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Crashed - 2/19/2015 3:01:05 PM

subchicklette

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First off i want to say i've been involved in the lifestyle for over 15 years. i've had sessions of many different types/styles, but something happened this morning i have never experienced before.

Last night i had a very intense session with my current Dom.. i was fine last night, but crashed hard today. He's going to come by this evening just for some cuddles... anything else i can do? i've never crashed this hard after a session. He feels bad.. but i was fine last night when we parted, slept like a baby last night. It hit me about 9 or so this morning. i found a few things that help.. chocolate for one... LOL

Any suggestions to get past this crash?

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RE: Crashed - 2/19/2015 3:05:37 PM

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Sounds like you're on the right track. Cuddles, chocolate, and whatever makes you happy.

Aftercare needs are different for each individual, so you're the one person who can answer this question.

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RE: Crashed - 2/19/2015 3:33:06 PM

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Chocolate cures many ills.
You might also try a nice hot shower or bath

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RE: Crashed - 2/19/2015 3:48:50 PM

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Definitely a soaking bath. If he could bring lavendar salts and chamomile tea he'd be AMAZING. And honestly just having your hair stroked can be really soothing.

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RE: Crashed - 2/19/2015 4:05:49 PM

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Cuddles, encouraging, comforting words, telling him how I feel and a nice massage works for me. If it's cold enough for a fire in the fireplace, we'll lay on a comforter in front of the fireplace and he gives fantastic massages. Chocolates or sweets of any kind don't do it for me, I'm not a sweet eater. Whatever is comforting to you.

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RE: Crashed - 2/19/2015 5:38:03 PM

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I'm looking forward to the cuddles this evening... i've calmed down substantially. I think after the cuddles this evening i'll be back to normal.

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RE: Crashed - 2/19/2015 8:57:06 PM

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in situations like this, i think it is very helpful to be with someone who loves and cares for you. in my humble experience, such feelings either arise from a suppressed guilt or shame of your nightly activities, or a feeling of emptiness after you are forced to return to reality (nothing new here, everyone knows sub drop). i have found submissives really like the proximity of someone who can assure them that they are precious and loved, they are not dirty or of loose morals. it does help best to have your dom with you, since he would understand the context best. but sometimes that is not practical. try to substitute with a family member you might be close to or even your best friend for company. it is really nice that you dom understood and he shall be with you afterwards - that speaks of a good man underneath. all the best to you, and hope you keep smiling bright.

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RE: Crashed - 2/20/2015 12:27:45 AM

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Talk to your friends. Sometimes it is easy to get too stuck in a head space, and being vanilla for a few hours snaps you out of it.

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RE: Crashed - 2/20/2015 6:02:55 AM

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I agree with everyone else, and I am one to crash hard as well. I find light movies help, too. Cartoons (the old style) or a funny Disney one helps. I also color (I have little tendencies) and that helps tremendously.

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