend (which you do by reading between the lines, but don't come out and actually say).

You say you love being submissive, but what I'm reading is bedroom submissive or wanting to be some Domme's bitch. Nothing wrong with that, but this can translate out to "lazy receiving bottom." Perhaps less about yourself and more about what you have to offer as a companion.

ETA: I see you more as wanting to be treated like a devoted pet, and this is what I would emphasize, if you feel this to be true about your submissive nature.

< Message edited by FieryOpal -- 1/24/2015 2:21:06 PM >

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RE: profile advice - 1/24/2015 6:53:20 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		I do get the feeling from your profile that you would come across in real life the way you do on the profile.
And that's a huge plus.

My only caveat is about the jabs. That comes across as you wanting to be forced to submit. And frankly, most people don't want a sub who isn't there willingly. It gets tiring, and tiresome, to constantly have to argue just to get a second cup of coffee.

Beyond that, after a certain point, there is nothing lovable about an asshole. And that point will differ with everyone you meet.

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RE: profile advice - 2/1/2015 5:34:20 PM   
StrictlyADomina


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Status: offline 		I agree with the rest. There is probably a better option for a lead in photo than one with someone cropped out. It might cause me to wonder if he's slipping around or just to lazy to put up a better photo. Filling in your interest list will be helpful for someone looking at your profile to determine kink compatibility.

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