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NookieNotes -> RE: Advice needed on profiles (2/23/2015 6:00:10 AM)
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~FR~
Being a third and being a third wheel are two different things.
You're posting the ads like you are looking for hired help, not a real person with feelings, desires, and needs of her own.
You are admitting this is an experiment. That does not sound like a relationship I would want to get into, ever. Yes, all relationships are experiments in many ways, but the use of that word, especially combined with your lack of experience (and not really bi, and your man wanting things from the girl that you can't provide), make it all come together as a not very attractive proposition.
Now, I'll be clear, I don't generally look on CS for unicorns. I have found them mostly through CL and meeting them in person at local events. This is what I write (or a variation) when I post ads:
quote:
I am looking for a submissive female for long-term play and potentially more.
Me:
41yo, 5 foot 6 inches, 36C bust/29 inch waist/41 inch hips, curvy (145#, about a woman's size 8), attractive. Dark hair, dark eyes, fair skin.
I am well-experienced in D/s, and active locally. I have taught and written books on FemDom, BDSM, and I'm working on my next book about training.
I am super-smart and interested in your mind as much as your body. I'm good at sex and sensuality and believe there is more to a successful encounter than a grab for the genitals. Although I play both sides of the dominance/submission game, you will be submissive, and wanting to revel in the deep trust and affection that goes along with offering another your mind, heart, and body.
We'll take it slow. I'm not interested in collaring you within the week, or beating you black and blue on our first meeting (if ever). I am very into the mental aspects of D/s, and I am the primary leader. I will take your mind for a journey of sexual freedom, self-love, and finding yourself in trust and adoration for your domme.
You:
Clean, attractive, engaging, and wanting to be led. Different body types are considered. The spark is the key. I am moderately active, so being able to keep up (and possibly enjoying some woodland scenes) is important.
You enjoy courtship and being treated like a woman, being told you are a good girl, and beautiful, while sparring intellectually, and letting your hair down for fun.
You enjoy spending time with women and men, and feeling that rush of sexual energy running through you all day long.
You get hot texting with your partner to create the sexual tension leading to an intense evening together.
You realize that creating a red hot D/s relationship is often not simple, but it should feel easy, fun and sexy, and the rewards are beyond most people's wildest imaginations.
I also have a male submissive/switch/lover.
He:
Submissive to her, dominant towards other women.
46yo, 5 foot 10 inches, in shape (swimmer/runner's body - 167#), and good-looking in a boy-next-door sort of way. Blond/ginger with blue eyes, fair skin.
You may be a lesbian or not interested in him. That's possible for the right candidate. Although we would love a completely bisexual girl (who finds him attractive), there need not be contact between he and you. There would need to be comfort in nakedness and side-by-side serving, with the understanding that no negotiated boundaries would ever be crossed.
Note:
Consent is critical. As is communication. And affection.
When writing, please introduce yourself, send a photo, and tell me exactly what caught your interest in this post.
If you write without ANY of these three things, I will ask you ONCE. After that, you will be ignored. I prefer someone with an attention to detail and a willingness to perform.
Thank you for reading, and best of luck in fulfilling your fantasies!
Not, I speak directly to her. I tell her WHO I am looking for, not what. I give her ideas of what to expect, and what her role may be with my boy. She knows that she will be told how amazing she is, and that she will be courted. She knows her intellect and affection will be valued.
I post this here because when I have this up, I constantly get feedback on how well-written my ad is, and how it says exactly what I'm looking for.
Hope this helps.
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