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Caring for your loved ones? - 7/14/2006 7:52:18 AM   
twicehappy


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Status: offline 		This thread is being started due to questions raised on another.

How many of you doms/dommes have made arrangements for your sub/slaves care upon your demise? How did you do this; what arrangements have been made?

How many of the subs /slaves out there who do not have some sort of arrangements in place worry about what would happen if their dominant were to predecease them?

Have any of you found yourselves in a situation where in you had lived with your partner for a length of time then upon their death found out you had no legal recourse and were forced from the home you helped work for?

How many of you have Power of Attorneys for medical care and decisions should your partner become ill? How many of you do not?

Has any of you found yourself in a situation where you could not have any say in a medical decision because the law granted you no rights due to the fact that for whatever reason you were not married to your partner?  



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RE: Caring for your loved ones? - 7/14/2006 8:01:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		Pinky is an attorney here on the board's.  I was just reading her article about this same thing yesterday and had asked her if I could post it elsewhere.

It is something that everyone needs to consider.  Everyone is going to die.  If in a relationship it is going to be devastating.

In our relationship we have a power of attorney.  Backed up by a will.  Though most are not as close as we are.
Those people are the ones who really need to try to get something going.  Only sad thing about it is, if both don't feel the same about one another one isn't going to want to go the distance to protect the other.
The consequences are sad I feel for all of those people already.

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RE: Caring for your loved ones? - 7/14/2006 8:22:04 AM   
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Status: offline 		What you say is so true and i am glad to hear you and your partner have covered yourselves in this regard, i hope to hear that more other have than have not.

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RE: Caring for your loved ones? - 7/14/2006 8:47:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think it unethical to make someone dependent on you-and not offer them a safety net.  And if you don't have means to provide that- you have no business in taking them on.

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RE: Caring for your loved ones? - 7/14/2006 8:49:28 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Caretakr

I think it unethical to make someone dependent on you-and not offer them a safety net.


Agreed, so what arrangements have you/would you make for and with your partner? 

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RE: Caring for your loved ones? - 7/14/2006 9:09:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		In my Houshold Manual, it states that I expect everyone to have a will in place, leaving their belongings to whomever they wish (unless we've decided to do a complete asset turnover). I also expect to be executor of my single slaves' estates. I also offer to be to be the executor of married slaves' estates, if they feel it would be accepted and appreciate by their loved ones.

I have not, at this time, made arrangements to pass ownership of anne to anyone on my death. she wouldn't serve just anyone and I don't treat her a mere property, so I'd be hesitant to pass ownership to someone else. However, it's a good thing to discuss; her last Mistress died tragically and, in a lot of ways, she's still working through that.

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RE: Caring for your loved ones? - 7/14/2006 9:12:30 AM   
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Status: offline 		If you have not yet read the thread that fully describes the conditions involved in inheriting me you may do so here;

http://www.collarchat.com/tm.asp?m=476471

It may give you insight as to how this was done, it does not involve me serving another except for by my choice while still protecting my interests.

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RE: Caring for your loved ones? - 7/14/2006 9:22:28 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: twicehappy

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ORIGINAL: Caretakr

I think it unethical to make someone dependent on you-and not offer them a safety net.


Agreed, so what arrangements have you/would you make for and with your partner? 


Well, if working in the business, some sort of stipend set aide into a trust fund.  (I'm not one that thinks labor should be free) And at least five thousand in the bank before they moved in, if it didn't work for some reason. Preferably more. If I were sure of the devotion and loyalty, life insurance, payable to the slave, and a 401 k-and we can't forget health insurance.

I take this pretty seriously. If you lack a stable living situation,  don't even think about doing 24/7. It's not going to work.

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RE: Caring for your loved ones? - 7/14/2006 9:26:35 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Caretakr

I take this pretty seriously. If you lack a stable living situation,  don't even think about doing 24/7. It's not going to work.


I absolutely agree with you here. Too many see it as a way out of an unhappy situation.

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RE: Caring for your loved ones? - 7/14/2006 9:34:02 AM   
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How many of the subs /slaves out there who do not have some sort of arrangements in place worry about what would happen if their dominant were to predecease them?

I have my own apartment, my own job, my own car, my own money, etc. If something were to happen to Master, I would still have all this. In addition to what I have stated here, Master has also had me listed as beneficiary on his life insurance. Master owns his own house,however, another lives there with him and is listed as owner also. If something were to happen to Master, I would inherit his portion of the house, something which I have argued against to no avail
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  How many of you have Power of Attorneys for medical care and decisions should your partner become ill? How many of you do not?


I do not have PoA for medical care over Master. That is left in the hands of another. However, this was something which I stressed that I did not want from the beginning.

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