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TimeEnough4Love -> Profile check, please!! (2/7/2015 10:21:53 AM)
Hi, all! I know this is a long profile, but I'd appreciate any opinions. IMHO, it might be not kinky enough for here, def not enough for FL, and way too kinky for Match, OKC, etc. I'm not a munch or public play person at all, since I'm totally private about this part of my life and not really a "play" person anyway. I feel a little bit between a rock and a hard place, especially since I can't post a photo. Anyway, I feel like Collar is my best shot for finding the right person for me. Tell me what you think!!!

SinFix -> RE: Profile check, please!! (2/7/2015 10:54:53 AM)
Omg... One of the best profiles I have read in a while.. I think it is great for what you are looking for in this life :-)

GoddessManko -> RE: Profile check, please!! (2/7/2015 11:00:33 AM)
Wonderful profile and I wish you best of luck! There are a couple of older Lifestyle Dominants that I hope give you a gander! Also welcome to the forums!

TimeEnough4Love -> RE: Profile check, please!! (2/7/2015 11:51:02 AM)
Thanks, Goddess M and Sin!! I know mine isn't the average profile, so I'm keeping my fingers crossed! By the way, Goddess, I imagine you've probably never heard this response to your profile before: "Nice cheese plate!!"

GoddessManko -> RE: Profile check, please!! (2/7/2015 11:56:13 AM)
LOL, that is indeed a unique compliment, it's well received. [;)] ETA; I reread your profile all the way through and my only critique would be not to put a requirement in a Domme as far as contact. For me, I would pull back if I saw that on a sub's profile. Not saying you intended it that way but it is a demand and typically something I would see on a Dominant's profile, not a submissive. Though I understand the filter, I think a Domme reaching out would fare better to write logically and make remarks about your profile therein or herself and her personal life, than to be demanded to read a profile all the way through. We get hundreds of emails typically so skimming is usually the gist of it though yours was a joy to read. Some Dommes actually believe reaching out to subs violates the "Leather Code" to give you a heads up so if one reaches out then indeed engage if you seem to have common interest, whether it is from reading her profile or her introductory letter. But I encourage you to be the one to be proactive and reach out. Here all male subs are on equal footing until there is reason for interest/intent. There are many professionals like yourself though their profile is indeed not as well written. Best of luck!

LiveSpark -> RE: Profile check, please!! (2/7/2015 12:50:27 PM)
Fantastic profile. The only thing I would change is "..outwardly normal relationship" to "...outwardly vanilla relationship". Aside from that looks good. Good luck. [:)]

TimeEnough4Love -> RE: Profile check, please!! (2/7/2015 1:12:28 PM)
Thank you both, Goddess Manko and LiveSpark! The edits have been made. Goddess, the only reason I put in the contact requirement was that as soon as I posted the profile, i received messages from pro dommes of all ages who had clearly not read the profile. I figured this was a way to filter those out. However, point well taken. I'm so glad I posted here. So far, everyone has been so nice and helpful. I'm on Reddit for a hobby of mine, and the level of newbie flaming is ridiculous!!!!

GoddessManko -> RE: Profile check, please!! (2/7/2015 1:28:44 PM)
You can outline at the top of the profile that ProDommes and FinDommes will be immediately ignored, though it sounds like the solicitation is from the latter. Pros have their hands full as is typically. And no problem! I gathered that was the intention but it can be seen as a bit entitled even with that intent. Lifestyle Dommes usually outline what they are on their profile anyway so if you read it and there's no indication ignore. We get solicitations for skype too ergo the outline, last guy to ask me for mine was a "cardiologist" eye roll. I told him "yahoo or bust". And that was that.

ExiledTyrant -> RE: Profile check, please!! (2/7/2015 5:26:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TimeEnough4Love Hi, all! I know this is a long profile, but I'd appreciate any opinions. IMHO, it might be not kinky enough for here, def not enough for FL, and way too kinky for Match, OKC, etc. I'm not a munch or public play person at all, since I'm totally private about this part of my life and not really a "play" person anyway. I feel a little bit between a rock and a hard place, especially since I can't post a photo. Anyway, I feel like Collar is my best shot for finding the right person for me. Tell me what you think!!! First, you do have a great profile. Second, I take issue with only one thing; you are far too flexible. I would absolutely love you to find the relationship you are looking for because my compersion has no boundaries. I feel that you are going to encounter a lot of false starts with your flexibility. You need to make a laundry list of the "No fucking way" stuff to avoid the false starts. From a vanilla perspective, you paint a good picture, but it is always our idiosyncrasies, the under lying nature of who we are and the fulfillment we need (in this case "Kink"), that will make or break our relationship. WIITWD is attractive because we tend to put our inner monsters on parade. That level of honesty is quite desirable because the things that could break a vanilla relationship are upfront and in the open, we just have to learn latter how they deal with dirty socks is something we can cope with. So your flexibility is admirable, though I'd rather see you "define" yourself more and succeed rather than remain amiable and fail at numerous false starts. I've been a member of this site since it went live and I've met some wonderful people, and I've met some awful people, but it wasn't until recently that I really defined who I am, drew my lines, and found my girl. Jus sayin

GoddessManko -> RE: Profile check, please!! (2/7/2015 5:54:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ExiledTyrant First, you do have a great profile. Second, I take issue with only one thing; you are far too flexible. I would absolutely love you to find the relationship you are looking for because my compersion has no boundaries. I feel that you are going to encounter a lot of false starts with your flexibility. You need to make a laundry list of the "No fucking way" stuff to avoid the false starts. From a vanilla perspective, you paint a good picture, but it is always our idiosyncrasies, the under lying nature of who we are and the fulfillment we need (in this case "Kink"), that will make or break our relationship. WIITWD is attractive because we tend to put our inner monsters on parade. That level of honesty is quite desirable because the things that could break a vanilla relationship are upfront and in the open, we just have to learn latter how they deal with dirty socks is something we can cope with. So your flexibility is admirable, though I'd rather see you "define" yourself more and succeed rather than remain amiable and fail at numerous false starts. I've been a member of this site since it went live and I've met some wonderful people, and I've met some awful people, but it wasn't until recently that I really defined who I am, drew my lines, and found my girl. Jus sayin This exactly. You do not seem like a masochist, more seeking an FLR. I am different from Exiled though, my sadism is tough to reel in without a good outlet. I need at least SOME of the less affectionate kinks. My boy is pliable but he's so agreeable it's tough for me to bring myself to be truly sadistic with him. He has asked me why, it just is. However I have hung 9 lb weights from another sub's balls. You need to know limits and what kinks you are never going to explore in theory alone, what soft limits you may have and the absolute hard limits. I disagree with Exiled to some degree, you mentioned 3 kinks you'd like to incorporate in your relationship of the thousand out there. But I suppose it's a matter of perspective. I can't imagine much wiggle room outside those three from my experience.

veghead -> RE: Profile check, please!! (2/7/2015 6:05:07 PM)
I think writing too much leaves nothing to the imagination... and no option to just ad lib with some imperfect soul that almost meets requirements. Boil it down a little and it'll be better, imo. You write and think beautifully, btw. Go get her tiger!

camille65 -> RE: Profile check, please!! (2/7/2015 6:12:51 PM)
Count me in as one that thought it was a well done profile. I didn't think it was too long at all.

ExiledTyrant -> RE: Profile check, please!! (2/7/2015 6:14:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: veghead I think writing too much leaves nothing to the imagination... and no option to just ad lib with some imperfect soul that almost meets requirements. Boil it down a little and it'll be better, imo. You write and think beautifully, btw. Go get her tiger! I don't think he is looking for a hit and run. Jus sayin

slvemike4u -> RE: Profile check, please!! (2/7/2015 6:30:38 PM)
Add me to the list of folks saying it's a great profile. I didn't think it was too long at all. Best of luck in your search,hope you find what you're looking for.[:)]

TimeEnough4Love -> RE: Profile check, please!! (2/16/2015 9:52:14 PM)
I realized that I should probably come on here and thank everyone for their support and helpful comments, as I have hidden my profile since I originally posted this topic. I ended up getting responses from several dominant women, so I felt that I should hide for a while and pay appropriate attention and respect to those who had taken the time and effort to get in contact and who wanted to know more about me. And of course, I was just as eager to get to know them. Naturally, this is a very uncertain endeavor. That being said, I have been corresponding with one person in particular and am feeling hopeful. Thank you all.

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